Feeling sorry for yourself?

blunomore

blunomore

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We purchased something together with someone else and due to financial constraints, she cannot pay anymore and we had to take over full payment or risk losing the asset. We pay both our and her installments promptly every month.

I have asked nicely, begged and pleaded with her to give me the ownership documents but alas, nothing.

The latest in a line of excuses is that she was very, very busy at work, a family member got ill and it all became too much for her ... so she "collapsed with fatigue and anxiety". Please! :rolleyes:

So ...... what if we were the ones that 'collapsed' at the end of the month when payment is due? Don't we all have problems???? We do not even discuss our issues with her.... all we asked were the documents, but that she cannot even produce.

I really dislike when someone lists their personal problems as reasons for slackness and lack of performance. We all have lives, jobs, issues and dramas, yet it seems to only affect some folks' performance !

Thanks for listening :)
 
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What was it you bought together?

Should you not pay out for all months the person paid in if you want ownership?

Details bluno details :)
 
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blunomore said:
We purchased something together with someone else and due to financial constraints, she cannot pay anymore and we had to take over full payment or risk losing the asset. We pay both our and her installments promptly every month.

I have asked nicely, begged and pleaded with her to give me the ownership documents but alas, nothing.

The latest in a line of excuses is that she was very, very busy at work, a family member got ill and it all became too much for her ... so he "collapsed with fatigue and anxiety". Please! :rolleyes:

So ...... what if we were the ones that 'collapsed' at the end of the month when payment is due? Don't we all have problems???? We do not even discuss our issues with her.... all we asked were the documents, but that she cannot even produce.

I really dislike when someone lists their personal problems as reasons for slackness and lack of performance. We all have lives, jobs, issues and dramas, yet it seems to only affect some folks' performance !

Thanks for listening :)
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Can you not offer to buy her out? You have the money and are making the full payments anyway. Sounds like they could do with the cash anyway.

Everyone wins.

You're a lawyer - surely you made sure there was provision for this in the contract you signed with them?
 
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blunomore said:
We purchased something together with someone else and due to financial constraints, she cannot pay anymore and we had to take over full payment or risk losing the asset. We pay both our and her installments promptly every month.

I have asked nicely, begged and pleaded with her to give me the ownership documents but alas, nothing.

The latest in a line of excuses is that she was very, very busy at work, a family member got ill and it all became too much for her ... so he "collapsed with fatigue and anxiety". Please! :rolleyes:

So ...... what if we were the ones that 'collapsed' at the end of the month when payment is due? Don't we all have problems???? We do not even discuss our issues with her.... all we asked were the documents, but that she cannot even produce.

I really dislike when someone lists their personal problems as reasons for slackness and lack of performance. We all have lives, jobs, issues and dramas, yet it seems to only affect some folks' performance !

Thanks for listening :)
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You should have thought of this before and got every outcome in writing. Don't you always give us this advce? ;)
 
Find some way to implicate her, preferably with connection to the asset.

I once had that done, and the 'owner' showed up at my doorstep with the documents the next day...
 
I remember my brother co-owning a rubber duck with a friend. It worked out great when they wanted to go to the dam together - but as a whole it was a EPIC FAILURE
 
Blu, since you studied law ... didn't you learn that co-ownerships, according to the Romans, is the mother of all disputes.
 
BrendanD said:
Can you not offer to buy her out? You have the money and are making the full payments anyway. Sounds like they could do with the cash anyway.

Everyone wins.
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That is exactly what we agreed upon. For now, we make double payments every month (ours and theirs) and we will also refund them the payments they made thus far in return for us to have 100% ownership of the asset.

They are just not producing the documents as requested.

Dolby said:
You should have thought of this before and got every outcome in writing. Don't you always give us this advce? ;)
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Aah, but surely you know that the cobbler's children run barefoot ? :D

Pitbull said:
You co-purchased an asset ?

/Fail
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Gratuitous violence - THAT is a fail :)

Balstrome said:
Give blu a break, she an angel I think.
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Dunno about that ... we humans all have a light side and a dark side and believe me, my dark side is prominent !

Picard said:
Blu, since you studied law ... didn't you learn that co-ownerships, according to the Romans, is the mother of all disputes.
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Not to mention doing business with friends or family. I keep telling Mr Blu that and every time it turns out to be true.
 
blunomore said:
That is exactly what we agreed upon. For now, we make double payments every month (ours and theirs) and we will also refund them the payments they made thus far in return for us to have 100% ownership of the asset.

They are just not producing the documents as requested.



Aah, but surely you know that the cobbler's children run barefoot ? :D



Gratuitous violence - THAT is a fail :)



Dunno about that ... we humans all have a light side and a dark side and believe me, my dark side is prominent !



Not to mention doing business with friends or family. I keep telling Mr Blu that and every time it turns out to be true.
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For someone of your Superior intellect..... That was pretty stupid ;)
But I'll leave it at that.
 
blunomore said:
Trying to Devill, but we need certain original documents which she has in her possession ... and she is apparently too 'fatigued' to hand them over :D
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Then take her to court. Or simply get a court order for her to hand it over ;)
 
If she is in breach of contract threaten legal action to get the documents. This is no longer about friends or family but business.
 
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