First Date Tips

[Safferbeauty]

As have said before, meet a public area and let a friend know what is going on in case something bad has happened. I have met 2 people online and its pretty cool although the one I don't talk to anymore but the other one is my best friend.....

 

[Nick333]

Guys expect girls who expose themselves online to be ready for a bit of rough and tumble.Its just the nature of the beast that is the internet.
The idea is to turn the tables on a randy suitor and keep him on a leash.Maybe he's friend or brother is the type of guy you're really looking for and you might eventually get an into.

Besides being a gross generalisation it's just not true.

This^^. Or a person looking for a serious relationship online sounds desperate to me.

Well, I think most people under the age of 35 would probably see it differently. Meeting people online gives you the opportunity to meet people you might never meet otherwise.

 

[Athol]

Was just pointing out that pretence is a possibility in a face-to-face situation as well and not just characteristic of on-line interaction and agree that it is more easy to detect in the former situation. Also agree totally with you about all sorts of issues involved in terms of attraction. Written word is but one, and for me, having decided to go the online dating route, an important one. And yes, I am quite keen on order and predictablility... although my wife (who I did meet through on-line dating) is decidedly quirky and unpredictable which came through in her writing and which was an initial attraction! My general point is that I simply would not have met her had I stayed within the confines of my small social group and not ventured out onto the Net. As mentioned in a previous post much communication took place prior to us actually meeting and it was then a case of all the other issues falling into place which, thankfully, they did!

 

[Polymathic]

This old school way has proven to be quite effective - in my experience at least

These days the old school ways are a last resort, if a guy cannot find a girl and is pushing the limits the aunties start organizing.
BTW I don't like online dating because I only can get girls in the same attractiveness level as me and I am a reacher

 

[Nick333]

Guys expect girls who expose themselves online to be ready for a bit of rough and tumble.Its just the nature of the beast that is the internet.
The idea is to turn the tables on a randy suitor and keep him on a leash.Maybe he's friend or brother is the type of guy you're really looking for and you might eventually get an into.

These days the old school ways are a last resort, if a guy cannot find a girl and is pushing the limits the aunties start organizing.
BTW I don't like online dating because I only can get girls in the same attractiveness level as me and I am a reacher

Never mind mate, there is hope:

 

[lived666]

What dating tips do you have. Especially on a first date. I've gone on a couple of dates recently where I met guys from online sites but it turns out they are mostly interested in one thing.

I'd like to hear from women (yes...I know long shot) how do you spot these men before the time and from men...do you always have one particular goal in mind?

Online dating = prowling grounds

Also any other tips regarding dating in general..the do's and donts.

so you've gone on a forum that is probably 90% male, saying you are single, available and looking!!.
Not sure if you are a womunz or gay, but either way you should have a zillion pms.

 

[Dolby]

I've got a relationship question and since it's on topic, I may as well ask here. I seem to be in the minority here - so interested in others opinions :

If you're possibly interested in a girl but there's a guy or two hovering around ... are you supposed to 'fight' and compete? More aggressive with the perusing? Or does it make you simply back away?

I back off ... I'm told it's the wrong thing to do

 

[Carol35]

Imo, there is nothing wrong with getting laid on the first date as long as he is..

not morbidly obese, horrendously ugly or have some sort of freakish "anomaly" with his body...

Btw, Im curious to know how many of you guys would consider a second date with a woman who put out on the first date that you met online?

 

[AvatarS]

What dating tips do you have. Especially on a first date. I've gone on a couple of dates recently where I met guys from online sites but it turns out they are mostly interested in one thing.

I'd like to hear from women (yes...I know long shot) how do you spot these men before the time and from men...do you always have one particular goal in mind?

Online dating = prowling grounds

Also any other tips regarding dating in general..the do's and donts.

Weighing in as one of the few women on the forum
Not going to go in to the different tracks this thread has gone down...

Can't say I've explored the internet dating thing myself, so not sure how to address it from that side. But don't those profile options allow you to list whether you are looking for hook-ups, friendships, short-term, long-term, etc? That would be one way...

Or tell them before you meet them (I assume that there is some communication) that you are not interested in the one thing upfront or anytime soon, so they shouldn't waste your time if that's what they're looking for (that should also keep them from wasting your time with a few dates with that end goal).

If you're not sure about the guy, do as others have said and do the coffee thing first. If it's going really well, coffee can turn into dinner. If it's not successful, plead other dinner plans and make your move.

And for the rest... I don't think there are any do's and don'ts... Just do whatever works for you.

 

[Nick333]

I've got a relationship question and since it's on topic, I may as well ask here. I seem to be in the minority here - so interested in others opinions :

If you're possibly interested in a girl but there's a guy or two hovering around ... are you supposed to 'fight' and compete? More aggressive with the perusing? Or does it make you simply back away?

I back off ... I'm told it's the wrong thing to do

It's not wrong. If you're going to approach a woman surrounded by guys though, acknowledge the guys too. Show a little respect.

 

[Nick333]

Imo, there is nothing wrong with getting laid on the first date as long as he is..



Btw, Im curious to know how many of you guys would consider a second date with a woman who put out on the first date that you met online?

I wouldn't hold a lack of resitence to my charms against a lady.

 

[Dolby]

It's not wrong. If you're going to approach a woman surrounded by guys though, acknowledge the guys too. Show a little respect.

I didn't mean physically surrounded ... I mean in a 'friend' or two in the picture.

 

[Dr3xus]

metaphorically show some respect

 

[Nick333]

I didn't mean physically surrounded ... I mean in a 'friend' or two in the picture.

Same principle applies. Just act on the assumption they are just her friend. If anyone gets aggressive its a score for team Dolby. Apologise and say you didnt realise they were in a relationship. They look like a jealous douche and you look that much cooler by comparison.

 

[I.am.Sam]

I've got a relationship question and since it's on topic, I may as well ask here. I seem to be in the minority here - so interested in others opinions :

If you're possibly interested in a girl but there's a guy or two hovering around ... are you supposed to 'fight' and compete? More aggressive with the perusing? Or does it make you simply back away?

I back off ... I'm told it's the wrong thing to do

It's not wrong. If you're going to approach a woman surrounded by guys though, acknowledge the guys too. Show a little respect.

this^

just make sure 1st they not dating or anything ..but some guys dont bother

iv seen alot of guys laugh it off but not all will be the same

and if she is with guys like nick says respect them ...make friends with them as well