Flat share

Good luck to the OP; good flatmates are hard to find.

I took someone in purely to help him out; he not only took over my flat - tried to take over my life by re-arranging stuff, not even letting me cook in my own kitchen, not letting me use my own washing machine (which is less that a year old). Now it's a slow fight getting back those boundaries that was crossed.

The cooking issue is because he's vegetarian and as much I respect that, I can't do that because I have a fast metabolism and even eating plant-based protein isn't enough to maintain my weight.

Where the washing machine is concerned, yes I'm paranoid because it's a geeky electronic fully automatic doody and besides, he's wasteful - uses too much washing powder in the machine or washes small loads on a full cycle.

He also has this annoying habit of leaving the iron on when he gets a phone call, and these calls can last for up to an hour.

I could go on and on but all I want to say is that if you're ready to put up with someone's annoying habit then you can go ahead and get a flatmate.

PS: All these things happened despite me laying down the rules. The worst that happened is him putting on my clothes and shoes when I wasn't home :mad:
 
VernD said:
Good luck to the OP; good flatmates are hard to find.

I took someone in purely to help him out; he not only took over my flat - tried to take over my life by re-arranging stuff, not even letting me cook in my own kitchen, not letting me use my own washing machine (which is less that a year old). Now it's a slow fight getting back those boundaries that was crossed.

The cooking issue is because he's vegetarian and as much I respect that, I can't do that because I have a fast metabolism and even eating plant-based protein isn't enough to maintain my weight.

Where the washing machine is concerned, yes I'm paranoid because it's a geeky electronic fully automatic doody and besides, he's wasteful - uses too much washing powder in the machine or washes small loads on a full cycle.

He also has this annoying habit of leaving the iron on when he gets a phone call, and these calls can last for up to an hour.

I could go on and on but all I want to say is that if you're ready to put up with someone's annoying habit then you can go ahead and get a flatmate.

PS: All these things happened despite me laying down the rules. The worst that happened is him putting on my clothes and shoes when I wasn't home :mad:
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Dude, grow some balls...this person is walking all over you. You need to lay down the law, make them understand that living together is tit-for-tat. He can't abuse the relationship in that way. If all else fails, try beating him at his own game. Disrespect his privacy, put a chop under his pillow with a note "just saying...", eat his luxuries, just make life generally unpleasant for him so that he can understand how unpleasant things are for you and then talk to him about it. After that, he will either move out or come to an understanding with you.
 
Make sure you two get along.

Luckily the flat mate I had, we were mates at school and he could cook and he was pretty neat and tidy. So it wasn't too bad.

He just talks sooo much random crud! - That is what drove me around the bend.
 
Thanks for the info guys. I've decided that I am going to get a flat mate, it will be a good experience (I hope).
 
VernD said:
Good luck to the OP; good flatmates are hard to find.

I took someone in purely to help him out; he not only took over my flat - tried to take over my life by re-arranging stuff, not even letting me cook in my own kitchen, not letting me use my own washing machine (which is less that a year old). Now it's a slow fight getting back those boundaries that was crossed.

The cooking issue is because he's vegetarian and as much I respect that, I can't do that because I have a fast metabolism and even eating plant-based protein isn't enough to maintain my weight.

Where the washing machine is concerned, yes I'm paranoid because it's a geeky electronic fully automatic doody and besides, he's wasteful - uses too much washing powder in the machine or washes small loads on a full cycle.

He also has this annoying habit of leaving the iron on when he gets a phone call, and these calls can last for up to an hour.

I could go on and on but all I want to say is that if you're ready to put up with someone's annoying habit then you can go ahead and get a flatmate.

PS: All these things happened despite me laying down the rules. The worst that happened is him putting on my clothes and shoes when I wasn't home :mad:
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:wtf: Why have you not kicked him out?!
 
Devill said:
:wtf: Why have you not kicked him out?!
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That's the question all my friends have asked.

I have a heart dude; can't kick someone out on the street.

I've managed to contain him to his room now - my room is off-limits,especially after the incident of him putting on my clothes and shoes. When he tries to have a conversation with me while I'm studying, I just ignore him because he's like a troll - thrives on the attention. He's under strict instruction to go to his room after he is done in the common areas, and not to bother me when I'm studying.

He's on holiday at the moment so he's not there - it's absolute bliss having the place to myself. A surprise is waiting for him when he gets back though - I've decided that he's got to be out by the end of this year.
 
hawker said:
Make sure you two get along.

Luckily the flat mate I had, we were mates at school and he could cook and he was pretty neat and tidy. So it wasn't too bad.

He just talks sooo much random crud! - That is what drove me around the bend.
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Sounds pretty much like my flatmate plus all that other crap; cooks and cleans nicely too because he's a qualified chef and he's studying Hotel and Catering Management so whatever he learns gets applied at home.

If it weren't for his complete lunacy then I'd still put up with him but he's got to go.
 
house mate is awesome pays 60% of my bond 18 month lease lock down before he gets married.. we split the food bill share the fridge, pays DSTV, i pay internet, he is a cleanliness freak.. he is annoyed that the windows are dirty at the moment.. #sigh
 
I'm sharing with a female in a 2 bedroom flat. She's very easy going, a neat freak and the flat is hers. I'm sort of a boring type of dude and I clean after myself too so living together is good. I can tell she would have preferred it better if I socialized with her more, I usually go straight to my room, shut the door and get lost in the world wide web. I've lived with her for about 15 months now. At first we tried cooking for each other but it didn't work. I'm very bad at cooking so we decided that each person cook for himself/herself, works better that way I think. She has a boyfriend who comes to pay her a visit like once every 3 days on average. It's all good though, I'm usually in my room while they are in the living room.
 
ShaunyCT said:
Make sure the you don't find the prospective flatmate attractive.... flat may get too crowded in 9 months.
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LoL. I'll try to avoid that situation.

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Finally!

OK, so I finally found someone I think is worthy of sharing my flat with me...I know it's taken a while but I was on a the fence about this for quite some time before I decided to take the plunge.

I'd like to know if you guys have some tips for flat sharing and general house rules.

The flat mate will be paying a monthly rental and provide a 1 month security deposit. We will split electricity, all cleaning stuff (cleaning products and a domestic worker who comes once a week) and basic foods like milk, bread, fruit, salt, eggs, margarine, coffee, tea, etc. He eats a lot of take out and I prefer cooked meals, so not sure how the cooking situation will work. We also have to work out who does the dishes and when it gets done. How do you suggest we do this? I want to put as much on paper in written agreement as possible, so that we're both clear on how things work. This will make it easy for us to sort out most conflicts.
 
KaMoS said:
OK, so I finally found someone I think is worthy of sharing my flat with me...I know it's taken a while but I was on a the fence about this for quite some time before I decided to take the plunge.

I'd like to know if you guys have some tips for flat sharing and general house rules.

The flat mate will be paying a monthly rental and provide a 1 month security deposit. We will split electricity, all cleaning stuff (cleaning products and a domestic worker who comes once a week) and basic foods like milk, bread, fruit, salt, eggs, margarine, coffee, tea, etc. He eats a lot of take out and I prefer cooked meals, so not sure how the cooking situation will work. We also have to work out who does the dishes and when it gets done. How do you suggest we do this? I want to put as much on paper in written agreement as possible, so that we're both clear on how things work. This will make it easy for us to sort out most conflicts.
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Congrats!

1st mistake you have made already: sharing food groceries!

The only thing you should share is the rent, electricity & cleaning bill. Everything else is a no-go.
 
ice_cubes said:
Congrats!

1st mistake you have made already: sharing food groceries!

The only thing you should share is the rent, electricity & cleaning bill. Everything else is a no-go.
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Me and my 3 flatmates share certain food groceries and cook dinner together. 6 months and no problems. It can work, just depends on what kind of people you are.
We even do shopping together.
 
Good luck, from my experience lay down the ground rules early. If the guys a party animal and you're not (or vice versa) make sure either of you are considerate to the other when it comes to people coming over etc.
 
Put ads for post-grad students at the science labs of the university. In my experience living in a student commune, they are the easiest to live with.

That, or an unattractive round girl who looks like she enjoys food and comes from a farm. <- I promise you won`t regret
 
Maddmatt said:
Me and my 3 flatmates share certain food groceries and cook dinner together. 6 months and no problems. It can work, just depends on what kind of people you are.
We even do shopping together.
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he mentioned that prospective new flatmate eats-out more than he cooks
 
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