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Afternoon friends I need a serious advice regarding forgiveness, as long as I can remember the have always been problems with my father's family. My father passed away in 2004 his old brother found the key for our house, he would come in when I was at school and my mother was at work. So one of the neighbors told us I was still young I don't know how things ended.

My mother passed away in 2007 after that hell broke loss, I was still young still in school the battle for the house started. Basically my father's brothers wanted me out of the house. The was a family meeting they told them what they want to do is wrong. So everyone went their own way, other family took me to come stay with them so I can complete my matric. I never heard anything from my father's brothers. To make income I rented my parents house and moved to Joburg after I finish matric.

While I was in Joburg the tenants would call me tell me, the one brother came and told them they must not send me rent money. He will come and collect it. To cut story short basically they didn't HELP me. I returned home Johannesburg was not for me found a job, I started to rebuild my life. Around 2014/2015 they came asked for forgiveness and lay the blame on me that I was young and confused.

I recently bought a car one of the brothers he is sick, he like to asking me to buy him stuff and take him to hospital, church etc. Basically he want us to be buddy buddy I tried to be supportive but I had a dream. It was my mother she asked "what am I doing with them I know they don't love us" so basically I'm caught in the middle. In my heart I forgave them but I can't seem to fine it in my heart to be buddy buddy with them and play happy family. If you were in my situation what would you do.
 
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Cut off all ties and go one with your life. As you get older family gets less and less. Only important things in your life will be your siblings, your parents and your husband/wife and kids.

You don't need them in your life as much as they need you it seems.
 
Agreed with the above, you don't owe them a thing, they are only related to you by blood. You can choose your friends, not your family, but you can choose to associate with them, or not.

If they are a drain on your survival and want you around simply to help them, at your expense and ruination, I would cut ties.

Live your life.
 
Family in my mind extends to moms, dads, significant others, siblings and children. Everybody else is on their own to sort our their disasters. Not my circus...
 
So after the following
attempted dispossession (house)
theft (rent)
lies (when asking forgiveness)

You want to know what to do ?

Cut off all contact.

Your are seen as a meal ticket, buying stuff for them, sheesh... wake up.
 
My parents passed away I don't have siblings, I do have family from my mother's side we are not close but they always there for me in time of need. I do have a cousin she is irresponsible but we very close. So I really don't know what to do these people (the brothers) never bothered to be there for me when I really needed them. I just wonder if God was not by my side maybe if I was not working would they want to play this happy family with me. I did tombstones for my parents they never even bother to contribute a cent at least for their brother Tombstone.
 
Ramodiana said:
My parents passed away I don't have siblings, I do have family from my mother's side we are not close but they always there for me in time of need. I do have a cousin she is irresponsible but we very close. So I really don't know what to do these people (the brothers) never bothered to be there for me when I really needed them. I just wonder if God was not by my side maybe if I was not working would they want to play this happy family with me. I did tombstones for my parents they never even bother to contribute a cent at least for their brother Tombstone.
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Dude. Exclude the word family or uncle from the situation and then look at it again. Or look at it externally. If you observed a friend who had the same situation, what would you tell them to do?
 
Blood != family. I have VERY little of my family left (as far as I'm concerned, even if all ~120 of the members are still alive), and I count my friends as my family. I don't have a day's regret. THEY did this, it's THEIR fault that I won't see them ever again.
 
Cut them off they are leaches who will only try to suck you dry.

You will be happier without that drain on you. The drain is not just financial. They are draining you spiritually and emotionally. You do not need or deserve that!
 
Ramodiana said:
Afternoon friends I need a serious advice regarding forgiveness, as long as I can remember the have always been problems with my father's family. My father passed away in 2004 his old brother found the key for our house, he would come in when I was at school and my mother was at work. So one of the neighbors told us I was still young I don't know how things ended.

My mother passed away in 2007 after that hell broke loss, I was still young still in school the battle for the house started. Basically my father's brothers wanted me out of the house. The was a family meeting they told them what they want to do is wrong. So everyone went their own way, other family took me to come stay with them so I can complete my matric. I never heard anything from my father's brothers. To make income I rented my parents house and moved to Joburg after I finish matric.

While I was in Joburg the tenants would call me tell me, the one brother came and told them they must not send me rent money. He will come and collect it. To cut story short basically they didn't HELP me. I returned home Johannesburg was not for me found a job, I started to rebuild my life. Around 2014/2015 they came asked for forgiveness and lay the blame on me that I was young and confused.

I recently bought a car one of the brothers he is sick, he like to asking me to buy him stuff and take him to hospital, church etc. Basically he want us to be buddy buddy I tried to be supportive but I had a dream. It was my mother she asked "what am I doing with them I know they don't love us" so basically I'm caught in the middle. In my heart I forgave them but I can't seem to fine it in my heart to be buddy buddy with them and play happy family. If you were in my situation what would you do.
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I think there ytvrietes and you must rite them of because there skelm and rude
 
Yeah I forgive them but really the is no need to play happy family, everyone should really remain in their little corner.
 
Ramodiana said:
Yeah I forgive them but really the is no need to play happy family, everyone should really remain in their little corner.
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Ramodiana, you're gay right? How about you and mushroom hook up? Then you'll have some family.

As you can see mushroom smokes marawana and if I recall correctly you either smoke that as well of nyaope
 
Ninja'd said:
The best kind of family to screw.
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I don't have many friends, but the ones I do I trust with my life. I'll never screw with them, and they won't with me. Tightly-knit group, and it's worked this way for decades.
 
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