Gift or not?

blunomore said:
This makes everything even worse! How cheap!



You are the one invited as a seatfiller and you are wondering if HE will be insulted????? Wow!
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As I said, I have vested interests in some things outside of the wedding.

I'm 'keeping the peace' as it were.

If the timing was different, it'd have been a lot easier for me to turn the offer down.

I can handle a few hours of BS with a decent dinner thrown into the mix.
 
I really don't think the guy meant to insult you. Some people just cancel after they RSVP'ed. I am also starting to set up my list and it is quite difficult to trim it. I would also not want something I paid for to be waisted so I can understand that he asked you. Personally, I would not expect a gift if I invited you that late. But then again, I wouldn't phone anyone to ask if they want to come to my wedding that late, I think that talk has to be in person.
 
I'd decline the invitation but if you're going to go bring a gift. Nothing wrong with having more class than the host. ;)
 
Agreed with earlier, i wouldnt bother attending.
If I attended, I would probably give a small gift like a picture frame or something.
 
Thanks for the suggestions chaps.

He's not the most social person, so I'll give it a li'l more thought with his personality in mind and decide what to do later today. :)
 
Gift isn't necessary I think. He'll know he invited you on short notice so he probably isn't expecting one.
 
actually seeing as he isn't a social type of person, i wouldn't go. don't be thinking of getting back at him for not inviting you in the first place. he has his reasons for not inviting you i.e. he had to invite tant sannie, oom piet etc, so don't be a yob and think anything of it. you have more class than that.
if you wish to go purely on the basis of not seeing his food that he paid for go to waste then do it for that reason, otherwise don't go and lower yourself by taking some cheap gift that will clearly be tossed aside and seen as an insult. you know how you would feel if it was done to you, so don't do it.
if he is just someone you work with and pass by in the corridor without so much as a hello, then rather take your wife/girlfriend out to a restaurant you will enjoy that more.
 
Celine said:
actually seeing as he isn't a social type of person, i wouldn't go. don't be thinking of getting back at him for not inviting you in the first place. he has his reasons for not inviting you i.e. he had to invite tant sannie, oom piet etc, so don't be a yob and think anything of it. you have more class than that.
if you wish to go purely on the basis of not seeing his food that he paid for go to waste then do it for that reason, otherwise don't go and lower yourself by taking some cheap gift that will clearly be tossed aside and seen as an insult. you know how you would feel if it was done to you, so don't do it.
if he is just someone you work with and pass by in the corridor without so much as a hello, then rather take your wife/girlfriend out to a restaurant you will enjoy that more.
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I agree. No gift would be better than a cheap **** one. And certainly don't go if you're feeling resentful. I don't think you should spend big though if you do go. Cheap and thoughtful should do fine.
 
OK, again, I am not attending with malice in mind. I don't like the way I was invited, but I willingly accepted the invitation and am happy to attend.

As a pessimist, let me take the optimistic view that I was the one he elected to invite in place of an open seat, an offer to the nearest beggar, etc.

He is more than an acquaintance, but less than a regular friend.

My lady friend has suggested a small gift which I think is appropriate. :) Women...sometimes we really do need them. ;)

Thanks for your input everyone - it did help.

Cheers.
 
don't be offended or insulted at the way he invited you. you don't know what happened why the other people RSVP'd and couldn't make it. seeing as it is a last minute invite, i would imagine that these RSVP's could possibly have been late as well and there were reasons these people couldn't make it. crisis always come up at the last minute so bear that in mind as well.
 
I'm over it. Slept on it, decided it was kewl he invited me and my lady friend and I will make the best of the evening. =]

Will head on over with a small gift and a card and call it a day.
 
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