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Is there anything wrong with not seeing folks often?

I have was at braai on fri, normally when it gets boring like talking about marrylyn manson's auto biography for 5 minutes i just drink and drink til i am wasted mainly because it is the only way i cope when chicks talk about how they farts and speak about poo when men not are around, yes news to me as well :eek: I had it my brain girls don't crap :D. Nothing worse than your chick walks in an annouces she has the worst diarrhea, hmmm ok thanx for sharing hahah.

I only go out because people think if you sit home on say MYBB play games or just chill watching tv etc there is something wrong you.

Since i broke off my 8 year relationship last yea i have been loving it but i am getting bugged by 4-5 mates and my family who want go out and i don't want to get pissed pissed at friends and family function. The worst the conversation the faster i drink.

My basic question is it bad if i just chilled on my own and neglected my family and friends? I don't mean forever. I don't want to go braai's every weekend then i get the guilt trip :(, if i miss a family function well F me i will here never the end of it.

Sure there must be a middle ground somewhere cause i am SICK of being invited out and expected to go and mostly guilt ed into going haha :(. This was the reason i broke it off with my ex because she can out 4 times a week and sit in a bar chatting :eek:

Also my friends and family tell me i don't care about them and only myself if i turn things down :(.

What would you guy do? Tell em all to get Fed or what? I know i have to go some places like bdays and blah blah but braai;s every weekend ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
This also makes me get totally wasted and out of control because i get bored and just drink fast hard
 
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Is there anything wrong with not seeing folks often?
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No.

You have the right to choose your own lifestyle, if that choice is to stay home and be online, then do it.
Not everybody needs to socialise constantly, some people just don't need to be around other people all the time.

I also find that just sitting around making small talk, bores me quickly, I want to do something - anything else, I start getting restless, also drink too fast and retreat into my mind, thinking of other stuff.

I recently started socialising after a ten year reclusive period, and the first few socials was great, but so tiring, people tire me lol

I can't talk about tv and soapies and actors and celebrities, which excludes me from most of small talk and the worst of the worst is, when people hear I'm into science fiction, they want to talk about fantasy like Potter, Narnia and so on.

You only live once - do it your way.

My son and I are both immersed online - we choose this.
The benefits are many:
- no sun damage
- it is safe
- you are in a library full of data
- you are reading a lot
- you don't need much jolling clothes (only pc upgrades lol)
- you drink/smoke less at home
- you won't be drinking and driving (only drinking and posting;) )
 
found myself at a 3yo kiddies party the other day.
not really my cup of tea at the best of times...
luckily there was a group of guys all huddled in the one corner.
they were all talking about rugby, quoting stats and recounting every minute of every match of the last season.
not really my vibe either.

my theory is that there's always at least one other person who is dying from boredom as much as you are - you've just got to find them
meaningful conversations don't really happen groups - you've got to find a way to find isolated people and get them to talk about themselves.
 
If these buddies were really your mates you'd be able to do a lot more together without having to get pissed, or them boring you. Why do you even bother with them in the first place if this is not the case?

You socialise with friends due to common interests (can't say the same for family, but my sisters are some of my closest friends): wine tasting, online gaming, golfing, pubbing, clubbing, braaing, sailing, biking, etc, etc. If you can not go out and be yourself with your friends, then you aren't really friends. If you have to force yourself to fit in just to socialise, then you're wasting your free time.

So ask yourself: is it really the socialising that annoys you or is it the people you're socialising with?
 
Killadoob, I used to be like your former self.

I'd accept any social invitation to go out on the weekend - even if it was usually with the same group of people. However, I did become a bit bored with them - on most occasions, all we did was watch TV, braai + drink and play some sport in the garden. Now that is fine if one does that maybe once or twice a month, but doing it every weekend was getting a bit repetitive now. Also the 'small talk' conversations really bored me - how so and so did this at this event. If I want to hear gossip, I will talk to the ladies :p It also didn't help that 95% of the social events didn't involve much else besides drinking. Seriously there is SO MUCH to do in Cape Town besides drinking...

I've become more... 'selective' in which social events I go to nowadays and I'm happy with that.
 
I also get bored very easily at parties and functions. Once you had stated your viewpoint and there is common agreement, why repeat it over and over again????

After about an hour I've had enough of small talk and pleasantries and listening to k@k music. That's when I want to tjiala and normally just when the womenfolk are starting to warm up... Luckily for me my wife does not drink (1 is her self imposed limit) and she cannot stand being around inebriated people, so we will leave early but for different reasons!

I'm also beyond the stage of drinking for the sake of getting drunk. I enjoy a good drink and don't see the need to compete on volume. Those days are long gone.

So yeah, Killa, I'm with you on this one. It is good to get out and socialise every now and then but it should be on your terms. The decision to leave the gathering is also yours; when you feel you have hit the boredom point or are just plain gatvol, then it's time to go!
 
Korn1 said:
Im not sure since I get pissed if the conversation is bad or good lol :D
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Eventually what you're discussing has little meaning, just as long as there is a whole lotta speaking and drinking going on ;)
 
killadoob said:
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Jeez, what a mission to read - a comprehension nightmare and a grammar Nazi's wet dream! :eek: :p


I get invited out by a group of friends every weekend. Problem is that it becomes a very expensive weekend every time, and I don't really have the money to waste on partying. Having said that, we always have a great time. If I refuse for 2 or 3 weeks in a row, then my mates think that something is wrong, and were not cool for some reason.
 
I get invited out all the time by my mates, problem is they're all drinkers and I'm not. The party gets boring once everyone is half pissed and myself and the missus are the only sober ones left.

Apart from that and they all play golf which I have no interest in makes for a pretty boring time for me. On Sat I went to braai only to leave after an hur and a half because I was bored out of my head.
 
Killa, make a point of keeping in touch - be it once a month or every third week. Family can be a "pain in the @rss" some times.

You have a life to live. No one can hold that against you.....
 
Killa u need to strike a fine balance between being an indoor plant and going out. After all, plants also need some sunlight or else they will wilt and die.

Weird analogy, but true.
 
Every myBB forumite has no social life whatsoever. None. Welcome to the loony world.
 
If you stay at home alot - you better start drinking at home alone as well - its the only true way to real happiness.
 
hahaha i love how ppl complain about what other ppl talk about.

can i ask? what is good conversational topics then huh. Cause when you start talking about the meaning of life or some deeper topics ppl want to drop it and talk about Lindsay's drug binge again :eek:
so yeah me too...these days i'm actually annoyed with ppl and society.they love talking about crap that makes no minute difference in their actual lives .
 
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