Going to Fast - GF

[koeks]

I say ask her to marry ASAP man, if it feels right then awesome i mean its only an engagement which can last for a few years and if it does not work then so be it

Well said Mr stoke

Try to have sex first though.

Do you guys think if 2 people are not sexually suited or have very different views about sex that the relationship is doomed to fail?

i think it's doomed to fail, somethign woudl be missing from the other partner, so i think it will not succeed...

 

[thatdamnJoe]

Try give her a pearl necklace. If she accepts, she's a keeper.

"She doesn't want expensive gifts at all. We were at the mall I wanted to buy her something. She never wanted it.. "

Hahahahahahahahaha

dirty minds FTW

 

[Nanfeishen]

Its like buying a new pair of shoes, you must try a few on before you find a pair that fit comfortably, last long and wont hurt you in the long run.

Impulsiveness often leads to heartache.

 

[Just_Ice]

The MyBBYL condems all references to the age 17.
Time have changed, you people are obviously all old.
Try 14.


PS Good luck with your relationship.
What happens happens. If you get married, great. If you dont, just havr fun. Many feesh in the the sea :S

 

[Brawler]

Try give her a pearl necklace. If she accepts, she's a keeper.

She doesn't want expensive gifts at all. We were at the mall I wanted to buy her something. She never wanted it..

roflmao hahahahahhah.
Thanks for making my day

A pearl necklace is a slang term referring to a sexual act in which a man ejaculates semen on or near the neck, chest or breast of another person. It can be done following mammary intercourse or oral sex. The result is said by some to look like a necklace of pearls because of the stringy translucent white clumps of semen that are deposited there

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pearl_necklace_(sexuality)

Dude seriously... get out more.
EVERY relationship starts of that way.

 

[guest2013-1]

It's a statistical issue IMO (there's that practical realistic junk again) - consider the number of divorces in SA alone. I'd simply prefer to know that we can deal with each other's issues before taking the big step. If you can handle all the doubts and insecurities and challenges, then go for it and enjoy your lives together confidently. Else deal with the effects of splitting up.

Statistics .... dude.... eish....

The thing thats wrong with society today is they're just after quick fixes. 6 minute abs. 10 minute workout. lose weight now. Gain 2 cm in 1 week. Use this machine and gain muscle while doing nothing but watching TV.

Quick solutions to problems that require real work and real dedication to work through.

If both people are committed to work through their problems then any marriage is worth it. The statistics you mention won't be that high and society would actually be a lot more tolerant and dedicated to find viable solutions as suppose to a quick fix.

Unfortunately not everyone is prepared to put in the work required to make things work. A lot of people cheat on their spouse as an easy way out. Some have kids thinking it would save the marriage instead of actually working on the mechanics of such before committing and possibly ruining a young life.

If I find a woman... sexy, intelligent, understanding, trustworthy and willing to put in the time and energy into a long term fulfilling relationship and marriage who is head over heels in love with me and will stay that way for millenia, I'd marry her today.

Puppy love.... honeymoon period... sure.... but those things only apply to lazy assed people.... I never got out the puppy love or honeymoon period purely because I loved her with all my heart. Hot_Chocolate is testiment to that, she still appears to be as much in love with The_Librarian as she was 8 years ago.

Nothing in this life is easy. Why would love be?

 

[Kloofvreter]

NO, WE'VE NOT SLEPT WITH EACH OTHER!!!
Last thing on my mind as we made it clear.

It's a day later. Anything new here?

 

[koeks]

they are still using separate beds

 

[RichardG]

I think it is great you are so happy, excited and feeling so positive etc.. Give it a few more months before talking/thinking marriage..

Also marriage is not just something you "try".. It is a serious long term commitment, and divorce is not just emotionally destroying, but there is so much paperwork and financial expenditure involved..

Not saying you will get divorced, merely pointing out that it is not something you just do so that you can see how it is

I have been putting a lot of effort in making this relationship work, even sometimes giving her a lift to work in the morning and picking her up from work. We both feel a connection, I cannot explain it but we like clicked on day one of meeting.
She has shared so many secrets with me that she has never ever told anyone else in her life. I would go kill her "UNCLE" and "DAD.. This is one of the deepest secrets she has ever shared with anyone else.

We get a long in so many levels conversations, interested, activities, foods, movies, except Religious but I am starting to go to church.

Some stuff we not compatible like sports, religious, smoking.


Money is not an issue at all on my side or her side. And I am not dumb, nor is she If we get married it will be on the term of "ANC" as we both agreed on.

Spare of the moment yesterday we decided to both get away from Joburg, we went away to spend the evening together talk get her mind of work, and I did bring the words to the table about: What If I were to marry you down the line in 6 months?
Her response:I have to first get her mothers and fathers permission, If I do not get that we cannot get married.. I have to know her parents for about 1 year, just so they get to know who I am etc. – as they are very difficult.

 

[dam]

I would go kill her "UNCLE" and "DAD.. This is one of the deepest secrets she has ever shared with anyone else.

 

[koeks]

I have been putting a lot of effort in making this relationship work, even sometimes giving her a lift to work in the morning and picking her up from work. We both feel a connection, I cannot explain it but we like clicked on day one of meeting.
She has shared so many secrets with me that she has never ever told anyone else in her life. I would go kill her "UNCLE" and "DAD.. This is one of the deepest secrets she has ever shared with anyone else.

We get a long in so many levels conversations, interested, activities, foods, movies, except Religious but I am starting to go to church.

Some stuff we not compatible like sports, religious, smoking.


Money is not an issue at all on my side or her side. And I am not dumb, nor is she If we get married it will be on the term of "ANC" as we both agreed on.

Spare of the moment yesterday we decided to both get away from Joburg, we went away to spend the evening together talk get her mind of work, and I did bring the words to the table about: What If I were to marry you down the line in 6 months?
Her response:I have to first get her mothers and fathers permission, If I do not get that we cannot get married.. I have to know her parents for about 1 year, just so they get to know who I am etc. – as they are very difficult.

wait until she disappoints you or hurts you in a big way then come and tell us. and we might be wrong about all of this. maybe you guys were meant for each other.

 

[koeks]

maybe some of us a bitter because we have been hurt or we are being realistic

I have learned that woman or people will hurt you when you at least expected them to, at the very stage where you could die for them...

 

[RichardG]

maybe some of us a bitter because we have been hurt or we are being realistic

I have learned that woman or people will hurt you when you at least expected them to, at the very stage where you could die for them...

I am going to start another thread.. ...
I was hurt a lot as well but will explain.

 

[brixton tower]

This thread here is starting read like a script from "Days of Our Lives".

 

[Kuga]

maybe some of us a bitter because we have been hurt or we are being realistic

I have learned that woman or people will hurt you when you at least expected them to, at the very stage where you could die for them...

What he said. Been there, done that, got the noddy badge

 

[Velenoso]

I have been going out with this lady I have known for about 4 weeks.
Met via Speed Date on Facebook.. We were like in contact for like 2 days before deciding to meet, now we are like basically going out at least 3 - 4 times a week and sometimes spending our whole weekends together.

She is someone I connect with and I was open on how I felt about her and she feels the same way. She always phones me up once she arrives at work in the morning and her boss wants to offer me a job to go work for the same company she works for.

I think she is truly the one or is it just love at first site.
To be honest she is the first girlfriend I ever have and I feel so safe around her company, trust, honesty, etc.

I seriously want to propose to her by next year on her birthday.

Or am jumping the gun to fast. I seriously need some advice here, and I cannot ask DR PHILL!!!


NO, WE'VE NOT SLEPT WITH EACH OTHER!!!
Last thing on my mind as we made it clear.

Did you buy your car without starting it, listening to the engine and taking it for a spin?

This is a long term (read life-long) commitment... I think you're rushing a little, take a holiday together, where you spend weeks together, wait and see if you're compatible first. Four weeks ain't enough.

Just my quarter's worth.