Going to pop the question

adelp said:
What’s this nonsense of going into this thinking she is going to leave!!!:mad:
Then you should not get married. :o
This is one of the reasons you'll never get me in a white meringue dress.



If you think like that it serves you right that she leaves with everything!! You weren't prepared to work on it from the beginning.
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whoa! you got the wrong person there babe! focus focus! whoosa!
 
this thread is one of the best examples of when NOT to ask the internet for help! After the post about measuring during sleep and making sure she's drunk/drugged I knew this thread had gone off the rails completely.
 
of course the proper documents will be signed beforehand. If she leaves she leaves with her contributions to the household.

So whatever we saved up in the savings fund, 50% is hers. I'm not a freak who'd go to lengths in protecting "what is mine" because thats the whole beauty of my budget plan.

But if the bitch thinks she can take my 50% as well she has another thing coming. You get what you put in.

All assets will be liquidized and split fairly.

thats if she leaves. I'm so super hot and super cool she'd never even think that
 
also saw a funny thread of a guy asking people to photoshop a pic of him and his dad as he didn't know how to photoshop... turned real pear-shaped! that sh*t was funny!
 
ConsiderThis said:
also saw a funny thread of a guy asking people to photoshop a pic of him and his dad as he didn't know how to photoshop... turned real pear-shaped! that sh*t was funny!
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Any relevance to this particular thread? :confused:
AcidRaZor said:
of course the proper documents will be signed beforehand. If she leaves she leaves with her contributions to the household.

So whatever we saved up in the savings fund, 50% is hers. I'm not a freak who'd go to lengths in protecting "what is mine" because thats the whole beauty of my budget plan.

But if the bitch thinks she can take my 50% as well she has another thing coming. You get what you put in.

All assets will be liquidized and split fairly.

thats if she leaves. I'm so super hot and super cool she'd never even think that
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Like this? :)
 
ConsiderThis said:
Your question:



The answer:



For future reference: 1+1=2
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AcidRaZor said:
My wife is going to work (till we have kids)
We going to pool our money into 1 account
We take all expenses off of there at once (house/petrol/groceries etc)
75% of the money left over we put in a savings account
the other 25% we split 50/50

She can then go for a hair appointment, spa, buy new shoes, whatever she wants to do with her "cut" and I can do whatever I want with my cut.

Basically covering all expenses + savings then opt for luxuries etc

This way money never becomes an issue because we both will have the same amount.

So if she wants to be a nursery school teacher than earns R3000 and I bring in R32000, she gets half of the 25% left over each month after expenses + savings

Even if its more than she earns.

The idea is to pool both our money into a single account so I don't have to hear her bitching about controlling her and thinking just because I make more than her that I can choose wtf is going on. Same way I can't moan at her for not living within her means and not contributing to the household because she keeps faffing with her hair
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You are very prescriptive for someone who does not even have a gf.

When do you work these things out? Alone in bed at night or what? :D
 
adelp said:
How old are you when do you want to get married and who is going to pay for the wedding?
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Im 27, will most likely get married mid next year I presume ie: ill be 28, and thankfully I have a very good job so money is not a problem. But knowing her, we'll most likely want a small intimate wedding with only the people who matter instead of inviting every tom dick and harry who doesn't actually mean anything to us.
 
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Hey, don't look at me... I have met the girl I want to be with, have had a child with her and am still not taken in by this whole marriage thing!!! ;)
 
Well thanks to those who gave answers to my questions. And to the others,...well im laughing my ass off at your comments, you people are hilarious. :D

The drakensberg gardens suggestion looks quite nice. Ill have a look into that at work tomorrow.
 
i observe human nature & would avoid the problems ive seen that caused divorce and keep my marriage than just give up. And yes ;)
blunomore said:
You are very prescriptive for someone who does not even have a gf.

When do you work these things out? Alone in bed at night or what? :D
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blunomore said:
You are very prescriptive for someone who does not even have a gf.

When do you work these things out? Alone in bed at night or what? :D
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Yeah no prizes for guessing why he's single. Having a girlfriend doesnt actually mean you own her mate.
 
thatdamnJoe said:
Yeah no prizes for guessing why he's single. Having a girlfriend doesnt actually mean you own her mate.
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Its not about owning her?

where the hell did you get that from.

Its about a joint income, joint marriage.

Lets say our joint income is R35 000 (hers is R3000)
Our expenses is R15000 including the bond on the house
We save R15000 and we devide the rest up 50/50

So we each get spending money of R2500
Our house and groceries and whatever is paid for
And we saved a big chunk for our retirement and/or annual overseas holiday?

Whats controlling about that?

I side step the whole fight about money by being fair and treating the marriage as it's suppose to be. a UNION of two people. Not two individuals just faffing about
 
@ RisseN..

After reading the thread I think the best solution was "borrowing" one of her existing rings, else use your pinky as an estimate maybe..

The ring can always be resized..

And start budgeting at least R40K for everything including her dress, food, venue, photographer, decor, suits, champayne and music..

Congratulations!!!
 
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