Help for Anger Management

Ecco said:
I cant control how i express my anger. Once it gets a grip on my, i just go crazy :(
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I've got a very very high tolerence level and If I go over the edge, I'd also crazy.
 
THIS is why I game. I'm exactly like you, but it happens quite a lot less when I game because I have an outlet for it.

When on holiday, this is also the case.
 
Get yourself a punching bag and stick on a picture of somebody you absolutely hate on it. Give it a few good klaps every day and you'll feel a bit better.
 
Ho3n3r said:
THIS is why I game. I'm exactly like you, but it happens quite a lot less when I game because I have an outlet for it.

When on holiday, this is also the case.
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Shaun108 said:
Get yourself a punching bag and stick on a picture of somebody you absolutely hate on it. Give it a few good klaps every day and you'll feel a bit better.
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I dont have issues with individuals or need to regularly have an outlet. Its very much situational. 90% of the time i dont have issues. But when something or somebody pushes certain buttons, then i lose control.
 
creeper said:
Because I know they do comprehensive personality tests that might help you understand who you are and why you act. Also, those that I have worked with also do more than just the usual business stuff. If you can find a clinical psychologist that can do personality tests as well, it would even be better. The trick is do know who you are, know how you will react and how to manage it.

Unfortunately, I only know a good IP in Cape Town.
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I will look out for somebody in jhb that can do the personality test.
 
I was the kind of person you describe yourself to be, even worse in the fact I have tried to kill people due to the anger. I found that engaging in martial arts really helped my anger as it gave me an outlet for the rage in me (and yes it is in you too). You should try martial arts or something similar to get the anger out of you.

Edit: As has been mentioned in this thread, there is no one size fits all. You will need to explore different options and find the one that works for you. In my personal experience, talking doesn't help, in fact it can make you rage even more. The trick is to find some outlet for your frustrations, but your outlet must be something completely different than the next person's. For all we know, fishing might be the right thing that will keep you calm :)
 
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Do you do any physical activity. I find the gym a great stress relief, as they say healthy body healthy mind. If I go a week or two without gyming I can feel the difference mentality and physically. I'm not saying it's the answer but it could be a good start.
 
So. I've realized that I'm the most grumpy, nasty, negative person I know. I can't stand my job anymore. I get irritated when the phone rings and I wanna punch someone in the face if they ask me how I'm doing. I know they're just being friendly but I just really don't wanna talk to them.

I can't go to a gym/karate class/whatever due to personal reasons. Having sex has been the only thing helping me. It's been more than a week and I feel like I could set the building alight with a flamethrower and not even feel bad.

I've also tried the thing of putting a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it whenever I feel like I'm gonna be rude or mean to someone. But then I get angry because it starts to hurt after a while.

I feel like giving up :mad:
 
LeDD said:
This may partly be the issue. In the most recent example I lost my temper because I was being blamed for something I was not responsible for. I tried to explain my point of view, and this led the other party to then blame me for something else, I apologised for that and tried to move on, but the other party persisted, and then i got my back up against a wall and then lashed out.
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This is an anxiety response. Your body's defence mechanisms are sending you into fight or flight because the conversations are around you justifying the validity of your actions.

Try remembering that the only thing that you are truly in control of is yourself. You cannot control what other people think of you, so it's ultimately pointless to try.
 
Akasha said:
So. I've realized that I'm the most grumpy, nasty, negative person I know. I can't stand my job anymore. I get irritated when the phone rings and I wanna punch someone in the face if they ask me how I'm doing. I know they're just being friendly but I just really don't wanna talk to them.

I can't go to a gym/karate class/whatever due to personal reasons. Having sex has been the only thing helping me. It's been more than a week and I feel like I could set the building alight with a flamethrower and not even feel bad.

I've also tried the thing of putting a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it whenever I feel like I'm gonna be rude or mean to someone. But then I get angry because it starts to hurt after a while.

I feel like giving up :mad:
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Have more sex, should sort everything out.
 
Xarog said:
Do you know what you're angry about, at least?
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Honestly, Most things. I'm just a very unhappy person. Children and animals make me happy. But recently dealing with idiots has made me super grumpy and unhappy. Like I'd rather be on my own for the whole day than listen to someone at work say one sentence.
 
Ho3n3r said:
Do you have a quota limit in place regarding the amount of sex you can have?
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I'm only having sex with one person. And I can't see him every day. So it's just not possible. And also, my post was actually about being angry and knowing the only way I could deal with it. It wasn't about sex.
 
Akasha said:
I'm only having sex with one person. And I can't see him every day. So it's just not possible. And also, my post was actually about being angry and knowing the only way I could deal with it. It wasn't about sex.
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Get a new job then.
 
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