How easy do you forgive?

I forgive easily.

It's too much effort to bear a grudge for a long stretch of time.
 
Carrying a grudge is as productive as repeatedly hitting yourself in the nuts. And at least as much fun.
 
i tolerate a lot, but eventually one day i can tolerate no more. after that day, i have difficulty forgiving.
 
Too easily. People take advantage of my nature, and when they treat my like crap it's inevitably me who tries to make amends. I just can't stand having bad feelings between me and somebody else.
 
There's this mofo that stepped on my foot in gr1.. I'll kill him if I EVER see him again :mad:

:D
 
RichardG said:
I also forgive very easy, but learning my lesson every time never to forgive somebody as they'll back-stab again. I do not trust anyone because, I've lived hard time life under so called friends, thinking they your friends but in the end they just ur enemies.
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War Veterans?
 
I try

to forgive and know that when i do, i feel 'lighter', better etc but it's very hard, it has to do with my ego I think. I want the person to know they hurt me or whatever but I realised that mostly i'm just hurting myself, THAT other person probably isnt even thinking about what they did

So i'd like to forgive MORE than I actually do, I need to learn to stop holding grudges for it's self defeating:o
 
I do not like conflict, so I try to avoid situations where forgiveness become an issue. However, if I am wronged, I will forgive easily, but I really have a hard time fortgetting it. I tend to think about the situation a lot.
 
how easy do I find it to forgive...
That depends on what is done to me ofcourse, and who is doing it.
There are a few people I find hard to forgive, in the sense that I don't really hold a grudge, but they have forfeited their right to know me. If someone screws me over badly I generally cut them out of my life entirely. I have done that to close friends, and I have done that to family. I think perhaps its better for both sides. If I don't they generally assume I will hold a grudge. If someone tip toes around me long enough acting like Im pissed at them, then I will probably become pissed at them. Basic psychology I guess. But I am starting to observe these things, and rationalize why I feel what I feel, and whether the way I feel serves me, or harms me.
 
I forgive easily - it's just too tiresome to bear a grudge.

But, people also tend to take advantage of my good nature. If/when this happens, I simply cut them out of my life, easy.
 
Forgiveness? What's that? :p

But seriously, if it truly was a mistake (as in a behaviour that is out of synch with that persons personality - a fundementally honest person who tells a lie etc etc) then I find it easy to forgive - we are, after all, all human.

If however its a repeat + malicious offense then I struggle. I usually try to find mitigating circumstances to excuse said behaviour because I'm not very good at closing the chapter on people.

Having said all that,its worth a mention that the person I find hardest to forgive is myself :/
 
To forgive or not?

It's not easy to forgive, but it's better to put bad thoughts behind you and to carry on with your life.....
If God could forgive so many times, why can't you and I?
 
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