How to with dad's ashes

[LD50]

So we recently received my dad's ashes from the undertakers. It came in a sealed wooden box (roughly 300 x 120mm).
My mother found a nice spot in the garden next to a cannibis plant and his favourite desert plant to bury it in.

How would you do this without the wood going rotten over time? I was given the task. Was thinking of placing it in a metal container, but where to get something like that

 

[LD50]

Originally she wanted to scatter the ashes at Big Bay close to Onse Huisie restaurant but then she was worried about wind. You can imagine folks sitting eating with us in full view...1 + 2 = "look at those people scattering a dead family members ashes, ag shame", then wind blows ashes back over to restaurant

 

[Lupus]

Why not allow the box to rot over time, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Let him return where he once came from.

 

[Marsie27]

Condolences on the passing of your father, and strength to you as you comfort your mom and help her through what will doubtless be a difficult time for her.
I think it's likely that it will decay eventually, even if you varnished or treated the outside. From what I gather, most people open the box and scatter or bury the ashes in a meaningful spot. That's what we did with our parents' ashes. In both cases, the ashes were in a plastic bag inside the box and I suspect that might be standard practice. The lid of the box was screwed on, and inside was the lead label with the same code number which was on the slip from the crematorium, which I think certifies that it is those ashes you are receiving.
If I were you, I would strongly consider doing whatever your mom wants.

 

[Nerfherder]

So we recently received my dad's ashes from the undertakers. It came in a sealed wooden box (roughly 300 x 120mm).
My mother found a nice spot in the garden next to a cannibis plant and his favourite desert plant to bury it in.

How would you do this without the wood going rotten over time? I was given the task. Was thinking of placing it in a metal container, but where to get something like that

Honestly... take it out the box and put the ashes into a hole. Its really good for the soil, "ashes to ashes, dust to dust"


Imagine someone is renovating in 50 years time and hits that box ?

Sorry for your loss though, we are doing the same for my granny and grandpa soon. We will plant a tree for each of them and put the ashes under.

 

[carstensdj]

Condolences to you and your family bud! Wishing you guys strength.

I think the guys have a point here with the whole "Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust" thing, but at the end of the day it's your guys' personal decision. Do what you think your dad would've done...

PS: I had a chuckle about your "Throwing the ashes" at Ons Huisie comment I can just see it...

 

[Tabac]

Put the ashes in a remote aeroplane. Launch the plane over the see untill it dissapears on the horizon.
-My wish anycase.

 

[Rouxenator]

My father in-law died in 2004, three months before I met my wife - so I never met him. His ashes was kept in the same box until last year September when we took my mother in-law back to Witsand where they used to go for December holidays.

 

[Hemi300c]

I suggest spreading the ashes in a nice convenient place to all that'll never be developed.
In your garden is nice until you move etc.

 

[Ockie]

https://www.lonite.com/cremation-ashes-into-diamonds/

 

[The_MAC]

You could go to Checkers and find a free tin with some products e.g. Ouma Rusks, Joko Tea.

You know, those tins Afrikaans people put in their kitchens.

 

[Tabac]

You could go to Checkers and find a free tin with some products e.g. Ouma Rusks, Joko Tea.

You know, those tins VERY OLD Afrikaans people put in their kitchens.

Fixed.

 

[LD50]

Condolences on the passing of your father, and strength to you as you comfort your mom and help her through what will doubtless be a difficult time for her.
I think it's likely that it will decay eventually, even if you varnished or treated the outside. From what I gather, most people open the box and scatter or bury the ashes in a meaningful spot. That's what we did with our parents' ashes. In both cases, the ashes were in a plastic bag inside the box and I suspect that might be standard practice. The lid of the box was screwed on, and inside was the lead label with the same code number which was on the slip from the crematorium, which I think certifies that it is those ashes you are receiving.
If I were you, I would strongly consider doing whatever your mom wants.

Yes this box also has a fixed lid. As I said before my mom wanted to scatter it at a spot by the beach they often went to for breakfast. Then she changed her mind to burying it in her garden

 

[LD50]

Honestly... take it out the box and put the ashes into a hole. Its really good for the soil, "ashes to ashes, dust to dust"


Imagine someone is renovating in 50 years time and hits that box ?

Sorry for your loss though, we are doing the same for my granny and grandpa soon. We will plant a tree for each of them and put the ashes under.

Makes sense to take the ashes out. Im cool with that.

 

[LD50]

Condolences to you and your family bud! Wishing you guys strength.

Ta

I think the guys have a point here with the whole "Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust" thing, but at the end of the day it's your guys' personal decision. Do what you think your dad would've done...

he wasn't sentimental. Said we must flush ashes down the toilet. Mom said no way she's doing that

PS: I had a chuckle about your "Throwing the ashes" at Ons Huisie comment I can just see it...

lol same here

 

[3WA]

You could go to Checkers and find a free tin with some products e.g. Ouma Rusks, Joko Tea.

You know, those tins Afrikaans people put in their kitchens.

Dude, be respectful. A job like this requires a high-end product.

https://www.takealot.com/le-creuset...eTOvD_QLIB67SiG5nKMaAkdcEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

 

[Marsie27]

Dude, be respectful. A job like this requires a high-end product.

https://www.takealot.com/le-creuset...eTOvD_QLIB67SiG5nKMaAkdcEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Yes, no chance that's going to decay any time soon. Very suitable.

 

[lived666]

Dude, be respectful. A job like this requires a high-end product.

https://www.takealot.com/le-creuset...eTOvD_QLIB67SiG5nKMaAkdcEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

oh such disappoint, I thought you were linking to this:

https://www.thisiswhyimbroke.com/glass-dildo-urn/

 

[Cray]

Originally she wanted to scatter the ashes at Big Bay close to Onse Huisie restaurant but then she was worried about wind. You can imagine folks sitting eating with us in full view...1 + 2 = "look at those people scattering a dead family members ashes, ag shame", then wind blows ashes back over to restaurant

Sorry for your loss, not sure if appropriate but might raise a smile.. (if not, let me know and will remove)

 

[LD50]

Sorry for your loss, not sure if appropriate but might raise a smile.. (if not, let me know and will remove)

Moerse appropriate man..The exact scene I've spoken to my mother about initially. I told her we'll have to be watchful of the wind on the day else we'll end up like The Dude and Walter. That was kak funny, well the whole movie in fact