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People who make plans with you then back out of it at the ninth hour because they thought of something else to do. Or who won't commit to plans because they think that something better that may come along.
Lesson of the night, boys and girls: Such people are not deserving of any time or thought and should be cut loose.

Just sharing my midnight ramblings/gripes/realisations with people who are still awake :p
And a recordal as a reminder to myself for all the next times...
 
AvatarS said:
People who make plans with you then back out of it at the ninth hour because they thought of something else to do. Or who won't commit to plans because they think that something better that may come along.
Lesson of the night, boys and girls: Such people are not deserving of any time or thought and should be cut loose.

Just sharing my midnight ramblings/gripes/realisations with people who are still awake :p
And a recordal as a reminder to myself for all the next times...
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I know a few people like those. You plan an awesome hike and everyone has a role in hiking, carrying pots, tents and so on... then one person ditches out and its impossible to shift 30kgs between 3 people who are already carrying their max so we have to cancel it.

Makes me mad, whats even worse they are most of the time unsympathetic about what they have done.

But I never learn I still invite the same ditchers and they do it again... I also need to stop that and just let them do those important things they wanted to do that were better.
 
AvatarS said:
People who make plans with you then back out of it at the ninth hour because they thought of something else to do. Or who won't commit to plans because they think that something better that may come along.
Lesson of the night, boys and girls: Such people are not deserving of any time or thought and should be cut loose.

Just sharing my midnight ramblings/gripes/realisations with people who are still awake :p
And a recordal as a reminder to myself for all the next times...
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And this is why I have a very select few people in my life who I hold dear and adventure with. No fun making plans with people who can't keep their word. They are definitely not worth the emotional investment.

Will only exhaust you, run you down and wear you out into a miserable cynic.

No fun in that at all.
 
Broken commitments. This is not exactly something new, but something that I've seen happening more and more - all over the place, at work, friends ("I'm on my way", then you only see them an hour later)... Were I work people make appointments and then pitch. We've had 2 broken appointments just yesterday alone. Pisses me off.
 
AvatarS said:
People who make plans with you then back out of it at the ninth hour because they thought of something else to do. Or who won't commit to plans because they think that something better that may come along.
Lesson of the night, boys and girls: Such people are not deserving of any time or thought and should be cut loose.

Just sharing my midnight ramblings/gripes/realisations with people who are still awake :p
And a recordal as a reminder to myself for all the next times...
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I knew a few people like this as well -note KNEW.
The bitch in me took mental note of these folk. I would then make awesome plans with them and then simply not pitch. My phone would be off and I'd be unreachable for the rest of the evening. Later on, I would come up with some poor excuse and just write the whole thing off as something insignificant -like they did.
Piss on my parade, I'll crap on yours. If something serious or unavoidable really did come up, then there's nothing you can do but to accept it. But if it's the scenario you mentioned -waiting for better plans/something else to pitch up, well then....
I'd usually give them the benefit of the doubt and give them a second chance. If it happened again, plans would seize to be made with these folk and they'd just kind of be phased out of my life. I've got better things to do than spend time and energy on folks that aren't prepared to do the same. Through this process, you eventually end up with "real" friends...well for me that's how it worked, at least.)
 
The ninth hours is okay. It's the eleventh hour that annoys me :)
 
StonerStuart said:
I know a few people like those. You plan an awesome hike and everyone has a role in hiking, carrying pots, tents and so on... then one person ditches out and its impossible to shift 30kgs between 3 people who are already carrying their max so we have to cancel it.

Makes me mad, whats even worse they are most of the time unsympathetic about what they have done.

But I never learn I still invite the same ditchers and they do it again... I also need to stop that and just let them do those important things they wanted to do that were better.
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I'd cancel too if I find out this "hike" is actually "camping" and I'd have to spend the night/few days wherever you go to.
 
Guilty as charged.

Don't know how it happens but I don't like to disappoint people so when I'm put on the spot and pressurized into an arrangement I commit only to regret it later. Although in a service related industry I'm incredibly anti social hence the reluctance to honour arrangements... :o

EDIT: oh, so it's not that I'm waiting for a better arrangement to come up. It's that I prefer no arrangements...
 
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I was also guilty of this a couple of times with some friends I used to work with. I don't have a car though, so I would be keen to go camping/out to town/whatever. Sometimes I've organised lifts/a car only to have people bail on me last second, or I've just found that I can't get transportation, or the train is canceled, so I would have to bail.

One of the girls in our group called me out on it until I pointed out:

- Everytime I was invited to something I could walk/catch public transport to I was there (once I had to bail coz the train was cancelled)
- No one has ever offered to give me a lift, and I live ten minutes (by car) away from some of them

So yeah, these days I just say I'll let you know if I can make it, unless it's a birthday or some other important event.
 
I've dropped most of my "friends" who are like this. I, too, have decided that I'd rather surround myself with a handful of people who don't make rubbish excuses and actually want to do stuff with me. The sad part is that they were my friends for 10-15 years and that they can't be bothered to honour agreements or get back you me. Well good riddance my life is a little easier now :)
 
StonerStuart said:
Makes me mad, whats even worse they are most of the time unsympathetic about what they have done.

But I never learn I still invite the same ditchers and they do it again... I also need to stop that and just let them do those important things they wanted to do that were better.
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I think I've given them enough chances. No more invites for 'em :)
If they ever took the initiative and tried to plan something and I was free, I wouldn't say no. But I'm not going to bother asking them anymore.

Oh, to add to the list:
People who tell you they're too busy with work/whatever to join you, but then you find out later that they were out at the same time (so much for being busy...).
People who tell you they will be there, and just don't pitch without so much as a message. I can understand if something urgent came up, but that's never been the case.
People who tell you they will be there, and keep pushing the time of arrival to later, until you eventually leave and they never turned up.
People who committed to joining you, then call and suggest a change of plans when you're out. If you have a group of people out who have all agreed to go somewhere, why would they think that the group then wants to change it to what they want to do.
I'm sure I can think of more... Getting intolerant in my old age :p

copacetic said:
What the hell!

Read title and thought you were having a medical emergency!
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Gives new meaning to 'getting legless' :D

zippy said:
The ninth hours is okay. It's the eleventh hour that annoys me :)
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I know those who do that too...

zolly said:
I was also guilty of this a couple of times with some friends I used to work with. I don't have a car though, so I would be keen to go camping/out to town/whatever. Sometimes I've organised lifts/a car only to have people bail on me last second, or I've just found that I can't get transportation, or the train is canceled, so I would have to bail.

One of the girls in our group called me out on it until I pointed out:

- Everytime I was invited to something I could walk/catch public transport to I was there (once I had to bail coz the train was cancelled)
- No one has ever offered to give me a lift, and I live ten minutes (by car) away from some of them

So yeah, these days I just say I'll let you know if I can make it, unless it's a birthday or some other important event.
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If the person is in your situation, I would understand it. And if I really wanted them there, I would make a plan to get them there. I do have friends who don't have their own means of transport, and I know to only invite them out when I can pick them up, as it's unfair to them otherwise.
So you do have a valid excuse. My rant is more at those without any excuse.
 
this is known with CPT people lol ...they all the same and when there is a partner involved forget seeing them for few months

there are a few who are different but the rest nothing new

and i also thought something happened to you lol
 
samr1wp said:
this is known with CPT people lol ...they all the same and when there is a partner involved forget seeing them for few months

there are a few who are different but the rest nothing new

and i also thought something happened to you lol
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I'm used to it in CT, but I was in Joburg when I posted that ;)

Glad there are people online concerned about my well-being - I'm definitely still kicking :D
 
AvatarS said:
I'm used to it in CT, but I was in Joburg when I posted that ;)

Glad there are people online concerned about my well-being - I'm definitely still kicking :D
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oh no then with jhb people it has to be the etags and petrol stories lol

The_Librarian said:
Happened to us as well.

Planned a myBB meet in Pretoria, the whole works.

Only a few attended.
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they scared of you :p
 
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