If your partner cheated on you...

DJStealth said:
What guilt issues? :confused:
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Ja, my English is all back to front in that post. Maybe read it slowly (jokes). What I mean is that the person who cheats breaks the fidelity and therefore has guilt issues - usually that is.
 
I'm sure Pitbull has talked about raping okes in another thread in the past. Must be how he rolls.
 
Pixie22 said:
I'd give her complete honesty. That will hurt enough. I have had it done to me, so I know. Not that I want to "hurt" her. But people are hurt by honesty whether you want them to be or not.

Blatantly getting back at someone only shows you care. Only shows how much control they hold over you and your actions and moods. That kind of reaction might even be why they are cheating in the first place. The best thing to do, is to show no interest in them at all, but harbor no ill will at the same time. That really stings. If you wanna be a dck, then you can always be the first one to give the "lets remain friends" speech. Not that you actually will remain friends. People say that generally to lessen their own guilt, or in this case, to be the first person to say it.
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Well how'd that work for you:cool:? Remember we're talking about someone who doesn't care that much about you here(or else they wouldn't have cheated) so if your happiness don't matter much to them why would your opinion do?

As for revenge showing that I care then yes I do, If a guy slaps you in a club of course you care about punching his lights out. And you can't "pretend" you don't care when your wife just did the worst thing she could do, truth is that you do even if you ignore her you're doing it for the same reason you'd beat her up.

Different strokes but people should always draw the battle lines, let your partner know exactly how you feel so he/she makes an informed decision and knows exactly where they stand.
 
1) Change my banking details
2) Cancel her cellphone
3) Anonomously inform my wifes lover that I have herpes

lol you too quick in replying ... no 4.

4) Put a dead fish under the spare tyre in the boot of her hatchback
 
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lcbxx said:
My wife and I have a clause in our marriage contract that stipulates that the cheating party, if a divorce results, will relinquish all his/her posessions.
So, in effect, if I cheat on my wife and she leaves me, she takes everything. So the woman who expects me to to leave my wife for her, will have to know she's getting a poor bloke with nothing!
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If if works for you, then great, but I find it just plain sad that a relationship can be reduced to money in that way.

If money was worth more than love and partnership and caring, then people would be better off just paying for the little pleasures in life instead of committing themselves to a relationship.
 
blunomore said:
If if works for you, then great, but I find it just plain sad that a relationship can be reduced to money in that way.

If money was worth more than love and partnership and caring, then people would be better off just paying for the little pleasures in life instead of committing themselves to a relationship.
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It pays me to pleasure her and she pays me with pleasure ..... :D
 
Waaib said:
A friend who does a lot of couples counseling reckons that the person who cheats is actually hurt the most in the long run. They break the fidelity and so the other person doesn't have the guilt issues to deal with etc.
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This is very true, I reckon. I've done something in the past (not cheating) and to this day, the guilt eats me up and there's nothing I can do about it. It's a very complicated story and I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. Guilt is a terrible burden to carry...
 
Waaib said:
Ja, my English is all back to front in that post. Maybe read it slowly (jokes). What I mean is that the person who cheats breaks the fidelity and therefore has guilt issues - usually that is.
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Again - what guilt issues? It has never been an issue for me...
 
Nocturnity said:
This is very true, I reckon. I've done something in the past (not cheating) and to this day, the guilt eats me up and there's nothing I can do about it. It's a very complicated story and I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. Guilt is a terrible burden to carry...
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Pics or it didn't happen! (jokes. sorry. too much coffee today)
 
blunomore said:
People have different moral compasses. If you do not care that cheating on someone may hurt them, then those are your morals.

Not everyone is Jesus Christ.
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:eek: I try :o I suspect some pent up anger there :p

Was just being my usual full of **** self. There was one stage where I couldnt give a fruit loop who I screwed over at all. Times they have changed and I am looking for more. That means a completely new breed of woman - one that doesnt deserve to be screwed over!

Anyone for worms? I just opened another can...
 
DJStealth said:
:eek: I try :o I suspect some pent up anger there :p

Was just being my usual full of **** self. There was one stage where I couldnt give a fruit loop who I screwed over at all. Times they have changed and I am looking for more. That means a completely new breed of woman - one that doesnt deserve to be screwed over!

Anyone for worms? I just opened another can...
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Why? I am not saintly either :D

Oh and by the way, NO woman - or man - deserves to be screwed over. It's just wrong to think that certain people are not as good as you and you can therefore do with them as you please. JMO.
 
blunomore said:
Why? I am not saintly either :D

Oh and by the way, NO woman - or man - deserves to be screwed over. It's just wrong to think that certain people are not as good as you and you can therefore do with them as you please. JMO.
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I see you fell right into the can I just opened :D;)
 
blunomore said:
You just do not like to be called out on being less than perfect ;)
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No, no, no! Go read my post again - I mentioned the worms already - twas tongue in cheek (to an extent)

I have no problem being called out on being less than perfect - the day I stop learning and growing is the day I die...
 
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