Is a sabbatical unreasonable?

reactor_sa said:
Seems OP feels entitled to a sabbatical for the years she was the sole bread winner.
How fair it is depends on how the couple view their finances. Are finances kept separate or is it joint? That sort of thing. Varies largely amongst​ couples.
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Ah, right. Makes more sense. She wants to carry on her extended gardening break. All good. Likely from the language she used in her OP, and further in her characterisation of her husband as possessing the qualities of a good natured golden labrador, there's a bigger issue in her marriage than this forum can advise on.
 
pinball wizard said:
Ah, right. Makes more sense. She wants to carry on her extended gardening break. All good. Likely from the language she used in her OP, and further in her characterisation of her husband as possessing the qualities of a good natured golden labrador, there's a bigger issue in her marriage than this forum can advise on.
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I wouldn't judge their relationship. Dynamics in relationships vary, yet they still work.
 
Its not unreasonable, however, in the current uncertain economic climate in the UK it might not be good idea to do so now. Best to wait until the UK's trade relationship with EU is more certain and decide then. But if you really feel you need to take a sabbatical, then you probably should. Just be aware of the risks.
 
I would stop working permanently if you have been working for 20 years.

What was he doing during that period?
 
No offense, but I've found that some women do moan about not having anything to do/being bored etc when not working. Maybe "hub" is picking up on this and suggesting you get back to work to keep you preoccupied with something?
 
pinball wizard said:
@OP, I'm confused. You make it sound like you have had a year or so off of work, gardening or something, and now you want a year off from that year off?
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No. I have almost had a year off. I resigned in mid 2016 so I plan to start working after summer (October this year). I am just feeling a bit guilty about my year off.
 
reactor_sa said:
Seems OP feels entitled to a sabbatical for the years she was the sole bread winner.
How fair it is depends on how the couple view their finances. Are finances kept separate or is it joint? That sort of thing. Varies largely amongst​ couples.
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Finances are separate but I owned and paid for the house in SA and hubby owns and is paying mortgage for house in UK. However I have paid towards improvements to UK house from the proceeds of my SA house (building of an extension and flooring)
 
pinball wizard said:
Ah, right. Makes more sense. She wants to carry on her extended gardening break. All good. Likely from the language she used in her OP, and further in her characterisation of her husband as possessing the qualities of a good natured golden labrador, there's a bigger issue in her marriage than this forum can advise on.
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What's wrong with a golden Labrador? Since we've been married for over 20 years and I still adore him, surely means our relationship is passable?
 
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