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Sounds like a good time to give up smoking.

I hope you son does not grow up with a resentful father.

You need help urgently bud.
 
its not your babies fault.
Do not hurt a child.
Nobody said bringing up kids are easy. However it does get easier as they grow older.
Get a aupair or a nanny to come and help. trust me even if you get someone to help 3 days a week, it will make a world of difference.

Please don't let your son one day read this post and see that you was so frustrated that you wanted to throw him against a wall. Don't ever say that. Please get someone to help you at home.
 
Remember it is your flesh your child. He can not help that he has reflux. He will get better. But you are his father his protector his guardian.
 
crocopede said:
Ye just ranting.
Parents came back from holiday to help out and im in talks with a nanny service.

Its hard though. I take my hat off to single parents. Its a lot to manage.

Its super hard. Also around my son om chill. I think of all that gets me the most is the inability to sit 5 minutes n smoke, to keep going.

I told the parents to go sleep. They were if great help yesterday i did actually get to sleep 4 hours.

I do get murderous rage fits though. Also im not reaching out to the internets. Merely a great platform to regulate pent up frustrations to keep as sane as possible
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Dude, there is always someone worse off than you
Vasbyt. This little guy will be a charmer in no time.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raising_Sextuplets

Do you think it would be easier if you’d quit smoking some months back? Just asking for others about to face parenthood.
 
Jack Marlow said:
Dude, there is always someone worse off than you
Vasbyt. This little guy will be a charmer in no time.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raising_Sextuplets

Do you think it would be easier if you’d quit smoking some months back? Just asking for others about to face parenthood.
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Giving up smoking is always a good idea, lol

Especially if you going to end up smoking in front of your kid.

Plus giving up will teach you to deal with stress on your own and not rely on a cancer stick.

Just my 2c

Fatherhood is not easy, but like @qscwbt said, it'll get easier and if you want lots of kids, train the first 2 properly. lol
 
awvince said:
Giving up smoking is always a good idea, lol

Especially if you going to end up smoking in front of your kid.

Plus giving up will teach you to deal with stress on your own and not rely on a cancer stick.

Just my 2c

Fatherhood is not easy, but like @qscwbt said, it'll get easier and if you want lots of kids, train the first 2 properly. lol
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Your timing is the problem. I think the smoking helps with the stress. I don't say it is good for you, in fact I hate it. But taking a break from an addiction during this stressful time might not be the best timing. You must also understand what OP is going through.
 
RedViking said:
Your timing is the problem. I think the smoking helps with the stress. I don't say it is good for you, in fact I hate it. But taking a break from an addiction during this stressful time might not be the best timing. You must also understand what OP is going through.
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No OP decided to have a kid and is now regretting it and instead of seeking the help he needs. He is blaming the wife and the kid.
 
Sometimes i feel like just throwing him against the wall. I have not slept in 16 days. I hallucinate, i see double.
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Sorry I am being harsh. But the above statement pissed me the **** off
 
Sounds rough. **** employer you have also.

Good luck man. Your brain will be mush.. Just keep going and don't try to do too much.
 
RedViking said:
He is just sharing his raw feelings. Which is okay. See his other posts. If he didn't care he would have dropped the kid at an orphanage.
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Yeah, I do apologize, was still coming off my anger while reading everything else.
 
awvince said:
No OP decided to have a kid and is now regretting it and instead of seeking the help he needs. He is blaming the wife and the kid.
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:wtf:


Seriously!!!

If his wife was stronger and could share the responsibilities it would be much more fair and easier on the OP.


IMO. You best just move along as none of what you say here has been constructive.
 
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Better get a handle on your smoking OP. What comes across in your post is frustration, not an intention to hurt your baby. It's always a good idea to stop unhealthy habits. Now may not be the best time though.
 
something that may help with the reflux is changing the formula, so at least you can put him down for a bit.
A friend recently had similar issues with their baby, and a change in formula made all the difference.
But best to speak to a doctor about that, so he can recommend the correct product.

Good luck man, it definitely is not an easy road with kids, but its those little moments that make it worthwhile:thumbsup:
 
Venomous said:
His wife is so badly ptsd that she doesnt want the child and is in a cushy place somewhere demanding more of his time to go visit while dealing with the premmie stress single handedly.

I say pay for a night nurse. Then he can sleep properly...
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Its up to what they can cope with. If they can afford a nightnurse and one will help, then go for it. The PTSD is quite serious, my wife still suffers with it 6/7 years down the line, I was able to maintain that rock for us both ( wasn't easy but I have a very clinical way of dealing with bad situations and it helped ) but every couple is different. Don't be too hard on her, its very rough for the mother, they see themselves as utter failures for "allowing it to happen".
 
Man up. Own up to your responsibilities. Yours and your spouse's negativity will continue to feed off each other and sully your parental experience.

All parents have difficulty adjusting to having a child. There is no way to prepare for it.

Things will calm down in a few months and hopefully you have the presence of mind to embrace and enjoy the experience instead of resenting it.
 
Can't help but think this is a case of nicotine withdrawal that's really pushing the OP over the edge
 
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