Wrong on all points bud. Sometimes we want things we can't or should not have....
I see - so everything you have said previously comes down to this. Others implied - to your disgust - that more than a friendship was envisaged by you. You said you just wanna be pals with the chick. And now, it is something "we can't or should not have"
Buddy - you know you are walking a thin line here. You also know if your wife sees this thread, you are history. So you know you are wrong, in both this thread and the other one. What you need is not the ego boost but for someone here to tell you it is alright. You want this forum to validate your intentions.
I say go for it. Try your best. Bang her if you can. BUT REMEMBER you are the one in the wrong, in the end, and it will end, whatever "it" may be, including your working relationships, your marriage, your job and your interest in this girl.