Lady Troubles

be.plato said:
hmm, no I think Nevan's a female and seems to know a bit more. But I think its just my imagination.

Everything I have described is occurring in London by the way. :p
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I'll take that as a compliment, and yes I am a female.
 
abzo said:
Surely you can have female friends with no flirty flirty?
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I'm sure you can. I'm not about to open those doors though. It sounds from all this very much like this guy is trying quite hard to push this friendship beyond its virtual limits. And sounds like she's putting a stopper on it, and he's not happy about it.
 
cerebus said:
I'm sure you can. I'm not about to open those doors though. It sounds from all this very much like this guy is trying quite hard to push this friendship beyond its virtual limits. And sounds like she's putting a stopper on it, and he's not happy about it.
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You got it wrong dude. Just friends, thats all.

You can be friends with a girl you know. Not everything is about flirty flirty.
 
Another possibility: maybe she just feels awkward with him in real life? Not sure how to explain this exactly, but sometimes you get to know and like a person while chatting online, but when you see them in real life it doesn't feel like it's the same person.

It's happened to me before, where I could chat to someone about anything online, but when we met in person I couldn't think of anything to say (and not just the first time, either). :o
 
Nevan said:
I thought you knew?? Since you so shamelessly tried to extort pics out of me in my intro thread :p



haha if I'm thinking what you're thinking then... ahem... I don't think so... no... :wtf:
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Oh it's just obligatory to ask for pics. Nothing personal.

Edit: oh i see you're in the WC :whistle: Saaaaaaam!
 
Nevan said:
If I may... it sounds like pretty typical behaviour for a gal who's romantically attracted to a guy she knows is unavailable. She will pretend to ignore him in public or keep him at a cold distance as way to create 'public deception' and possibly also to prevent him from falling for her or getting the wrong idea. This is probably just her way of showing the guy that she respects that he is in a relationship with someone else and has no interest in compromising it.

At least that's how I would respond in such a situation.. It's much easier to admit this sort of stuff when you're hiding behind a keyboard :D
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i said that a long time ago

ktnxbye
 
be.plato said:
You got it wrong dude. Just friends, thats all.

You can be friends with a girl you know. Not everything is about flirty flirty.
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Does she know that? And I'm not sure you can.. at least... you can't ever know how the other party feels about your friendship. Speaking from hard experience.
 
be.plato said:
She knows he is married, so discourages open chatting.

But enjoys the "anonymous" online chats. Never thought of this, great news. I'll let him know..
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Seriously.

You should man the fsck up.


Either you stay with your wife and stop flirting with her.
Or
You chat to the GF. Then divorce wife and go for GF.

Else if she is really not interested you bin them both
Then sort out your schyte.
Then look for someone new...
 
ChilliGirl said:
Seriously.

You should man the fsck up.


Either you stay with your wife and stop flirting with her.
Or
You chat to the GF. Then divorce wife and go for GF.

Else if she is really not interested you bin them both
Then sort out your schyte.
Then look for someone new...
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:wtf:

Its a weird friend acting like an ass. Thats what this thread is about.
 
be.plato said:
Ok guys, a friend of mine contacted me over the weekend and told me his problem.

This is it:

He works with a lady (in the same building) and she is very nice and friendly too him on various chat platforms. Great online chats etcetera, which sometimes last hours.

But when he sees her face to face, she is not that friendly at all. Kind of says hi and sometimes appears even irritated. He says she even avoids him too. But will say hi and how are you if pressed.

He then feels kind of weirded out. Then chats on say gchat to her, and then she is super friendly again and nice. This has been going on for a while now.

Has anyone experience this? Any advice?
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People get addicted to being online. They're rarely themselves in public/social events, but online they do whatever they want. My advice would be simply to ignore her. online and offline. Until she realizes that if she can't be friendly in both spaces, her life is a very VERY shallow place to be

(not to mention she probably has a boyfriend/husband and uses the chat platform to be friendly/flirt because it's fun)
 
AcidRaZor said:
People get addicted to being online. They're rarely themselves in public/social events, but online they do whatever they want. My advice would be simply to ignore her. online and offline. Until she realizes that if she can't be friendly in both spaces, her life is a very VERY shallow place to be

(not to mention she probably has a boyfriend/husband and uses the chat platform to be friendly/flirt because it's fun)
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+1 Most people don't know that i'm married.
 
btw, if the OP's friend doesn't know what to do, just say this on chat:

"show me your boobs"

It can go one of 3 ways. She either loosens the **** up and is friendly in both instances. She can ignore you (or even claim sexual harassment if you're lucky) or you can see some boobs
 
AcidRaZor said:
btw, if the OP's friend doesn't know what to do, just say this on chat:

"show me your boobs"

It can go one of 3 ways. She either loosens the **** up and is friendly in both instances. She can ignore you (or even claim sexual harassment if you're lucky) or you can see some boobs
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Read the first post. Its not about that.
 
VioletF said:
Another possibility: maybe she just feels awkward with him in real life? Not sure how to explain this exactly, but sometimes you get to know and like a person while chatting online, but when you see them in real life it doesn't feel like it's the same person.

It's happened to me before, where I could chat to someone about anything online, but when we met in person I couldn't think of anything to say (and not just the first time, either). :o
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This does happen. But not in this case.
 
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