Long Distance Relationships

Mike Hoxbig said:
Or he can put a positive spin on it. Spending too much time with each other puts you in that comfort zone where everything becomes mundane and you stop putting in the effort. Long distance, as hard as it is (and provided there's no cheating BS), might force you to make the most of your time together when you do see each other.
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Sure, Im not saying anythings impossible. In fact , now that I think about maybe he should give it a try just to see if he can make it work. Things to remember: You need commitment and you need to communicate. There was something else but I forgot.
 
Nick333 said:
You need commitment and you need to communicate. There was something else but I forgot.
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...mmm....trust?

the last thing you want is to have doubt creep in that she is faithful. you either trust her or you don't. Don't expect her to sit at home every weekend because you're not there. Allow her to still live her life, go out with friends, and just be. the moment you are going to start getting jealous or insecure, chances are you won't make it.

And that happens easier than you think. It's a two-way street, and if you want her to trust you, then you need to afford her that same trust.
 
srothman said:
...mmm....trust?

the last thing you want is to have doubt creep in that she is faithful. you either trust her or you don't. Don't expect her to sit at home every weekend because you're not there. Allow her to still live her life, go out with friends, and just be. the moment you are going to start getting jealous or insecure, chances are you won't make it.

And that happens easier than you think. It's a two-way street, and if you want her to trust you, then you need to afford her that same trust.
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That.
 
Well back in the day when conscription was still around, I did 2 90 camps. Wasn't a problem. However since it wasn't a separation by choice rather enforced by law, maybe that made it different to say someone "choosing" to work away.
 
Cameronsmith63 said:
if yous dont see each other for more than one month then it likely wont work. My gf lives in the Northern Cape and i live in Paarl Western Cape. All the arguments are due to the distance issue. Had to cut things with the other GF as well cos she in jozi, no way in hell im moving to that Sh## hole of a place, and she wont leave her family behind...but oh well...if you love her then yous will make it work. Why doesnt she move down? or why dont you move to her?
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THERE IS NO WORD "YOUS"!!!!!!! the grammar nazi is here. the use of incorrect grammar in this forum is forbidden! you have used it twice now in your posts. SAY SORRY. GRRRRRRRR. i can't stand that word.
 
Celine said:
THERE IS NO WORD "YOUS"!!!!!!! the grammar nazi is here. the use of incorrect grammar in this forum is forbidden! you have used it twice now in your posts. SAY SORRY. GRRRRRRRR. i can't stand that word.
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yous - the word that describes 2 people from the original cape town dictionary of life :p
 
My gf and I were together for 4 years before we were seperated by work (in jhb and dbn). We did long distance for one year which was extremely tough - she became very insecure and I became very consumed by work. We saw each other every 2nd week and thanks to our abundance of SA public holidays, we ended up spending quite a lot of time together. After a year of long distance we were both back together in the same city - JHB, and moved in with each other.

It's about 18 months later and we're getting married this Sunday :D

In the end, the experience made us stronger in so many ways.
 
Celine said:
THERE IS NO WORD "YOUS"!!!!!!! the grammar nazi is here. the use of incorrect grammar in this forum is forbidden! you have used it twice now in your posts. SAY SORRY. GRRRRRRRR. i can't stand that word.
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One should also begin each sentence with a capital letter.
 
samr1wp said:
yous - the word that describes 2 people from the original cape town dictionary of life :p
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LOL:D Cant YOUS see that its a Cape Town thing huh??? ima screw the grammar up so badly now my broe...aaaw. Raak Wys
 
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Celine said:
THERE IS NO WORD "YOUS"!!!!!!! the grammar nazi is here. the use of incorrect grammar in this forum is forbidden! you have used it twice now in your posts. SAY SORRY. GRRRRRRRR. i can't stand that word.
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jirrrrre Celine, you mos shouldn't haves done that. Ay what was you thinking.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
One should also begin each sentence with a capital letter.
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mike!!!!! you and me again huh. as long as i don't "yous" the incorrect grammar then i don't need to start with capitals after full stop. and besides i have RSD in my hands it is painful just to type.
 
Celine said:
mike!!!!! you and me again huh. as long as i don't "yous" the incorrect grammar then i don't need to start with capitals after full stop. and besides i have RSD in my hands it is painful just to type.
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I can't pass up an opportunity to take the Mickey out of yous :D
 
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