Long Distance Relationships

Azbubu

Azbubu

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Has anyone ever managed to make these work?

How frequently do you think that you need to see each other for it to work?

By long distance I mean regular long distance eg JHB-DBN or JHB-CT. Not different countries and continents.
 
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I dunno, all the long distance relationships I've seen have failed.

The only way I could see it lasting is if its temporary(i.e. the other person won't be gone for > 12 months) or married etc.
 
Even temporary is a battle. Tried it, and was with my GF for 5 years before we had to be apart for 18months. Didn't last.
In certain instances like if you married, it might be different?!
 
well i was with my gf for 2 years when i went to jhb for a year and we made it work ...saw her atleast once every 2nd month ...or quicker

it can work depends on you

abzo i doubt you should try ....cpt is a dangerous place
 
samr1wp said:
well i was with my gf for 2 years when i went to jhb for a year and we made it work ...saw her atleast once every 2nd month ...or quicker

it can work depends on you

abzo i doubt you should try ....cpt is a dangerous place
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Do u plan on stealing abzo's chick ?:twisted:

bastid
 
if yous dont see each other for more than one month then it likely wont work. My gf lives in the Northern Cape and i live in Paarl Western Cape. All the arguments are due to the distance issue. Had to cut things with the other GF as well cos she in jozi, no way in hell im moving to that Sh## hole of a place, and she wont leave her family behind...but oh well...if you love her then yous will make it work. Why doesnt she move down? or why dont you move to her?
 
Me and my wife (then girlfriend) managed to keep things going for about 18 months when I was working on the South Coast and she was in Pretoria. Saw each other once every 4 months or so. Was a biatch, but we made it work. Got engaged 2 months after I got back in Pretoria, and married a year later.

It sucks, but honestly, if you guys can survive that, then you have a very good thing going.
 
so has anyone ever cheated since yous dont see your loved ones?
 
abzo said:
It's someone that i've known for a while but we only became close recently. And i'm moving away soon.
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Sorry mate but you can just about forget it. You'd both flipping amazing communications and a lot of time already invested to make it worth the effort. Long distance is difficult.
 
where are you moving to? is it further away?

You cant tell the OP to forget about it bro, lol he didnt come here to get more depressed.

Look, yous both know each other for quite a while, this is a discussion that you should have with her, you cant let our experiences sway your decision to either end it or not, simply because you the one in the r.ship and you the one who knows what's going on in it.

So my advice is, have a long conversation with her, preferably in person, talk about moving, and what can happen if yous decide to continue with the long distance, etc...
 
Nick333 said:
Sorry mate but you can just about forget it. You'd both flipping amazing communications and a lot of time already invested to make it worth the effort. Long distance is difficult.
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Or he can put a positive spin on it. Spending too much time with each other puts you in that comfort zone where everything becomes mundane and you stop putting in the effort. Long distance, as hard as it is (and provided there's no cheating BS), might force you to make the most of your time together when you do see each other.
 
abzo said:
Has anyone ever managed to make these work?

How frequently do you think that you need to see each other for it to work?

By long distance I mean regular long distance eg JHB-DBN or JHB-CT. Not different countries and continents.
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They work, just don't get into what she/he is up to when there and he/she also should not get into what you're up to when you're at your place. If it's meant to be it will last if not, you would have met someone new and moved on. Same for her.
 
Well we're going to try and see how it goes. I've never been in a long distance. I'm used to seeing my partner whenever I want so i'm not sure if long distance will work, also I get bored if alone:whistle:
 
abzo said:
Well we're going to try and see how it goes. I've never been in a long distance. I'm used to seeing my partner whenever I want so i'm not sure if long distance will work, also I get bored if alone:whistle:
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Well at least you will have her as an option while you fall in love with someone else :p

That is how these relationships end mostly. You hold on to the one but then get sucked into a new relationship with being all alone and such.
 
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