Marriage without changing surname

Knew folks Border way, with the surname 'Piel'.

No matter how it is meant to be pronounced, it resulted in uncouthness.
 
Bobbin said:
Not only that but also having to change company account, email, inform just about everyone I deal with on a daily basis in business. hmmm... I will consider it but it seems like a tremendous task that is quite unnecessary at this stage of my life. It really isn't that important to me to have to go through, I've grown up with it - what's done is done - it is more a consideration for my spouse and future children.

On a side note I might be a bit biased here but in my view a woman changing her last name is normal and more seamless? On all accounts from home affairs to social aspect. Which is why I don't see it as an accurate comparison. But I stand corrected if needs be.
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The process for her and you is identical. Marriage is the ideal opportunity because it's a purely administrative thing. Changing surnames outside of marriage is more hassle and time.

Changing emails, business, etc is hardly painful.

Just do it.
 
Bobbin said:
Yeah I will probably discuss with her soon and get her opinion on it. My only concern then is if there are any implications or difficulties. Shared medical aid, wills, property, trust account etc... etc... if we don't share the same surname but declare ourselves married. I suppose a simple marriage certificate would clear any issues up though if it is ever questioned.

And I suppose the bigger question is if what you say is true then yeah, easy as that then. :)
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My wife kept her surname. No difficulties what so ever as contracts and companies seem to be prepared for double barrel and mismatching surnames(because its very common). People call us Mr & Mrs whatever surname they know mine or hers they assume we have the same surname, we don't correct them. Our daughter has my surname but if she wakes up tomorrow and want her mother's or want to be Miss Pink Princess then i'll just go down to home affairs... she can always change it again. no biggie ;)
 
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Vegeta said:
My wife kept her surname. No difficulties what so ever as contracts and companies seem to be prepared for double barrel and mismatching surnames(because its very common). People call us Mr & Mrs whatever surname they know mine or hers they assume we have the same surname, we don't correct them. Our daughter has my surname but if she wakes up tomorrow and want her mother's or want to be Miss Pink Princess then i'll just go down to home affairs... she can always change it again. no biggie ;)
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I think if my wife wouldn't want my surname I'd feel offended. How did you handle it?
 
absynth said:
My wife changed her surname back to her maiden name after Home Affairs changed it to mine even though we asked them not to.
Filled in a form,they pressed a few buttons and voila.Took a whole of 5 minutes as home affairs wasn't busy.
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The same thing happened to me, I also opted to keep my own surname! Let's just say it was a surprise that I had a new surname when I went to renew my passport. I had been waiting for two hours in the line, just to get to the front and hear that I can't get a passport, because my surname on my application form is not my actual surname. I had to write a motivation letter about why I wanted to keep my maiden name, but after that they fixed it.
 
It's a pity those rude Dutch surnames are disappearing. I love 'em because they bite a thumb at the State. When that Corsican invaded Europe after the Frog Revolution the new regime insisted people have a surname, which the Dutch didn't much go for. When their French hegemons threatened reprisals for failing to register a surname, many freedom-loving Hollanders chose naughty surnames like Hoendernaaier. It was a protest against State impositions. We need that same spirit today.
 
Chevron said:
I think if my wife wouldn't want my surname I'd feel offended. How did you handle it?
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Whats in a name? Also would she be offended that I wouldn't take hers?

I handled it this way: Men have been getting away with this crap for too long, I'm so lucky that I have a woman that's not afraid to give this crap the middle finger and do what she pleases.
 
Just a quick scan through my facebook "friends"

Windvogel
Filander
September
Wolfkop
Potgieter
Draai
Ketteldas
Malgas
Witbooi
Stuurman
Grootboom
Plaatjies
 
Bobbin said:
On a side note I might be a bit biased here but in my view a woman changing her last name is normal and more seamless? On all accounts from home affairs to social aspect. Which is why I don't see it as an accurate comparison. But I stand corrected if needs be.
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Last time I checked it was a huge issue for guys to change their surnames when getting married but that might be specific to the gay community factor and not necessarily for man and woman.
 
SauRoNZA said:
Last time I checked it was a huge issue for guys to change their surnames when getting married but that might be specific to the gay community factor and not necessarily for man and woman.
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It's just that the little marriage form has blocks for the bride to change or keep her surname but it doesn't have the same blocks for the groom. All you have to do is go down to home affairs... they have the blocks, tick it and go home.

"huge issue"? Would that be the drive down to home affairs or the block you have to tick?
 
Why not just change your name BEFORE you get married. Then the wive can still take your NEW surname when you get married?
 
Hooked up with a guy a a year or so ago, his surname was Goldschagg. It was appropriate though, cause he was one. Had a very good time with him :D
 
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