Need some advice..

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Kuga

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Hey guys,

So last night I went to an aquantinces(sp) dress up party, and she is friends with my ex.

I was expecting my ex to be there so I took a friend with me, way better looking than my ex, to make my ex jealous. I made sure I took someone with that my ex doesn't know that we're just friends.

Long story short, my ex didn't pitch up. Took my friend home, she was quite trashed, and she kissed me... Oh, and she's 16, I'm 23 :erm:

I went back to the party, was too drunk to drive again so I ended up sleeping there. I erm, slept in the same bed as my ex's friend, didn't do anything though. Today I asked her out for coffee during the week some time. I think she's around 26 or so.

To make things more complicated, the chick I slept with about 3 months ago as a rebound, now wants to be friends with benefits. And she's 21.

My dilemma has now gone from having 0 options to 3 in a space of 24 hours. I didn't know my friend that's 16 liked me that way, and I think she wants to date me buuuuut I think there's laws against that..

So my options are:

16 year old - drop dead gorgeous,super model material 10/10
21 year old - kinda cute but a bit uhm, chunky, I'd say 7/10 from her neck up.
26 year old - very fun chick, but kinda plain looking. 7/10

What would you guys do in my situation?
 
in my opinion, 16 to 23 is an unacceptably large difference - but yeah just an opinion, dating in this age range difference is actually a very common occurence though, be prepared to have ur friends/famile/strangers comment and rip u off if u go this route

personally i wouldnt go with a woman 3 years older than me but again thats an opinion and those change very quickly when feelings get involved

also im extremely superficial/shallow and could not possibly handle the chunky, id rather go with the old faithful hand

brings me to a further opinion - i dont believe u can simultanously have feelings for _all_ three women at once (and for the sake of things lets call it 3 women and not 2 and one girl....)

clearly ur not interested in the "chunky" girl (otherwise the fact would not even have been brought up if it wasnt an issue for u),theres just something that doesnt sit right with the 26 year old...

so the hot 16 year old wins my vote, just be ready for the kinds of **** ull get
basically...
good luck
 
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I'd go with what supersunbird said

FYI, respect the face-to-ass-ratio

A girl can be a 7 / 10 face wise, but you have to factor in the ass. So 7 / 10 + 5 / 10 = a solid 6 / 10 as an example.

That being said, don't diss the "chunky" chicks, they're okay.

There's nothing stopping you from going out with all 3 of them. The 16yo is just after her hormones, thinks you're cute and wants you. Soon to be dumped as soon as she finds someone else her loins crave after, and most probably would give your ass the boot when she turns 18 and goes off to varsity (or Milan for modeling or whatever)

The 21yo has been forthcoming with her idea of being friends with benefits. Women need attention like that too... but be careful for unleashing the dragon (Pablo Fransisco), but it's safe to assume she doesn't want to have a relationship so why not?

26yo you may have issues with. #1 She's one of your ex's friends. a Good idea in any relationship is to break all ties and just leave it be, even if it means telling her friends you made friends with that you're not friends anymore (if that makes sense)

If they then insist on being friends, go for it, but I'd highly recommend keeping them an arms length away, especially because of the ex. It can drum up old feelings from your side or cause unnecessary fights. Not worth it in my opinion.

You're still young. Enjoy the young ones.
 
Gimme the 16 year old :D Two years difference is fine.

You can have the chunky or the plain one, or both :D

Or if you aren't the generous type, keep em all for yourself :D I'll understand.

scotty777 said:
it's that time of year, when you scratch your balls, think of the girl last night and say "Ho, ho, ho", but boy-o-boy can she blow
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LOL personally I would look which one has the best personality, my lady is a lil chunky but never have I ever met someone so amazing
 
Young one.
Enjoy it as it wont last.
Remember that as she is still a teen she behaves like one.
I did that once (she was 18) and conversation wise was, well you know how teens behave and talk.
 
+1 on the 16yr old, shes to young, just starting her exploration into adulthood.

the 21yr old could be nice for a while, but if you want a long term relationship, it might end up biting you in the but.

The 26yr old friend of the ex sounds interesting, she is probably more stable and knows what she wants in life and men. Don't be to worried about the fact that she is the Ex's friend (I left my ex fiance for her best friend - very long story!).

Your biggest question should be for yourself. What are you looking for? Fun, meaningless (and probably a damn hot!!!!) sexual relationship. Or a warm, nurturing, long term relationship.

Either way, we all make mistakes, and thats how we learn...

Dr IRG out...
 
AcidRaZor said:
I'd go with what supersunbird said

FYI, respect the face-to-ass-ratio

A girl can be a 7 / 10 face wise, but you have to factor in the ass. So 7 / 10 + 5 / 10 = a solid 6 / 10 as an example.

That being said, don't diss the "chunky" chicks, they're okay.

There's nothing stopping you from going out with all 3 of them. The 16yo is just after her hormones, thinks you're cute and wants you. Soon to be dumped as soon as she finds someone else her loins crave after, and most probably would give your ass the boot when she turns 18 and goes off to varsity (or Milan for modeling or whatever)

The 21yo has been forthcoming with her idea of being friends with benefits. Women need attention like that too... but be careful for unleashing the dragon (Pablo Fransisco), but it's safe to assume she doesn't want to have a relationship so why not?

26yo you may have issues with. #1 She's one of your ex's friends. a Good idea in any relationship is to break all ties and just leave it be, even if it means telling her friends you made friends with that you're not friends anymore (if that makes sense)

If they then insist on being friends, go for it, but I'd highly recommend keeping them an arms length away, especially because of the ex. It can drum up old feelings from your side or cause unnecessary fights. Not worth it in my opinion.

You're still young. Enjoy the young ones.
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I wasn't dissing the chunky chicks, was very late last night when I created the thread and couldn't think of any other adjectives at the time.

She doesn't want a relationship, we tried dating but it just didn't work. She's a bit *****ed in the head. Tried playing mind games with me and caught her out, so I booted her ass, stopped contact for a month, then she contacted me again and just wants friends with benefits.

I have cut all my ties with my ex, sorted out all my crap etc. If I do go for the 26 year old, I don't think there'd be any issues.

Nonetheless, the 16 year old has my fancy out of the 3. If it is legal in SA ( I thought it wasn't), then I'll make her top priority, but I'll still keep the other 2 on a string and pull them along.

labratza said:
LOL personally I would look which one has the best personality, my lady is a lil chunky but never have I ever met someone so amazing
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My ex was a chunky one as well, very nice girl, pity it ended. But on a looks scale I'd given her a 5/10. Personality trumped looks in her case. But eh, I think for myself personally..

IRG said:
Your biggest question should be for yourself. What are you looking for? Fun, meaningless (and probably a damn hot!!!!) sexual relationship. Or a warm, nurturing, long term relationship.

Either way, we all make mistakes, and thats how we learn...
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Well, I actually don't know what I want. I don't think I can handle a long term relationship right now, but a fun and sexual relationship, hell yea. I kind of lost faith in woman.

I think I'll go for all 3, see what happens from there. Normally I am a monogamous person, never cheated on anyone.. Buuuut technically I'm still single, so why not right? I'll be careful though with wrapping the tool etc.
 
Go with the 16yr old and take a "chunky dunk" every now and then.;)
 
Is it just me or does the hot 16yr old have a case of crazy eyes? (No offence Kuga.)
 
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