Night in Jail

CorrieDeBeer said:
If your parents are providing a good environment for you to grow up in and you are repaying there good nature
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The lack thereof might just be the issue here...which is what I'm getting at. A night in jail might deter him from stealing but I doubt it's going to shift him into a whole new (positive) way of being.
 
1) is Boystown not still going and a good option?
2) if he's stealing (and stealing weapons) so young, worse is coming unless it's proper sorted
 
If you have a decent Police Sector Commander go speak to him and they will assist:-
1) Set up a sting and get him arrested and jailed for a night or so.
2) Give him a tour of the prisons and show him his future.
3) Give him a tour of a ER on a Friday/Saturday night to show him his doom.

All the best hope he comes right.
 
Sorry about my bad english. This might help. I used to be just like your brother. Got worse and got arrested, spent time in jail(not prison) so many times I didn't like it but the thought of being in jail didn't scare me anymore. *****, I got to a point I thought prison would be like a walk in a park. I don't think jail would be a good idea. You never know how the experience will be like for him. It might be scary and hard on him but you don't know for sure if he's going to get himself into more trouble thinking "if I survived jail once I could survive it again" or even meet his new role model in jail. So I don't think jail is a good idea.

I think he's just trying to be a bad mother*****er. Maybe he's not using. Maybe he's behaving this way cause u giving him everything he wants. Everything is never enough for an adolescent. Maybe he used to be bullied in primary or wherever he's attending now. If he's had a bad experience when he was new at that school then it could be the reason he's acting that way too. Or someone could've done something humiliating to him at school, maybe beaten up in front of mates(some guy beat me up a lil, in front of my friends and the girl I liked in high school. I smashed his face with an appletizer bottle ~6months later during an exam. He forgot, I didn't.) so u don't know what he's planning to do with the knife, and I'm sure he won't ask you to buy him one he likes, and he just doesn't want to steal the bread knife. Is he doing good in school? Maybe you shout at him sometimes.

I dunno. Too many things could have happened. But trust me something happened. So instead of getting him arrested or sending him to boarding school I think you should work on your relationship with him no matter how much he pisses you off sometimes. Do that and you might be able to know everything that's going on in his life. That way you might help him better than a shrink will. Oh and changing school isn't a bad idea.
 
He is clearly looking for attention and gets a rush from stealing.Its like a high for him.
He needs professional help from a clinical psychiatrist and a support group afterwards before this gets a lot worse as it has been going on for years so now its already an established addiction.
He would need someone very experienced and not some clinical psychiatrist fresh out of university with lower rates.
 
Team up with somebody and set a trap for him. This somebody needs to leave something he would steal and this needs to be recorded. Once you have evidence of him in the act, and this person threatens the cops it may be the last time he does something like that.
 
zizo911 said:
Good Day knowledgeable peeps of MYBB.

I am in quite a situation at the moment.

For the past few years, my brother has been slowly starting to steal. It first started with money, clothing, small little things. However, this past year it has gotten much worse. He has started stealing from other people and strangers. People have been coming to us to tell us that he has been stealing money from them as well. Currently, I have just given up on him, he is going to get much worse and going to either steal from the wrong person and eventually meet his end.

Today we caught him with a knife that he had stolen from someone, when we confronted him he said that he got it from school, but on further investigation we found out that he had actually stolen it from one of the people who came to our house, from their car. I honestly don't know what to do with him anymore, at this point I feel like just sending him to a boarding school.It's not like he doesn't get anything,anything that he had ever asked for we tried our best to give to him, even if it broke us financially.
His currently in Grade 8, at a good school, it was the same school I attended and even the teachers there are starting to pick it up.

I would like to know if there is anyway I can give him a scare by letting him spend the night in a cell,or even for an hour, just to give him a scare. I really don't know what to do anymore.

Thanks in advance
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Sorry about your brother Zizo. We also had a similar issue with one of my brothers. He only stopped after he was caught at a shop for stealing and my dad let him spend a night in jail. There were no drugs involved thankfully and we only found out this year after our parents died some of the reasons why he went off the rails. I'm the eldest and only girl of four siblings. He was the third born and felt like he lived in the shadow of his older brother.

His older brother was very popular in school; was very good at rugby; had and still has the gift of the garb. So he looked up to him and tried to live up to that image, but failed. When we started working and moved out, he and the youngest said they felt like he abandoned them. He didn't have time for them anymore. They also felt dad was harder on them. He felt pressured to achieve. He was interested in art, but we insisted he do architecture. So he rebelled. But the turning point for him was spending the night in jail. He said he cried like a baby and realised that life was not for him.

Your brother needs some sort of turning point. Having everything he needs/wants is clearly not enough and might even be part of the problem. He's crying out for something. Maybe he needs his older brother to spend more personal time with him. Take him fishing, play video games together whatever it is men do for bonding. mart322 sounds like he's been there and I think gives some good advice.

mart322 said:
Sorry about my bad english. This might help. I used to be just like your brother. Got worse and got arrested, spent time in jail(not prison) so many times I didn't like it but the thought of being in jail didn't scare me anymore. *****, I got to a point I thought prison would be like a walk in a park. I don't think jail would be a good idea. You never know how the experience will be like for him. It might be scary and hard on him but you don't know for sure if he's going to get himself into more trouble thinking "if I survived jail once I could survive it again" or even meet his new role model in jail. So I don't think jail is a good idea.

I think he's just trying to be a bad mother*****er. Maybe he's not using. Maybe he's behaving this way cause u giving him everything he wants. Everything is never enough for an adolescent. Maybe he used to be bullied in primary or wherever he's attending now. If he's had a bad experience when he was new at that school then it could be the reason he's acting that way too. Or someone could've done something humiliating to him at school, maybe beaten up in front of mates(some guy beat me up a lil, in front of my friends and the girl I liked in high school. I smashed his face with an appletizer bottle ~6months later during an exam. He forgot, I didn't.) so u don't know what he's planning to do with the knife, and I'm sure he won't ask you to buy him one he likes, and he just doesn't want to steal the bread knife. Is he doing good in school? Maybe you shout at him sometimes.

I dunno. Too many things could have happened. But trust me something happened. So instead of getting him arrested or sending him to boarding school I think you should work on your relationship with him no matter how much he pisses you off sometimes. Do that and you might be able to know everything that's going on in his life. That way you might help him better than a shrink will. Oh and changing school isn't a bad idea.
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Well done for turning your life around :)
 
Thank you so much for all the advice. I shall try spending more time with him this holidays, hopefully that will work. If not, it will have to go to plan B.
 
Ger professional help, not random advice from an internet forum. Contact a social worker and a psychiatrist.
 
I'd also take him for a surprise drug test. Even if he's not on anything, at least he will know you're paying attention to him and his problems. Out of interest, have you ever asked him why he steals?
 
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