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Positively Negative

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This time of the year involves christmas shopping which means heading out to the shopping malls.Now i dont mind couples in public or PDA but at some point today i was like 'WTF ...i need a gf' :rolleyes: Now i have had chances to date a few girls in the last year or two but im very upfront and would never just date someone if i have no interest in them.

Now i can sit here and be all optimistic about being in the single game and enjoy the experience but all my friends have gfs and this causes me to end up being alone on the weekends while they bonking away somewhere. Also... where do all the single ladies hang out these days anyways :erm: I have been to two 21st's recently and every single chick has some bf at thier side. Now clubbing is not my scene at all... way too many hotter guys out there and lets just be blunt and honest people : LOOKS count .I find the best way in meeting new ppl is through other friends but i barely see my friends anymore because they all getting bonked by thier gfs and they are a lil pu$$y whipped .

But seriously.... i think being single for some people is amazing and fun and playful but for 80% its just plain k@k. Plikking becomes a bit much after awhile :eek: Please guys share some advice - i mean im going to the coast for holiday on wednesday and im not excited one bit. Yes i will enjoy the beach and drinks etc but somewhere in the back of my mind i will still be a single loser .

* This is the part where all the married guys tell me to seriously enjoy my single life*

Emo rant over .
 
I am going to sound like a psychologist saying this but... it is all on the mind. You are going out with the mindset that all the other guys are hotter than you and that you have no chance. This then reflects in the way you interact with girls. You probably come across as way too shy with low self confidence, and unfortunately no one finds this attractive.

I had a mate who told me the same thing you told me when we were in Stockholm once. I said to him that we'd go out that night and he must just think that he is the hottest, coolest guy in the club. That night he was surrounded by chicks. Why? Nothing changed visually or with who he was as a person. However, he just went out with a much more positive mindset and because of this mindset he approached girls, spoke to them and was just a lot more out going.

It is like a dog smelling fear. Girls can smell low self esteem.
 
I enjoyed your post.
Makes me feel lucky to be married.
This time of year it sucks to be single, sorry
 
LancelotSA said:
I had a mate who told me the same thing you told me when we were in Stockholm once. I said to him that we'd go out that night and he must just think that he is the hottest, coolest guy in the club. That night he was surrounded by chicks. Why? Nothing changed visually or with who he was as a person. However, he just went out with a much more positive mindset and because of this mindset he approached girls, spoke to them and was just a lot more out going.

It is like a dog smelling fear. Girls can smell low self esteem.
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Are you serious Lance? that sounds like a movie :P but im sure it happened.the thing is i do have alot of confidence with ladies and once im in the door i leave a decent impression and get numbers etc. i just hope i will look back at all of this one day as the worst rut of my life (relationship wise).
But 2010 things MUST change... or im going gay :rolleyes: :D

Jabberwocky said:
I enjoyed your post.
Makes me feel lucky to be married.
This time of year it sucks to be single, sorry
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Nah man its all good. as long as you HAPPILY married and not just married. i really feel happy for married couples who are genuinely enjoying the experience and there are no hidden issues kept away. and yes this time of the year sucks a whales winky
 
hmmm, I've just come back from the coast, and I was staying in the same room as a couple, and another guy who also has a partner... I quite literally hated the week down there, hell, I enjoyed the 6 hours there and the 6 hours back, of driving more then the rest week down there...

Ah... the whole week was just my ego getting squashed into nothingness.

Oh, for the record, I'm a really good looking guy, not in a vain way (I'm extremely seldom self conscious and I tend to put myself down a lot...) but yeah, I'm good looking and I still get batted from girls as if I had a hideous growth on my face. So I'm guessing it does come down to confidence, and if you're able to grappling and hold a conversation... two things I severely lack.

Ultimately, it's up to you dude, you just gonna have to change your ways in order to achieve your goal. Make an effort, read one of those "Dating for Dummings" book's, and give your right hand a rest.

After last week, I've resided in the fact that I'm gonna probably die single, chicks just don't seem to "like" the smart quite guys, no matter how attractive they are.
 
Positively Negative said:
Are you serious Lance? that sounds like a movie :P but im sure it happened.the thing is i do have alot of confidence with ladies and once im in the door i leave a decent impression and get numbers etc. i just hope i will look back at all of this one day as the worst rut of my life (relationship wise).
But 2010 things MUST change... or im going gay :rolleyes: :D
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It is 100% genuine. He was moaning about having more hair loss than the rest of the guys his age etc etc. I reminded him that Vin Diesel has less hair! ;)

and yes this time of the year sucks a whales winky
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Did you know....? The scientific term for a whale penis is dork! :)
 
tl;dr. What I will feed the emo-thread with is that you should be glad you'd single - no having to waste money on an extra present. * grinch away *
 
LancelotSA said:
I am going to sound like a psychologist saying this but... it is all on the mind. You are going out with the mindset that all the other guys are hotter than you and that you have no chance. This then reflects in the way you interact with girls. You probably come across as way too shy with low self confidence, and unfortunately no one finds this attractive.
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:rolleyes: shuddup!

I do agree with 'girls smelling low esteem' though! You're quite correct in saying that!
 
tco21 said:
tl;dr. What I will feed the emo-thread with is that you should be glad you'd single - no having to waste money on an extra present. * grinch away *
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Just to rub it in for the single guys.... this is not necessarily the case. Often a nice early morning, or even better full day, f*** is accepted by both parties as a perfectly suitable gift! ;)
 
Positively Negative said:
. Now clubbing is not my scene at all... way too many hotter guys out there and lets just be blunt and honest people : LOOKS count .
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i disagree, studys show most women dont give a rats ass what you look like. us men are the visual types. i am living proof.. trust me i am dog ugly!! :D

clubs are more if you want a one nighter, i wouldnt expect to find a keeper there. who knows, nothing ventured, nothing gained i guess.
 
Adapting to a new social environment

Perhaps we should look at the difficulties related to meeting people in context.

South Africa unfortunately does not have an environment that makes it safe for women to enjoy a vibrant and social lifestyle, especially after dark.

A girl alone in her car feels vulnerable, she has to be picky about where she parks, because she can't walk too far, or walk in a deserted area. (day or night)

There are thousands of ordinary nice people who are lonely, not because they're unattractive or can smell your loneliness <- rolls eyes, simply because it has become increasingly difficult to socialise safely in public.

Today, people think twice before drinking and driving as well.

The more responsible girls out there, find it daunting to have a social life because of the rape, violence and general crime factor around them.

The best way to meet people is through other people, by social networking on the ground and online (if you choose).

Whatever happens, don't panic, there's plenty of girls, just start creating the social opportunities that will put you in a position to start meeting people.

I'm in the same boat, only thing is, I'm much older, clubbing is out of the question, I'm hoping to make new friends online and on the ground and I don't have pre-conceived ideas or an agenda.

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Single Capetonian : Hey let's go have breakfast at The Blue Peter tomorrow morning at 10am - ask inside for the 'internet people' to find our table .. :p
 
Guys i think you missed the point here ? he said his getting over Fapping !

how ? you can be with a Different porn Star every night ;)

And as for all you peeps saying how being single sucks this time... um well im single, bashed 3 times this week, and dont have to buy a present :p i think thats better ;) if you want a companion buy a dog ;)
 
If you go somewhere look for a girl who is with her friends,kinda anti-social, and happens to be the designated driver. That's your best bet, yes it will be though, but have some balls.
 
ya it becomes a little tricky when you need to use your real pen!s... cause sadly in the real world girls don't care if you have an i7 with a 5890 ! (E-pen!s)
 
4cer said:
Guys i think you missed the point here ? he said his getting over Fapping !

how ? you can be with a Different porn Star every night ;)

And as for all you peeps saying how being single sucks this time... um well im single, bashed 3 times this week, and dont have to buy a present :p i think thats better ;) if you want a companion buy a dog ;)
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What happened to that model girlfriend of yours? :p The one you posted on MyBB...

ya it becomes a little tricky when you need to use your real pen!s... cause sadly in the real world girls don't care if you have an i7 with a 5890 ! (E-pen!s)
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:D This man speaks the truth...
 
scotty777 said:
Ultimately, it's up to you dude, you just gonna have to change your ways in order to achieve your goal. Make an effort, read one of those "Dating for Dummings" book's, and give your right hand a rest.

After last week, I've resided in the fact that I'm gonna probably die single, chicks just don't seem to "like" the smart quite guys, no matter how attractive they are.
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Yeah dude the fact of dying single doesnt scare me.what scares the living k@k out of me is along the way i never meet someone special and dont get to experience what a billion other ppl get to have everyday.

wrathex said:
Perhaps we should look at the difficulties related to meeting people in context.

South Africa unfortunately does not have an environment that makes it safe for women to enjoy a vibrant and social lifestyle, especially after dark.

Whatever happens, don't panic, there's plenty of girls, just start creating the social opportunities that will put you in a position to start meeting people.

I'm in the same boat, only thing is, I'm much older, clubbing is out of the question, I'm hoping to make new friends online and on the ground and I don't have pre-conceived ideas or an agenda.
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Gotta agree on the South African social scene.lately alot of ppl i know just dont go out as much as before.well whatever way i look at it things will hopefully pick up.... whats the longest a rut can go on for :erm:
 
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