Online affairs

slayerza said:
I know that this might not be the "proper" forum to post this sort of thing in but anyway... it is what it is as they say.

So, I've been married for some time now, and although I love my wife dearly, and would give her the world, I simply cannot resist the "rush" I get from chatting to woman online. The conversations really vary quite a lot, from run of the mill kinda stuff to quite racy conversations - it all depends on the specific mood etc.

None of this has ever escalated to anything physical and I don't foresee that it will. It is also not as if there is continual chatting taking place, as this activity takes place secondary to all other commitments.

However, some people consider this cheating although I don't see it that way. How is this different that a guy spending some leasure time with his buddies / playing online games / doing whatever? If you have an opinion that would better be served in PM feel free.
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This kind of thing never ends well... give it up, Dude.
 
Lament said:
And this is why i have trust issues. When woman start hiding their phones or those late night chat sessions with her "friends", somehow i struggle to believe a conversation 2am has anything to do with garden gnomes or cake receipts. I'll rather stay single than going through that siht again.
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Yup. I agree. I don't hide anything from my boyfriend and afaik, he doesn't hide anything from me. (I also don't think he has time to talk to other women anyway) :D It's also not just women that do it. I dated a guy about 2 years ago that kept chatting to "a friend" he met on a dating site shortly before he met me. I dumped him after he accidentally scrolled up too far and I saw the pic he'd send the previous night.
 
Akasha said:
I've seen it happen more than once where it's just "chatting, friendly conversation" and it turns into something much more. I agree with Solitude, if you didn't feel like you're doing something wrong, you wouldn't have made this thread. IMO, you ARE doing something wrong. Don't expect your wife to forgive you if she finds out.
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and thats why OPs wife should get a tracker for his wallet ..the bastid
 
Akasha said:
Yup. I agree. I don't hide anything from my boyfriend and afaik, he doesn't hide anything from me. (I also don't think he has time to talk to other women anyway) :D It's also not just women that do it. I dated a guy about 2 years ago that kept chatting to "a friend" he met on a dating site shortly before he met me. I dumped him after he accidentally scrolled up too far and I saw the pic he'd send the previous night.
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I have a very special ability of meeting these types of woman. Sometimes its like life is challenging me to see how far I can be pushed. Last one I dated (which was little less than a year ago), I bough her a new phone since she used to have a piece of crap. So she asks me to copy over her pictures to her new phone, What she did not know was the "Whatsapp sent" pictures does not display in the "gallery",so over there I came across multiple pics of her with a dildo + videos, these pics was never sent to myself, So I checked the time stamp, and ja, it was in the time that we were dating. Siht like this that causes me not to trust anyone. Its like the only woman interested in me are addicted to dcik, "Multiple Dcik Syndrome"
 
Right...

From a wives perspective here:

My husband for many many months went on lunch with a very dear friend of ours without her husband knowing..
It hurt me every f#cking time. Every time I told him it was wrong. Every time I cried. Eventually I was pissed to no return and I had to decide if I still wanted to get married to him. He had the option to stay single and do what he wants but he married me and devoted himself to me. If the desire was so strong to see her more than what he was getting at home then be it. He could go ahead and do what he wanted. But don't stand in front of a crowd of your friends. My friends. Family and tell me I am the only one for you and then you still go ahead and chat with other woman. It never ends at just chatting regardless of what you try to convince yourself. Regardless of how you feel about it. This will lose you your wife and your family. This **** really hurts. At the end of the day, you are not hurting yourself. You are hurting your wife. You are killing what trust she has in you. You are responsible for the pain when she finds out. You will have to answer the questions.

And trust me, telling any woman, after lying about it that you didn't cheat on her, that trust is gone. Forever. It will forever be a problem. It will always be in the back of her mind. It will never be the same again in your marriage.
 
Lament said:
I have a very special ability of meeting these types of woman. Sometimes its like life is challenging me to see how far I can be pushed. Last one I dated (which was little less than a year ago), I bough her a new phone since she used to have a piece of crap. So she asks me to copy over her pictures to her new phone, What she did not know was the "Whatsapp sent" pictures does not display in the "gallery",so over there I came across multiple pics of her with a dildo + videos, these pics was never sent to myself, So I checked the time stamp, and ja, it was in the time that we were dating. Siht like this that causes me not to trust anyone. Its like the only woman interested in me are addicted to dcik, "Multiple Dcik Syndrome"
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/goes to file manager. Opens WhatsApp folder. Opens Images. Opens Sent. SMILES ! #GoodTimes
 
AliCatS said:
Right...

From a wives perspective here:

My husband for many many months went on lunch with a very dear friend of ours without her husband knowing..
It hurt me every f#cking time. Every time I told him it was wrong. Every time I cried. Eventually I was pissed to no return and I had to decide if I still wanted to get married to him. He had the option to stay single and do what he wants but he married me and devoted himself to me. If the desire was so strong to see her more than what he was getting at home then be it. He could go ahead and do what he wanted. But don't stand in front of a crowd of your friends. My friends. Family and tell me I am the only one for you and then you still go ahead and chat with other woman. It never ends at just chatting regardless of what you try to convince yourself. Regardless of how you feel about it. This will lose you your wife and your family. This **** really hurts. At the end of the day, you are not hurting yourself. You are hurting your wife. You are killing what trust she has in you. You are responsible for the pain when she finds out. You will have to answer the questions.

And trust me, telling any woman, after lying about it that you didn't cheat on her, that trust is gone. Forever. It will forever be a problem. It will always be in the back of her mind. It will never be the same again in your marriage.
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Exactly the same thing happend to me this year, it was only a fling though, She wanted to go out alone with a friend which is married like every Friday night, But his wife (who is overseas for a project) does not know they are going out, I told her the same thing, or she stops this, or i'm out. And ja, I was out.
 
Lament said:
Exactly the same thing happend to me this year, it was only a fling though, She wanted to go out alone with a friend which is married like every Friday night, But his wife (who is overseas for a project) does not know they are going out, I told her the same thing, or she stops this, or i'm out. And ja, I was out.
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My husband stopped, we got married, we got pregnant and 7 months pregnant he passed away.. This **** stays with you forever, this type of **** pisses me off to no end..
 
AliCatS said:
My husband stopped, we got married, we got pregnant and 7 months pregnant he passed away.. This **** stays with you forever, this type of **** pisses me off to no end..
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Sorry to hear about your husband.

In my case she did not stop, turns out she also has "Multiple D Syndrome", as there has been like 10 guys after me. Thank heavens I never slept with her. Avoided a lot of stress right there.
But yeah, **** like this does stay with you forever, i cannot trust woman, i have tried, and i honestly have tried, i simply cannot trust woman anymore, I have yet to meet a single female who has not fcked me over. That's why i'm not even trying anymore. Womans Smoman :p
 
Lament said:
Sorry to hear about your husband.

In my case she did not stop, turns out she also has "Multiple D Syndrome", as there has been like 10 guys after me. Thank heavens I never slept with her. Avoided a lot of stress right there.
But yeah, **** like this does stay with you forever, i cannot trust woman, i have tried, and i honestly have tried, i simply cannot trust woman anymore, I have yet to meet a single female who has not fcked me over. That's why i'm not even trying anymore. Womans Smoman :p
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:) Things change, eventually you will find someone again..
 
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