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slayerza

slayerza

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I know that this might not be the "proper" forum to post this sort of thing in but anyway... it is what it is as they say.

So, I've been married for some time now, and although I love my wife dearly, and would give her the world, I simply cannot resist the "rush" I get from chatting to woman online. The conversations really vary quite a lot, from run of the mill kinda stuff to quite racy conversations - it all depends on the specific mood etc.

None of this has ever escalated to anything physical and I don't foresee that it will. It is also not as if there is continual chatting taking place, as this activity takes place secondary to all other commitments.

However, some people consider this cheating although I don't see it that way. How is this different that a guy spending some leasure time with his buddies / playing online games / doing whatever? If you have an opinion that would better be served in PM feel free.
 
The fact that you started this thread means you are feeling guilty. Even if just for a little bit.
 
slayerza said:
I know that this might not be the "proper" forum to post this sort of thing in but anyway... it is what it is as they say.

So, I've been married for some time now, and although I love my wife dearly, and would give her the world, I simply cannot resist the "rush" I get from chatting to woman online. The conversations really vary quite a lot, from run of the mill kinda stuff to quite racy conversations - it all depends on the specific mood etc.

None of this has ever escalated to anything physical and I don't foresee that it will. It is also not as if there is continual chatting taking place, as this activity takes place secondary to all other commitments.

However, some people consider this cheating although I don't see it that way. How is this different that a guy spending some leasure time with his buddies / playing online games / doing whatever? If you have an opinion that would better be served in PM feel free.
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If it was your wife doing this, would you be okay with it?
 
What if this woman you have been chatting to has been your wife all along? Would you be disappointed?
 
Lament said:
If it was your wife doing this, would you be okay with it?
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This ^^^. If the roles were reversed, would you take issue with it if you found out? Also consider the fact that if you're not comfortable enough to tell your wife about it, you shouldn't be doing it.
 
You dont love your wife as dearly as you think you do.
But a good measure of those things is always asking yourself how you would feel if she was doing it instead.
 
I've seen it happen more than once where it's just "chatting, friendly conversation" and it turns into something much more. I agree with Solitude, if you didn't feel like you're doing something wrong, you wouldn't have made this thread. IMO, you ARE doing something wrong. Don't expect your wife to forgive you if she finds out.
 
before I get summoned by a ton of people, I dont have time to handle this one.

my 2c however.
talk to the wife instead, clearly your relationship is missing he most important part of it all, communication!

you need to be chatting and flirting with her during the day. again I am not saying you should not be chatting up random women, I am saying she needs to know that you are doing it and be ok with it.

ok that is it...
 
Akasha said:
I've seen it happen more than once where it's just "chatting, friendly conversation" and it turns into something much more. I agree with Solitude, if you didn't feel like you're doing something wrong, you wouldn't have made this thread. IMO, you ARE doing something wrong. Don't expect your wife to forgive you if she finds out.
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And this is why i have trust issues. When woman start hiding their phones or those late night chat sessions with her "friends", somehow i struggle to believe a conversation 2am has anything to do with garden gnomes or cake receipts. I'll rather stay single than going through that siht again.
 
slayerza said:
However, some people consider this cheating although I don't see it that way. How is this different that a guy spending some leasure time with his buddies / playing online games / doing whatever? If you have an opinion that would better be served in PM feel free.
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How does your wife feel about your behaviour?

Oh, right, you keep it a secret from her? Your are cheating on her then. Pretty simple if you are a grown up about things.
 
It's right there in the thread title… Online affairs
 
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