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copacetic

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So,the music is pumping (there's an actual DJ).

There's a fire.

Illegal substances being handed out in wooden bowls.

Everyone chilling, chatting and generally looking cool as cucumbers.

Why do I stand around feeling stressed and confused?

This has been my social life since I started going out.

New people scare the **** out of me, and I hate it.

It's not as if I don't have a lot of interesting **** to say (I think)...

How do I heal myself of this malady?
 
Go grab an alcoholic beverage, down it wait 2 minutes and grab another one and walk around sitting it looking super chilled and relaxed.

People can sense stressed anxious people and tend to steer clear so don't stand still, walk around and judge what people are wearing so you don't worry if people are looking at you. Look at them and ask yourself if their outfit works according to your fashion style :D.

Then you will be fine, mostly though just drink and you will be fine by my 4th black label i am chatting up a storm to some random person. If you do not drink you will just have to wing and start talking to random people who will think you are weird because you will start asking where they live, what they do for a living, what kind of car they drive.

Alcohol is the best way to fix it, standing there freaking out will get worse you need to ensure you don't get isolated.
 
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What substance was being handed out? Are you normally on illegal substances when you go out?

I find kat sorts out your issue with one line, boom confident and chatty. Not ideal but it works. Alcohol is good but i tend to get going and keep going until i become the fool of the party so i tend to try stick with kat or coke, it's a chilled drug that gives you an instant boost.

Shy, gone
Not sure what to say? people start asking you to stop talking lol

If you smoke weed when you go out then the problem is the weed.
 
HavocXphere said:
Fake it till you make it.
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Faking it never works for me, i start off faking it then i start feeling like the entire party is judging me. Now i sit there and judge people, look at that oke with a pink shirts and black jeans with brown shoes, WTF or that chick with her tits hanging out, i wonder if she moans when people stare. The best way to combat the getting judged issue is to judge the people. That also puts them on edge which helps a little but honestly copa, alcohol, coke or cat is the answer. Not good answers but i have never been able to walk into a place with new people and have a good time without some drug in me. I get terrified that i forget what tips i was memorizing in the car :D.

I am fairly confident without anything but when i start thinking people are looking at me its get worse, when i hear someone laughing i assume it's at me. If i greet someone new i can normally handle it but when I am in the wild alone that is when i freak out :D.

Shrooms in a bowl? Damn why no glass jar with honey? I guess the quality is lacking these days. I hope they were wrapped, imagine some noob grabs half the bowl because he is a smacktard. Never hand out drugs uncontrolled, asking for greedy fkers to take more than their share.

Maybe it was a bowl of coke, as you walk in you get given a straw. hells yea!!!
 
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killadoob said:
What substance was being handed out? Are you normally on illegal substances when you go out?
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Hell no. My brain causes enough trouble as it is.

I find kat sorts out your issue with one line, boom confident and chatty. Not ideal but it works. Alcohol is good but i tend to get going and keep going until i become the fool of the party so i tend to try stick with kat or coke, it's a chilled drug that gives you an instant boost.

Shy, gone
Not sure what to say? people start asking you to stop talking lol

If you smoke weed when you go out then the problem is the weed.
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Well, as it happens, I was driving this evening, so I didn't take any mind-altering substances.

If I was not, I'm sure I would have had a couple of drinks, which does help a bit, yeah.

I dunno. I'm just a socially awkward penguin.
 
Most people are though dude, that is why alcohol is so big. Go to clubs and watch people when they walk in they look tense they order drinks and 20 minutes later they are dancing, talking acting like fools.

Coke does not really alter your mind hey, kat either.

It does help going with a group of people and having a few female friends, when i was clubbing i met so many people ok now wait i was always drugged up lol but wow drugs really help you meet people. To the point you get their number or facebook them and become friends for years. It's a bit dodge though when people come up to you and greet you like you are suppose to know them but you don't remember them. So don't chat to ever person you see.

You left party that had shrooms copa? naaa bru that is wrong. Personally i won't bother going to a party if i cannot get a drug in me. I won't cope, i get bored as well. Talking about the weather, work, cars and sexy ladies you each spot gets old but when you drunk it's fascinating :D

I find it hard to stomach that people can get pissed broken at a club drive home and it's fine but you have to sneakily sniff kat or coke and you can drive 100%. If anything if more people sniffed coke or kat at parties there would less dumb asses driving like smacktards while seeing double.

Driving on shrooms, hells no. Acid as well. Get a cab lol
 
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killadoob said:
Faking it never works for me
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Yeah not exactly bulletproof. Sometimes its the only option though....esp business type social events. (:/)

The main thing I haven't learned to deal with is conversations with zero content. If there is a topic (*anything*) then I'll be fine, but some crowds manage to open & close there mouth a lot without saying anything at all...can't deal with that.

killadoob said:
That also puts them on edge which helps a little
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I'm curious. How do they know unless you speak out about it?

killadoob said:
copa, alcohol, coke or cat is the answer.
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Copa weren't you taking some meds? Just watch that it doesn't interfere.

killadoob said:
Maybe it was a bowl of coke, as you walk in you get given a straw. hells yea!!!
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Not exactly my scene, but isn't a straw's worth a sizable investment?
 
haha. Totally misunderstood the straw thing.

btw killa they can bust you for driving w/ drugs. But as you say its practically difficult though & if you munch a solid painkiller then technically you're breaking the law already so its tricky to enforce anyway. I know they are cracking down on it in the EU though so its only a matter of time till it gets here.

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Same as cigs...it was in wide spread use before the laws caught up so it wasn't feasible.
 
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HavocXphere said:
Better delete that post killa. ;)
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I think the two of you are posting that early for two very different reasons :)

@Copa, were you not ok to just chat to your mates who you were there with? Or was it one of those parties where you know people, you just arent that good friends with anyone?
 
Copa.

Maybe the drug scene is not for you, reading your post. Then maybe make other types of friends.

I have seen a pic of what you look like. Nothing wrong with you. ;)

Just keep your confidence, remember if it is the first time you meet the person, then it is the first time they meet you....
 
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