Personality conflicts.

|tera|

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Without going into too much detail.

Me: Complacent, placid and content. Ambitious without exerting my mind and self. I'm patient and lenient.
Other person: Ambitious, fast paced life. Opinioniated, rude at times without caring about it. Impatient, not lenient.

How do I cope in this situation?

Should I conform? Should there be a change in myself and attitude in life?
Why change myself to fit in the box of this specfic social environment?

Any advice would be appreciated.
I'm heading down depression road here and I'm on the edge.

It's in my face. A giant fk you to me, which I don't know 99% of the reasons for it.
 
saor

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What's your relationship with this person? Kinda different if it's a s/o or a random housemate.
 
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saor said:
If you don't live together then what's the problem? You're being too vague here. Friend of a friend you hardly ever see...who cares?
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Yes, I hardly see the person. I will be seeing and spending time with this person for another week though.
So, I'm currently causing conflict, because this person clearly hates my guts.
I don't want to make it difficult for the friend I'm visiting, so I'm asking for advice on how to cope in the situation.
maumau said:
No need to change @tera be true to yourself.

More than that don't allow this person's toxicity to affect you emotionally.
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Thanks my friend. You are a super person.
Hamster said:
Then why do you care about this person?
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It's a close friend;s spouse. I need to care.
 
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I'm currently keeping quiet and to myself.
It's a psychological mindfk.
I don't know how to cope.
 
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Hamster said:
Then leave?
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It's in a different province. Visiting a friend and helping with work.

He's away for large time periods throughout the week.

I just need advice on how best to cope psychologically. I don't have the emotional tools for this.
 
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|tera| said:
It's in a different province. Visiting a friend and helping with work.

He's away for large time periods throughout the week.

I just need advice on how best to cope psychologically. I don't have the emotional tools for this.
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If you were staying with a parrot (an actual bird) who kept mocking you - you would presumably not be taking it personally. You'd realize the parrot probably doesn't really hate you - it's just being a silly parrot. Take this persons attitude toward you with as much salt as you'd take a parrots attitude toward you & let them be the product of their silly brain configuration without taking it so personally. Breathe and hold your space.
 
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|tera| said:
It's in a different province. Visiting a friend and helping with work.

He's away for large time periods throughout the week.

I just need advice on how best to cope psychologically. I don't have the emotional tools for this.
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Traditionally wives/GFs of old friends are jealous the fun you and said friend had before the wife/GF came on the scene.

I'm sure it's nothing personal they just don't want to hear about the good old days. They feel excluded.
 
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