Private Investigations

[blunomore]

I see on my FB page that one of the OFM presenters will cover a very interesting topic on his show today: People who have their potential marriage partners or relationship partners investigated by a PI before getting married or getting seriously involved.

There are so many fraudsters out there, that I can understand why some people would do this in our day and age, but it's not for me.

I give people a chance and I trust them - until they show me otherwise.

What do you think ?

 

[ike]

hectic. and do you put the PI on retainer for the rest of the relationship, or do you think that they gonna stay on the straight and narrow?

i think its starting the relationship on a bad foot. and obviously the other party isnt aware they being investigated.

and i guess once you sure they clean (whatever that means) you live your life hoping they dont find out that you had a pi on them.

too much work methinx.

 

[blunomore]

hectic. and do you put the PI on retainer for the rest of the relationship, or do you think that they gonna stay on the straight and narrow?

i think its starting the relationship on a bad foot. and obviously the other party isnt aware they being investigated.

and i guess once you sure they clean (whatever that means) you live your life hoping they dont find out that you had a pi on them.

too much work methinx.

Precisely ... you go behind someone's back to hire a PI to find out if they are honest ... ironic!

 

[Lycanthrope]

Precisely ... you go behind someone's back to hire a PI to find out if they are honest ... ironic!

Agreed. There's betrayal and distrust in the relationship before it has even taken off.

 

[Stefanmuller]

This is obviously only for people who decide to get married within 3 months of meeting eachother? You can only blame yourself if something was not as it seemed before, if you marry so soon.

 

[Ou grote]

I see on my FB page that one of the OFM presenters will cover a very interesting topic on his show today: People who have their potential marriage partners or relationship partners investigated by a PI before getting married or getting seriously involved.

There are so many fraudsters out there, that I can understand why some people would do this in our day and age, but it's not for me.

I give people a chance and I trust them - until they show me otherwise.

What do you think ?

I wouldn't trust DJ... if I was you.

 

[blunomore]

I wouldn't trust DJ... if I was you.

 

[SlinkyMike]

If there is a lot of money involved it can be a good way to set minds at ease.

I personally know people who were worth millions at birth and for someone like that it can hover and itch in the back of the mind to the point that a perfectly wonderful relationship suffers or is lost due to that kind of neurosis.
Call it 'poor little rich kid' syndrome if you like but it happens and it can be horrible.

Also: you may want to enter into a marriage without a pre-nup (for whatever ridiculous reason) and in that case some kind of assurance prior to the act is a good idea.

It's pretty far from romantic but so is reality tbh.

 

[blunomore]

I think people do not listen to their intuition.

Often times, when you hear e.g. of a woman that has been scammed out of money by a so-called boyfriend, she would mention that there were warning signs, but "I loved him and I thought it was just my imagination".

 

[guest2013-1]

I think people do not listen to their intuition.

Often times, when you hear e.g. of a woman that has been scammed out of money by a so-called boyfriend, she would mention that there were warning signs, but "I loved him and I thought it was just my imagination".

To this and your starting topic, these people are the types who fall head over heals in love and want marriage and babies within 2 weeks of meeting their "OMG he/she's perfect!" partner. So yes, for them I say "sure, get a PI to check them out.... but there's a reason why half the marriages on this planet doesn't make it anymore, and you're going to contribute to that"

Yes, there's scammers and they want your money and will do and say almost anything to get it... and they prey on lonely women or the types that are just too stupid to realize what is happening and "OMG I love him/her mom!".... love is just not blind for them, but deaf dumb and RETARD stupid. And they'll keep on making the same mistakes because they have some need to rush into things thinking "this is the one, I will never get a shot like this ever!" and get burned over and over again until they wise up and do the PI thing...

But for normal people (and not-so-normal me) you get to know a person over months if not years before you take the plunge. Hell, I haven't dated anyone I didn't get to know for at least a year... hiring PI's.... wow... she must have enough money to waste on that type of ****. Just go and learn how to judge character... it's free and you get to know people and be more social and all that

 

[sox63]

I see on my FB page that one of the OFM presenters will cover a very interesting topic on his show today: People who have their potential marriage partners or relationship partners investigated by a PI before getting married or getting seriously involved.

There are so many fraudsters out there, that I can understand why some people would do this in our day and age, but it's not for me.

I give people a chance and I trust them - until they show me otherwise.

What do you think ?

I think we have done "investigations" in one way or another on potential spouses. I cant recall NOT checking a few things about a girlfriends reputation through interaction with people in the same social circles as we do. Its offers a measure of assurance that you have done your homework and lessen the chances of your heart being torn to pieces.

And I can understand in relationship that people can become insecure and if they have that money, hire a PI. Its acceptable to me, so long as the spouse does not find out!