Hi, I am seeking some advice. Not sure if this is in the correct place but here goes.
Long story.... short... Please forgive me for rambling and mixing the story, but I am so angry with this.
My son met and married xxxx she had two children from two different fathers. She farmed them off to anyone that was willing to keep them.
They got married as they had a child together, prior to this there was a domestic altercation where my son hit her. She had a protection order against my son. She left to stay with her sister, until she got on her feet. After a month of my son not seeing the child. She came back as she didn't have funds to pay rent where she was living. She dropped the chargers and said they want to try again. They went for counseling, got married and everything fell apart. She hasn't worked and they are battling. My son has been diagnosed with personality disorder at 17, he is now 32. But since 2013 he has been on the right track and stopped all his triggers etc. This too she has put in the protection order, sure she been coaxed into what to write.
And has been begging her to seek employment to help with daily living etc
She was lazy and slept until 11am while my son cared for his son, and tried to do his work as well. When he told her he will not be living this way no longer, she simply took their son and ran away. To a shelter for abused woman and children.
He filled for divorce and has been up and down to courts, social workers and anyone that could help. Seems been a male has its downfall here.
Today he went back to SAPS, to ask for some documentation he left behind. Low and behold, xxxx was there doing a protection order. She is accusing him (my son) for child abuse.....WTF... She is now with welfare, life line and making us all seem like monsters.
He has taken nappies and and and... to life line centre begging anyone to tell him is his son ok. All they say is he is safe. That little boy must be so sad, he was and will always be a daddy's boy. He dropped of their clothing and more nappies. Again been told, don't worry we taking care of everything.
I have never seen a more loving person than him, with his son.
While she was pregnant with baby, she smoked 30 cigarettes per day and drank way too much. I didn't want to say much, so stood back. She told us that if my son ever left her she would give the child up for adoption. When she was pregnant she wanted to have an abortion. We all begged her and promised to help. We kept our side up. They live on my property in a flatlet.
The courts don't seem eager to assist him, and look down at him. Social workers simply put the phone down on him. SAPS ignore his requests, life line refuses to listen to him, it has been 33 days since he last saw his son.
My son has disciplined his son, with a tap on his bottom. Has yelled at him when he was bout to put a fork into a plug.
She has screamed at the child, kept him indoors. Didn't bath him, washed him down said he not dirty. But the best of all is she left her steaming cup of coffee on a side table and my grandson burnt himself. She refused to take him to the clinic or hospital said it not so bad.
Where does this stop, what should my son do. He seems lost and says what the use men never win.... He can not afford legal advice. And has asked me not to get too involved, she is a snake and will use that against him as well.
If anyone has some advice for us please.
Thanking you in advance.
Long story.... short... Please forgive me for rambling and mixing the story, but I am so angry with this.
My son met and married xxxx she had two children from two different fathers. She farmed them off to anyone that was willing to keep them.
They got married as they had a child together, prior to this there was a domestic altercation where my son hit her. She had a protection order against my son. She left to stay with her sister, until she got on her feet. After a month of my son not seeing the child. She came back as she didn't have funds to pay rent where she was living. She dropped the chargers and said they want to try again. They went for counseling, got married and everything fell apart. She hasn't worked and they are battling. My son has been diagnosed with personality disorder at 17, he is now 32. But since 2013 he has been on the right track and stopped all his triggers etc. This too she has put in the protection order, sure she been coaxed into what to write.
And has been begging her to seek employment to help with daily living etc
She was lazy and slept until 11am while my son cared for his son, and tried to do his work as well. When he told her he will not be living this way no longer, she simply took their son and ran away. To a shelter for abused woman and children.
He filled for divorce and has been up and down to courts, social workers and anyone that could help. Seems been a male has its downfall here.
Today he went back to SAPS, to ask for some documentation he left behind. Low and behold, xxxx was there doing a protection order. She is accusing him (my son) for child abuse.....WTF... She is now with welfare, life line and making us all seem like monsters.
He has taken nappies and and and... to life line centre begging anyone to tell him is his son ok. All they say is he is safe. That little boy must be so sad, he was and will always be a daddy's boy. He dropped of their clothing and more nappies. Again been told, don't worry we taking care of everything.
I have never seen a more loving person than him, with his son.
While she was pregnant with baby, she smoked 30 cigarettes per day and drank way too much. I didn't want to say much, so stood back. She told us that if my son ever left her she would give the child up for adoption. When she was pregnant she wanted to have an abortion. We all begged her and promised to help. We kept our side up. They live on my property in a flatlet.
The courts don't seem eager to assist him, and look down at him. Social workers simply put the phone down on him. SAPS ignore his requests, life line refuses to listen to him, it has been 33 days since he last saw his son.
My son has disciplined his son, with a tap on his bottom. Has yelled at him when he was bout to put a fork into a plug.
She has screamed at the child, kept him indoors. Didn't bath him, washed him down said he not dirty. But the best of all is she left her steaming cup of coffee on a side table and my grandson burnt himself. She refused to take him to the clinic or hospital said it not so bad.
Where does this stop, what should my son do. He seems lost and says what the use men never win.... He can not afford legal advice. And has asked me not to get too involved, she is a snake and will use that against him as well.
If anyone has some advice for us please.
Thanking you in advance.
