Protection Order

[Unity]

Update time....

So much has happened since the last post I made.

Been to court 4 times, each time a new date was set.

Finally told that there would be an investigation, hahahahah love SA...
My son went to the welfare offices, sat and spoke to a social worker, the soon to be ex was also there with her social worker.
They agreed my son could have his son every Saturday until the divorce is final. That next Saturday morning my son waited for his son with such high hopes. Finally after 2 hours of waiting, contacted the ex social worker, she said sorry you can't get your child. As there is a protection order against you. He reminded her of the meeting, she simply said it is hearsay....you don't have it written in black and white.

Feeling rather disappointed. Well no matter we haven't given up fighting.

Today my son was back at court for the protection order. She is standing by it, that is fine. But both the ex and her social worker got annoyed when my son said he would be opposing.

New date 23 Jan 2017.

He is allowed legal aid, and as well as witnesses. Had to mention the number he is taking with. We are 3 people.
The judge mentioned she (soon to be ex) is allowed a copy of my sons opposing document. No harm there.
But as my son left the court the ex and her social worker told him, he is wasting his time and the courts time.
This has simply fired up more within us all.

It has now again been 3 weeks and none of us have seen the child. The social worker keeps saying she is busy and doesn't have time for c**p.
So for now it is wait wait wait....

Will update when have more to add.
Thank you for all the awesome replies and motivation.

 

[ToxicBunny]

Update time....

So much has happened since the last post I made.

Been to court 4 times, each time a new date was set.

Finally told that there would be an investigation, hahahahah love SA...
My son went to the welfare offices, sat and spoke to a social worker, the soon to be ex was also there with her social worker.
They agreed my son could have his son every Saturday until the divorce is final. That next Saturday morning my son waited for his son with such high hopes. Finally after 2 hours of waiting, contacted the ex social worker, she said sorry you can't get your child. As there is a protection order against you. He reminded her of the meeting, she simply said it is hearsay....you don't have it written in black and white.

Feeling rather disappointed. Well no matter we haven't given up fighting.

Today my son was back at court for the protection order. She is standing by it, that is fine. But both the ex and her social worker got annoyed when my son said he would be opposing.

New date 23 Jan 2017.

He is allowed legal aid, and as well as witnesses. Had to mention the number he is taking with. We are 3 people.
The judge mentioned she (soon to be ex) is allowed a copy of my sons opposing document. No harm there.
But as my son left the court the ex and her social worker told him, he is wasting his time and the courts time.
This has simply fired up more within us all.

It has now again been 3 weeks and none of us have seen the child. The social worker keeps saying she is busy and doesn't have time for c**p.
So for now it is wait wait wait....

Will update when have more to add.
Thank you for all the awesome replies and motivation.

Keep fighting, and when/if the protection order is struck down as you hope it to be. Then you start recording ALL conversations with the ex and the ex-social worker so that you have evidence, when they start doing shyte like this again you just escalate it up their chain of management and get the social worker fired.

 

[Unity]

We will never stop fighting, this female has a history of running to the welfare. She knows all the tricks...

Just hope she realises not everyone is going to fall for her lies.

 

[crackersa]

Keep fighting, and when/if the protection order is struck down as you hope it to be. Then you start recording ALL conversations with the ex and the ex-social worker so that you have evidence, when they start doing shyte like this again you just escalate it up their chain of management and get the social worker fired.

Record all conversations now. Social worker saying she doesn't have time for this crap now is now being bias.

 

[Unity]

Bias is putting it mildly for real...

This social worker thinks she can control everything, when we ask if the child needs anything. No thanks his needs are met, my son then said to her...'strange I think my child also needs his daddy and not an atm' now social worker is saying he has attitude.
Well the 23rd Jan is "D" day, we going to court and hoping that this gets some closure.

No matter what WE will keep fighting, no child should live in a little room with his mom. And labeled "welfare" case, when there is so much to give him here at home. So much for the welfare of SA, I have lost all respect for them...

Thanks to all that replied, I needed this...

 

[Unity]

UPDATE....

Final date is the 2nd March....

Been in and out of court so many times, it has made me ill...

Will post the final outcome when we got it...

Thank you everyone for the input, you people here really are awesome...

 

[maumau]

UPDATE....

Final date is the 2nd March....

Been in and out of court so many times, it has made me ill...

Will post the final outcome when we got it...

Thank you everyone for the input, you people here really are awesome...

Good luck and keep us posted.

Hope things work out in your favour.

 

[Unity]

Final Update....

After six long months, all be orchestrated by one stupid lying B#$@%#.....
My son lost the case, allowed to visit his son for 2 hours a week, only during the week and when it suites her.

We all as a family have decided to rather step back and allow this dum cow to fall flat on her face alone.
So hurt by the justice system, and as for SOCIAL WORKERS OMG.....

To think that there are so many dads that don't want to be part of the childs life, I could never understand why....
Finally today I get it....

Thanks again to all that answered and listened to a mom and grandmothers ramblings....

 

[ToxicBunny]

Final Update....

After six long months, all be orchestrated by one stupid lying B#$@%#.....
My son lost the case, allowed to visit his son for 2 hours a week, only during the week and when it suites her.

We all as a family have decided to rather step back and allow this dum cow to fall flat on her face alone.
So hurt by the justice system, and as for SOCIAL WORKERS OMG.....

To think that there are so many dads that don't want to be part of the childs life, I could never understand why....
Finally today I get it....

Thanks again to all that answered and listened to a mom and grandmothers ramblings....

Very unfortunate news So sorry to hear that.

During those visits, please at least get your son to pay attention to how his child is being raised etc, and keep records and such.. just so that if you have to go back to court you have something to work with.

 

[maumau]

Sorry to hear your son lost the case Unity.

 

[Fulcrum29]

From my experience. Fathers are worth less than the mothers in the legal system, you need to pay your way to succeed. Equality between man and woman in the system is skew, and don’t dare to ask them where you stand in the Family Court as they will state that the Children’s Act, past and current circumstances to take precedence. In some cases, they will only listen to one side and conclude the other without investigation.

Lawyers are paper pushers when it comes down to a settlement, many avoiding the court as the costs may skyrocketed where their client may be well short or they cannot milk the other party.

These settlement agreements, once one party break either the maintenance or parenting plan it is a mission to challenge, and this is where things may get heavy on the pocket. It is a great shame to see that money is the only legal representation in these cases.

War between the separated parents are not in the child’s best interest, somehow the mother is an angel in most cases where the child is turned in an product.

Now this do not apply to all mothers by any means, there are many men which are not worthy to be a dad. I am only saying that in the court, the mother is already a step ahead by being the mother.

You need money to win, that is when you have a legitimate case. I hate liars with passion.

Like I said, my experience.

 

[Unity]

It's been awhile.

We now get our grandson every second weekend.
We have been making notes etc.
This little guy is now turning 8 in July.
This stupid cow hasn't registered him for school not even grade R.
I offered to pay nursery school for him.
Paid the first month went to pay the second time. She left him in there 2 days asked for a refund.
I spoke to social worker.... Only to be told I'm vindictive.
This little guys begs us to stay just one more night.
Can't believe how let down this system is

 

[TedLasso]

It's been awhile.

We now get our grandson every second weekend.
We have been making notes etc.
This little guy is now turning 8 in July.
This stupid cow hasn't registered him for school not even grade R.
I offered to pay nursery school for him.
Paid the first month went to pay the second time. She left him in there 2 days asked for a refund.
I spoke to social worker.... Only to be told I'm vindictive.
This little guys begs us to stay just one more night.
Can't believe how let down this system is

Jeepers.

Surely, she should be in jail, considering he is not at school at his age.

 

[Unity]

My heart is breaking. He is an amazing little boy. I have been putting pressure in a nice way hopefully she will wake up.
I have contacted her social worker. Uhm waiting for a reply

 

[Lupus]

Jeepers.

Surely, she should be in jail, considering he is not at school at his age.

She should be, but she's the mother and children need their mothers... Remember the system is skewed to the mother and its difficult for a man to get custody and even if he does it can be taken away on a whim.