Reasons for stress

S1ght

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Evening,

K lately I've been getting depressed and stressed easily but it'll just happen by itself and not by anything major. Its never been like this before and afaik no one in my family suffers from depression. Varsity also doesn't carry a lot of stress cause I'm passing with fairly decent marks. It's also however not the type of thing I talk to my parents about cause we've never been much of a talk about our issues family...

Any ideas what could cause this? My one friend suggested diet and since I'm not doing sport(exercise) anymore...

Thanx in advance
S1ght
 
We just don't talk about things like that its not like I can ask to be send to the doctor to check for depression or something
 
cheer up it could be a whole lot worse.

the monitor/doorbell button at our works front door has been de-pressed for about 2 yrs now and even has the scratches to prove it.

cheer up.
 
Too much negative talk and general pessimism in society can do this to people... a person can only be told so many times how bad things are and how they are only going to get worse before it starts to affect them.

For the reason that it may ultimately affect my health I always have a deep seated desire to slap someone around who talks negatively (we call it swinging the cat - and if you are not sure why then swing a cat and see the high pitch whinning noise it makes - please do not actually try this, I never have, but theoretically I am sure we know what noise it makes!) around me! But being a fairly happy go lucky, positive person and tend to rather tell them they are idiots and walk away... try doing the same! :)
 
Just take 1 Maxi B capsule every day and you will start feeling better after about 1 week.
 
Exercise + enough sleep imo. Going easy on the junk food + sugars might be helpfully...but I'm not sure whether its worth the effort.

I generally get that when I'm bored...so the best thing is to do something new...anything. Like a hobby or building something cool (A buddy of mine is building a freakin electric guitar from scratch atm...and he already did a violin:eek:).
 
Evening,

K lately I've been getting depressed and stressed easily but it'll just happen by itself and not by anything major. Its never been like this before and afaik no one in my family suffers from depression. Varsity also doesn't carry a lot of stress cause I'm passing with fairly decent marks. It's also however not the type of thing I talk to my parents about cause we've never been much of a talk about our issues family...

Any ideas what could cause this? My one friend suggested diet and since I'm not doing sport(exercise) anymore...

Thanx in advance
S1ght
are you single? ;) lol!, reason being to that question is it does cause problems.
No one is thinking about you when they go to sleep etc...
so are you single if no tell your lady friend to do her work :rolleyes:
 
filter in only positivity

Filter in only positivity
If your mind is right the body will follow, health regarding diet and exercise play up to 65% of your wellbeing. Fruit is a sensual fare and helps simulate endorphins, as chocolate would yet sweet but healthy. cardio exercise benefits your body all round, with almost immediate results.
Another exercise you can practice that truly works is: every morning look into a mirror and smile, this releases endorphins and can lighten your mood regardless the mood you’re in.
Read motivational and positive thinking articles, books, seminars etc, this can and will boost your general attitude.
Piece of advice: “never take yourself too seriously”.

I hold wellness workshops to help motivate woman in the workplace, with today’s lifestyle it has become a challenge to maintain a positive attitude.

Good luck
;)
 
Actually, with today's political climate, crime, and the employment sector it is very hard to be positive.

No, it's not! Your comments just once again reflect how easy it is to be negative... even to the point of being negative about trying to be positive!! MADNESS!!

I live in the same political, social and financial environment as you, as do many other positive people, and we all manage! It it you that allows negativity to affect you!
 
wow lets project some of our thoughts on this guy why don't we.

So S1ght, what do you think of when you feel depressed? Think about this honestly.
Do you think about your future career?
Do you feel you need more friends?
Do you think of someone in particular?
Are you bored?
Do you feel disrespected by most people?

There's a cause behind your emotions, you have to catch the cause and change the reaction if you get what I mean.
 
@LancelotSA.

Do you?

- Constantly have people trying to break into your property causing you to get into kuk at work because you're constantly running off to re-secure said property after the attempt

- Have to sit in traffic from hell, Monday to Friday because this wonderful ANC government left it until the last minute to do something about the N1 highway instead of doing it in 2002, and now stuffed it up so bad that the traffic is STILL BACKED UP AT 10h45 in the morning.

- Have to deal with the new style of driving where they rubber-neck for ANYTHING out of the ordinary on the side of the road, causing said traffic backups and collisions. All of this because some worker is spading sand into a wheelbarrow... FFS!!!!!!!

- Have to deal with inconsiderate rubbish neighbours who make a noise when you try and sleep?

- Have to deal with consistently bad, shocking service from shops and business in general? Even supposedly reputable ICT suppliers?

- Have to fight every day with iBurst to get them to do what they're supposed to do?
 
Hi S1ght (& everyone else)

I have depression, diagnosed and medicated. The medication keeps me approximately sane, but it's not always enough, so here are some tips that I have found to work:

First of all, medication should not be your first option. Because of this you should not necessarily go see a GP about this, there are some good ones that will carefully evaluate your case and recommend the appropriate course of action or refer you to a specialist if they are uncertain. Many, however, will just prescribe a SSRI (Selective Seratonin Re-uptake Inhibitor); this is not necessarily wrong, but it is not the cure-all that some perceive it to be.

Your university should have something like "student support services", they offer reading courses, career guidance etc. They also usually have qualified psychologists that students can see, when I was at 'varsity this service was free, so you don't have to involve your parents immediately. They have good advice, and can help you understand WHY you feel this way (Geriatrix makes a very valid point), which makes it easier to fix.

B-vitamins can make a huge difference, I was astounded how much it helped to start taking a supplement (just be careful of B3, it can make you anxious). Folic acid is also a good option.

Exercise. It really helps, but try to make it a fun activity to do with friends. If you go running every day, you just get the benefit of the exercise (and maybe the opportunity for some contemplation and self-inspection). If you participate in something that involves other people (preferably nice ones) you also get the benefit of positive feedback and uplifting social interaction.

Friendship is important, a girlfriend is nice, but a true friend that really knows you and will come to your aid in the middle of the night is precious. These friends are few and far between, but try not to let the opportunity to get to know good and caring people that may become such friends pass you by. And take care of the friendships you already have.

Interact with the world. I know it's difficult to leave your "safe place", but being in a situation where you have no other option than being ok can often force you out of the lonely darkness. You say your marks aren't bad, so you can tutor high school kids or ask around the department where you're doing your major if they have a position available for a tutor/student assistant. While you are teaching you WILL be ok, because there is no other option. Also, having some extra spending money is always nice ;)

Remember that it is normal to feel down occasionally, not everyone are necessarily smiley happy people, but that doesn't make you depressed. Many people have a bout of protracted melancholia somewhere between 19 and 22. For almost everyone it passes without any help or intervention. The people at "student support services" can give you perspective and help you understand if it's just normal end-of-the-year syndrome or a problem.

OK lecture over :p
 
You are going to hate me for doing this because popular etiquette in this country seems to now be that you must just nod and agree when someone bitches about something.

@LancelotSA.

Do you?

- Constantly have people trying to break into your property causing you to get into kuk at work because you're constantly running off to re-secure said property after the attempt

To this I can luckily answer no, but I am sure not everyone has a house which is broken into repeatedly. But I am aware of the crime situation in this country but I do not allow it to affect the way I live. Yes, I am aware and alert but I do not let it get the better of me.

- Have to sit in traffic from hell, Monday to Friday because this wonderful ANC government left it until the last minute to do something about the N1 highway instead of doing it in 2002, and now stuffed it up so bad that the traffic is STILL BACKED UP AT 10h45 in the morning.

No one is averse to getting caught in traffic jams. You may find it is not unique to SA and not an ANC invention. If they had done the N1 back in 2002 you would have bitched then. Do yourself a favour and fly to the UK and take a drive into London or on the M1.

- Have to deal with the new style of driving where they rubber-neck for ANYTHING out of the ordinary on the side of the road, causing said traffic backups and collisions. All of this because some worker is spading sand into a wheelbarrow... FFS!!!!!!!

YES. Of course I do but what is the point in letting it bother me. Besides I think it is sensible for the traffic to slow down if something, no matter what, is happening on the side of the road.

- Have to deal with inconsiderate rubbish neighbours who make a noise when you try and sleep?

I live in a flat so noisy neighbours is something that happens on occasion. I do find that a friendly word to them, as they are usually unaware of the disturbance they are causing, tends to help matters.

- Have to deal with consistently bad, shocking service from shops and business in general? Even supposedly reputable ICT suppliers?

Np, this I do not get. But as I have said before on this forum it may have something to do with the way in which I approach these people. I tend to find if you are considerate and polite you get the same in return. They also tend to go out of their way to help you then. Proof again that what you put out there you get back in return!

- Have to fight every day with iBurst to get them to do what they're supposed to do?

No, because as a citizen in a democracy I get to choose who I use as an ISP and I steer clear of ones who cannot do what they promise.



Now sorry to do this but out of all of those the only one which is a real issue is the break ins. The others are really making a mountain out of a molehill and creating unnecessary stress and anguish for you.
 
thanx all for the advice guys :)

basically when I feel sad its a combination of feeling lonely and wondering if I'm in the right place (like being at UJ doing a BSc IT), I enjoy the programming side of it but it still doesn't take away that there are other options out there, as for the lonely part maybe a girlfriend is def needed cause I have a lot of good friends both guys and girls.
 
I live in a flat so noisy neighbours is something that happens on occasion. I do find that a friendly word to them, as they are usually unaware of the disturbance they are causing, tends to help matters.
Well good for you. These ones play the race card the moment you try and even mention the problem.
Nice little attack there on me eh Lancelot? Now I understand why people told me to avoid you
 
thanx all for the advice guys :)

basically when I feel sad its a combination of feeling lonely and wondering if I'm in the right place (like being at UJ doing a BSc IT), I enjoy the programming side of it but it still doesn't take away that there are other options out there, as for the lonely part maybe a girlfriend is def needed cause I have a lot of good friends both guys and girls.

Cool, now where getting somewhere. Now you can ponder those two thoughts.
The why and the how to act on it.
 
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