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Pho3nix

Pho3nix

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Would have created another username but that's way to much admin.

So there is a girl I've kinda been seeing. Went on a couple dates, weekend away but we never spoke about being official and all that jazz.
Really cool young lady and a great friend too.

So I was chatting to my sister about something that occurred that apparently I made a blunder with. After our weekend away(her birthday weekend as well), she went home ie. she left GP for the month.
We spoke for a couple days but we both got a tad busy with parties and family commitments so we regaled to sms's every now and again.

I went to CPT for a couple days and hit her up sporadically and when I did return we spoke but noticed she was always busy so I told her to let me know when she was back in JHB.
Noticed it's been over a week and she still isn't in GP but my sister says that I should have at least called once in all that time or something or other to let her know I'm still interested.

Now I'm no guru at relationships but isn't a relationship of any sort a two way street and if you want to talk to me you hit me up? Not really into games and all those games girls play and thought by going out with an older lady the games would end but did I just get myself into a bigger problem?

Any advice?
 
3 years is nothing ..thats actually good

but yes if she was a bang bang ...then no hi how you needed

now you went on dates and then just like dropped her ...so yes you need to communicate
 
Pho3nix said:
Not really sure hey, still to early to tell but I do like her
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Well, either you like her enough to want to be exclusive with her (ignoring the pros and cons) or you see her as an option until something better arises.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, just my view...
 
Maverick Jester said:
Well, either you like her enough to want to be exclusive with her (ignoring the pros and cons) or you see her as an option until something better arises.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, just my view...
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It could be that he has not been around her enough to justify a simple yes or no.

I would say just wait a bit longer. If she digs you then she would have made an effort also.
 
samr1wp said:
3 years is nothing ..thats actually good

but yes if she was a bang bang ...then no hi how you needed

now you went on dates and then just like dropped her ...so yes you need to communicate
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Thanks, might just give her a call today.

Maverick Jester said:
Well, either you like her enough to want to be exclusive with her (ignoring the pros and cons) or you see her as an option until something better arises.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, just my view...
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Nah, like the "ugly" truth as it is. Will do some thinking
 
Pho3nix said:
Would have created another username but that's way to much admin.

So there is a girl I've kinda been seeing. Went on a couple dates, weekend away but we never spoke about being official and all that jazz.
Really cool young lady and a great friend too.

So I was chatting to my sister about something that occurred that apparently I made a blunder with. After our weekend away(her birthday weekend as well), she went home ie. she left GP for the month.
We spoke for a couple days but we both got a tad busy with parties and family commitments so we regaled to sms's every now and again.

I went to CPT for a couple days and hit her up sporadically and when I did return we spoke but noticed she was always busy so I told her to let me know when she was back in JHB.
Noticed it's been over a week and she still isn't in GP but my sister says that I should have at least called once in all that time or something or other to let her know I'm still interested.

Now I'm no guru at relationships but isn't a relationship of any sort a two way street and if you want to talk to me you hit me up? Not really into games and all those games girls play and thought by going out with an older lady the games would end but did I just get myself into a bigger problem?

Any advice?
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tl; dr
 
I always call the girl I am 'seeing'. Girls like communication and she probably feels as if she is just some fling.
 
Call her, make a proper effort.
If she blows you off again, (read that sentence properly), then move switly along to the next lady
 
Be a man and take the initiative. It's a two way street, but there are some things you should do to show that you're still interested, and the odd phone call certainly helps even if it's just to say hi and that you're thinking of her.
 
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