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Relationship help thread 3.0... (AAAAAAAAAND ITS GONE!)
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ShaunSA
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You need to learn no means no.
Ah bugger. There was supposed to be a stop in that sentence!
I need a holiday!
Nee **** you Nick! You messing with my head bastid!
Nick333
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Ah bugger. There was supposed to be a stop in that sentence!
I need a holiday!
Nee **** you Nick! You messing with my head bastid!
You really must need a holiday! I edited it.
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You know what grinds my gears? All these people saying "just move on.." "Be an adult.." are you telling me if you fell in love with someone or if you do love someone or if you are even married, that when things seem odd you're just going to say "Efff this! I'm out! bye bye... we had a good run"
No.. Nobody just walks off from something that seems good. yeah this girl has got a bit of crazy in her, maybe some more then others but guess what THEY ARE ALL BAT ***** CRAY!! All the woman that I have been in relationships with has had a crazy side. woman get jelly when you talk to other woman. more then a man would.
Thing is that I like this one.. even her crazy side is attractive at times. its kind of cute.. But you know.. at least she's honest, intelligent, Funny and we got a lot in common.. so what if things move a bit fast. if you like someone you can make it work.
She has been on off on off... but that's a relationship for you nothing is peaches all the time.. I'm not an idiot.. I'm not going to sit around and be ruined. if it continues then I will end it. For me the actions are just confusing and I am trying to understand that.
No.. Nobody just walks off from something that seems good. yeah this girl has got a bit of crazy in her, maybe some more then others but guess what THEY ARE ALL BAT ***** CRAY!! All the woman that I have been in relationships with has had a crazy side. woman get jelly when you talk to other woman. more then a man would.
Thing is that I like this one.. even her crazy side is attractive at times. its kind of cute.. But you know.. at least she's honest, intelligent, Funny and we got a lot in common.. so what if things move a bit fast. if you like someone you can make it work.
She has been on off on off... but that's a relationship for you nothing is peaches all the time.. I'm not an idiot.. I'm not going to sit around and be ruined. if it continues then I will end it. For me the actions are just confusing and I am trying to understand that.
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You poor deluded fool.
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I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say we've all had our hearts broken on at least one occasion. That is life.
WE have been through the stage you're going through and learnt lessons from it. Lessons you could avoid by taking good advice. Don't and get yourself hurt. Simple as that. No one can make your choices for you.
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ScottulusMaximus
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That^^^
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I dated one girl and 'stieked' a few others when I thought I might have been bi. Now I know I'm gay.
Bro, just date another bro. It just works better. None of this "I want you I don't want you but I want you" and silent treatment crap. You wanna get beer? Your partner does too. You wanna **** like rabbits? Your partner does too. You wanna jerk off to porn? Your partner does too. You want Doritos for dinner? Your partner does too. You wanna braai every night of the weekend? Your partner does too. You wanna get shjtfaced? Your partner does too. You wanna walk around naked? Your partner does too.
Life is so much better dating guys.
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This is exactly what we said in the first thread, then we were told we're misogynists and that she's not a bitchy little control freak and we must see it from her point of view.
Well, I'm seeing it from her point of view now and this girl is batshjt insane.
Foxhound5366
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Another classic pearl of registerforfree wisdom there, lol.
Seriously though, Random Hero, stop asking for advice online ok? It's like reading reviews online ... you can read a dozen reviews that are positive and it only takes one negative review to cast everything you know into doubt. Do you really want that in your relationship?
Here's the truth about women: they're just like softer versions of guys. Peel away all the social conditioning of flowers, pink and fluffy teddies, and women are exactly like you: they don't want to be lied to, they're afraid you'll hurt their feelings; and they REALLY want to love you with all their heart and have a dream relationship (which they secretly know is impossible and it scares the hell out of them).
It really isn't a case of treat a woman like this, treat a woman like that. Just treat a woman like you'd want to be treated. Do you want your woman chatting to stacks of guy friends on her phone, and ripping it out of your hand when you check it out? Might that sort of behaviour make you a little bit anxious, regardless of whether these guys were before or after you?
If you don't like the feeling of vulnerability, it's not a case of don't be in a relationship, or just enter a relationship with a 'I don't give a ****' defensive shell around you ... it's a case of stop living. To be alive is to be vulnerable: to being run over, to being stabbed, to losing your job. We insure, we defend, we fight, we dream, we love, we sleep and we repeat ... every day. Stop trying to fight it or over-analyze it.
Do what you feel is right, and if it works it was meant to be. If it wasn't, it isn't, and that's good too. You win either way, don't you see?
Seriously though, Random Hero, stop asking for advice online ok? It's like reading reviews online ... you can read a dozen reviews that are positive and it only takes one negative review to cast everything you know into doubt. Do you really want that in your relationship?
Here's the truth about women: they're just like softer versions of guys. Peel away all the social conditioning of flowers, pink and fluffy teddies, and women are exactly like you: they don't want to be lied to, they're afraid you'll hurt their feelings; and they REALLY want to love you with all their heart and have a dream relationship (which they secretly know is impossible and it scares the hell out of them).
It really isn't a case of treat a woman like this, treat a woman like that. Just treat a woman like you'd want to be treated. Do you want your woman chatting to stacks of guy friends on her phone, and ripping it out of your hand when you check it out? Might that sort of behaviour make you a little bit anxious, regardless of whether these guys were before or after you?
If you don't like the feeling of vulnerability, it's not a case of don't be in a relationship, or just enter a relationship with a 'I don't give a ****' defensive shell around you ... it's a case of stop living. To be alive is to be vulnerable: to being run over, to being stabbed, to losing your job. We insure, we defend, we fight, we dream, we love, we sleep and we repeat ... every day. Stop trying to fight it or over-analyze it.
Do what you feel is right, and if it works it was meant to be. If it wasn't, it isn't, and that's good too. You win either way, don't you see?
Sounds like you're quite serious about her. Her issue is that she wants to focus on her studies, which is reasonable, rational, and responsible. Talk to her, tell her that you like her and see potential for a long-term relationship with her, and you respect that she wants to focus on her studies, but if she is interested in a relationship, you are happy to spend time helping her with her studies. And then, if given the opportunity, go through with it. Use quality time with her to help with her coursework. It will be personal enrichment learning for you too.
Or send her dic pics.
Yes. Pleas to stop sending me dick pics!
If you don't want them, send them back.
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Do yourself a favor and cut your losses short. There's crazy and then there's CRAZY and this girl falls into the second camp. I know you've got feelings for her, but there is no possible way this is going to end well. Sending messages to girls warning them not to talk to your boyfriend when you've been dating for a year would raise eyebrows. Doing it after a couple of weeks of seeing each other is an incredibly bad sign.
You're going to have to learn that you can't always let your heart overrule your head. Relationships can't work like that. I fully understand what you're going through and every single one of us here does. When you've got feelings for someone you don't want to accept that you're better off not pursuing. We've all had our hearts broken by people we know weren't right for us. You already know she's not right for you. If you thought she was right for you, you wouldn't be asking us for advice on what to do.
Maybe you won't listen to us. I have a feeling that you won't based on your past history of ignoring our advice. But please know that this is not a case of leaving when the going gets tough. It's a case of leaving when things are crap right off the bat and continue to be crap. This girl is manipulative, controlling, excessively jealous with just a sprinkle of insanity. I really hope you don't get your heart broken too bad.
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Lol! Most of the gay guys I know are WAY worse than women when it comes to being oversensitive, neurotic, attention-seeking, moody, jealous, bitchy and tantrum-y.
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Bokkie just can't stop with the ridiculous stereotypes.
How many gay men do you know, drolletjie? People on TV and Nathaniel don't count.
About 15 couples and a number of singles. Believe it or not, dey love me and I love dem.
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And, you find that the most of them are " oversensitive, neurotic, attention-seeking, moody, jealous, bitchy and tantrum-y"?About 15 couples and a number of singles. Believe it or not, dey love me and I love dem.