Should I quit my job?

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Mrcricket

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Hi,

Okay, I started my job in October. I am a 23-year-old guy. I have posted here before about a girl who is extremely snappy. Today, she actually called me ''stupid'' which I did feel was a bit too much even though I may have committed an error.

She asked me to send a picture to my editor which I did. I awaited the editors response which never came on the picture but instead the editor decided to phone my co-worker today and tell her that the pictures were not Okay without telling me.

This girl then called me ''stupid'' and proceeded to take off with me. I am a very soft and quiet guy and instead just stayed there quiet after trying to reason with her that it was not totally my fault.

Today, things actually got so bad that I ended up taking one of my sleeping pills at work when my anxiety levels started peaking. I do sometimes do such things when my anxiety levels are high.

This girl is extremely snappy.

I am coming home anxious every day and I only earn R4500. Should I just quit? I also do have a degree in Journalism and Media Studies.
 
@OP

The reality is:
You can quit all you like but if you do not address the core issue, you yourself, then you will feel the same at any other place.

You also need to learn to manage the environment, the work items and the people in it. Especially saying no when its correctly to do so and putting your pen down when it is time to do so.
 
Agreed. Its critism some ppl don't know how to give it. Learn from it go ask how to improve you are not perfect it's an opportunity to grow. No need to quit if you think that's bad it's way worse out there. If you quit from this you will be quitting the rest of your career
 
Why is the editor playing broken telephone with you and your coworker?
 
Next time she tries to talk to you or ask you something simply reply 'later' and walk away.
 
You need to lodge a compliant with your manager (if there is one).
 
I have a friend you remind me off. Very soft guy, bit of a walkover and easily offended, get depressed very quickly.

I agree that someone in the workplace doesn't have the right to break you down, but then you need to stand up for yourself. The easy way out is to quit. That is a great option, all your problems will be solved. For a little while. Then it will just repeat.

Be confident in what you do. If you made a mistake, learn from it, make a joke now and then and grow from it. If she is snappy tell her to chill and mind her own business. You have a lot still to learn, so accept the positive input you get. Learn from the criticism you receive. Someone who attacks another persons identity is probably lonely and insecure herself. If she criticises your work, take the good, learn from the bad, chuck away the rubbish.

In the mean time look for another opportunity.

I would also suggest to see a specialist regarding the anxiety. Popping the sleeping pills is not a good idea.
 
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Hey man,

The "man up" advice isn't going to work for you, it's easy for people to make comments from the things you share but nobody knows how hard it is for you nor are they in the situation you are in.

Quitting your job is always hard, and it can be both frightening and stressful once you have done it, but you have to ask yourself if it is worth going into a place that makes you unhappy every day. Even if you don't quit right now, set up plans of leaving once you have met certain goals. Jobs aren't as scarce as many people think they are, at least not the ones for less than R5000 a month, if you are willing to work hard and conduct yourself properly.

I loved my job and was loved in my job, but you can only "man up" so many times and sacrifice things before you slowly lose everything you love for a work situation that makes you unhappy. I quit, but had to plan very carefully before I quit, and now I am happier than I have ever been.

All the best for your future
 
The kakkest thing about a kak situation is learning how to deal with it.
And I realize that's damn hard sometimes, I also struggle with life and the kak it throws at me.

If you're considering quitting, why not go out on a limb and ask her to get a coffee with you one day and just tell her how you feel? What's the worst that can happen? If she continues treating you bad then hey - you gave it a shot and it didn't work. But she might soften up and realize how kak she's been toward you. See what happens & take it from there.
 
STS said:
Hey man,

The "man up" advice isn't going to work for you, it's easy for people to make comments from the things you share but nobody knows how hard it is for you nor are they in the situation you are in.

Quitting your job is always hard, and it can be both frightening and stressful once you have done it, but you have to ask yourself if it is worth going into a place that makes you unhappy every day. Even if you don't quit right now, set up plans of leaving once you have met certain goals. Jobs aren't as scarce as many people think they are, at least not the ones for less than R5000 a month, if you are willing to work hard and conduct yourself properly.

I loved my job and was loved in my job, but you can only "man up" so many times and sacrifice things before you slowly lose everything you love for a work situation that makes you unhappy. I quit, but had to plan very carefully before I quit, and now I am happier than I have ever been.

All the best for your future
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While this is sound; if the problem lies with yourself you can quit as much as you like, but the next place will make you feel the same. E.g. you can't say no, and you let people walk over you. Even 100 jobs down the line people will still do this until you realise one day that you need to say no correctly and manage the people in it properly.

Finally and yes when that is done and you have done what you can to make it work and it is still not working then sure go look for something else.
 
STS said:
Hey man,

The "man up" advice isn't going to work for you, it's easy for people to make comments from the things you share but nobody knows how hard it is for you nor are they in the situation you are in.

Quitting your job is always hard, and it can be both frightening and stressful once you have done it, but you have to ask yourself if it is worth going into a place that makes you unhappy every day. Even if you don't quit right now, set up plans of leaving once you have met certain goals. Jobs aren't as scarce as many people think they are, at least not the ones for less than R5000 a month, if you are willing to work hard and conduct yourself properly.

I loved my job and was loved in my job, but you can only "man up" so many times and sacrifice things before you slowly lose everything you love for a work situation that makes you unhappy. I quit, but had to plan very carefully before I quit, and now I am happier than I have ever been.

All the best for your future
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I agree. We also don't know exactly what OP's work circumstances might be like. It might actually be much worse than he explains or it might really be nothing.

But the best is to learn from your environment and plan for something else while you are there. If you feel your identity or personality is under attack, report it. I am concerned that it is so bad you get anxiety attacks or any anxiety at all. That is not healthy. Or something is seriously wrong at work, or you need to see a specialist. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone for help. It might actually be better advice that what we give on the forum as the person will be able to talk to you directly.
 
RedViking said:
I agree. We also don't know exactly what OP's work circumstances might be like. It might actually be much worse than he explains or it might really be nothing.

But the best is to learn from your environment and plan for something else while you are there. If you feel your identity or personality is under attack, report it. I am concerned that it is so bad you get anxiety attacks or any anxiety at all. That is not healthy. Or something is seriously wrong at work, or you need to see a specialist. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone for help. It might actually be better advice that what we give on the forum as the person will be able to talk to you directly.
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Probably the best starting point here.
 
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