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Man, today is freaking hectic for me ... I went out during lunch to get some smokes and think I saw my mates wife in a car with another guy ...

Not 100% sure if it was her ..

wtf should I do?

I think I should just keep my mouth shut ... but what if it was her.
 
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Dude how sure are you it was her?

If you know for sure it was her you tell him, end of story. None of this BS of hiding kuk from people or it's not your problem, any decent mate would not let their mate get cheated on.
 
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has it ever occurred to you that it might be her boss on their way to a meeting? or a work colleague and they are just going out for lunch??
 
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But ....... is driving in a car with a man that is not your husband incriminating in itself (unless your friend and his wife are Amish :D) ... ?

Or did they do something else to arouse your suspicion?
 
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Leave it be. The damage caused if your are wrong (or even right) is not worth it. Just mention to her that you thought you saw her in town and see what the reaction is. But even then, let it be!
 
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I am not 100% sure ... but I think I can recognise that bottle blonde quite easily ... they were parked in the lot - talking ... she works in Midrand ...

I am gonna let slip that I saw her in Centurion when my mate is around.... then see what she say's. Then just it be.
 
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Why not just ask her?

"Hey, were in centurion this week?", could get an easy answer from just that...
 
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I think you are jumping to conclusions here.

Firstly, you aren't even sure if it was her. There are a lot of bottle blondes in Centurion :p

Secondly, she was in a car with a guy. Big wow! That doesn't now mean something downright dirty is going on. I've been in cars with men before i wasn't bonking them.
 
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OK, false alarm guys ...

She was in the office the whole day. I had reason for concern because her job does not involve any travelling so if she was in Centurion and my mate knew nothing about it, it was safe to assume that something fishy was going on.

I called my mate and innocently asked. She had lunch with him this afternoon.
 
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Serqet said:
I think you are jumping to conclusions here.

Firstly, you aren't even sure if it was her. There are a lot of bottle blondes in Centurion :p

Secondly, she was in a car with a guy. Big wow! That doesn't now mean something downright dirty is going on. I've been in cars with men before i wasn't bonking them.
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To be honest, I would rather jump to conclusions. Because I would rather have my friends have my back than keep things away from me. Even if the information is circumstantial / flimsy.
 
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hmm but ssd what if you had jumped to conclusions and started a fight between them when as it turns out it had all been a case of mistaken identity.

I agree you definitely have to look out for your friends and vice versa. But you also have to be 100% before you approach them with claims of infidelity.
 
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