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blunomore

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Your advice (yes, it's one of those questions!) :)

Without saying too much, my better half sent an e-mail to someone and he received a reply via e-mail (I am the one normally checking our e-mail address, so that is why I saw it first).

Options:

1. If I DO show it to him, it will hurt him a lot, because it concerns a personal issue between him and someone else.

2. If I DO NOT show it to him, he wil probably just assume the person ignored him, so he will be upset, but not AS hurt as he will be if I show him the mail.

What should I do?
 
Mark it as unread, then tell him to check the emails, because you're looking after minime.

Or something, but yeah - don't let it slide.
 
blunomore said:
Your advice (yes, it's one of those questions!) :)

Without saying too much, my better half sent an e-mail to someone and he received a reply via e-mail (I am the one normally checking our e-mail address, so that is why I saw it first).

Options:

1. If I DO show it to him, it will hurt him a lot, because it concerns a personal issue between him and someone else.

2. If I DO NOT show it to him, he wil probably just assume the person ignored him, so he will be upset, but not AS hurt as he will be if I show him the mail.

What should I do?
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Show him the mail, if he finds out you have hid it from him he will not only be upset with the person in question but also you. He's a big boy and should get over this person after all it sounds like they are not worth his time. Bottom line is dont try and mother him.
 
blunomore said:
Your advice (yes, it's one of those questions!) :)

Without saying too much, my better half sent an e-mail to someone and he received a reply via e-mail (I am the one normally checking our e-mail address, so that is why I saw it first).

Options:

1. If I DO show it to him, it will hurt him a lot, because it concerns a personal issue between him and someone else.

2. If I DO NOT show it to him, he wil probably just assume the person ignored him, so he will be upset, but not AS hurt as he will be if I show him the mail.

What should I do?
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Simple, the mail was for him & not you. Let him read it, it's better for him to know where he stands with said individual and I'm sure he will get over it.
Don't try and shield your other halve, instead support him.

Let the truth set your free...
 
Good advice has been given.

This thread can no be closed.
 
either show him,
or mark all new mail as unread,
or tell him in a gentle way to soften it, then let him read if he still wants(gives a chance to digest before reading)
but don't hide ANYTHING.!
 
Looks like we are all in agreement then ... to show him the mail!

Oh, and yes, I do know how to mark mail as unread :D
 
I agree. Show him or her (your better half) the e-mail and ask him/her to reply back. That's what I (as a female) would have done... I don't like hiding things and I would rather confront my other half and ask him why he was doing this in the first place anyway without letting me know what was going on. I mean if it was me doing that, I'd go to him and tell him what's going on so in the event, if he had better advice (that's if it makes sense), I'd tell him my man suggested this or that. I won't hide things from him at all...
 
Bloodrayne said:
I agree. Show him or her (your better half) the e-mail and ask him/her to reply back. That's what I (as a female) would have done... I don't like hiding things and I would rather confront my other half and ask him why he was doing this in the first place anyway without letting me know what was going on. I mean if it was me doing that, I'd go to him and tell him what's going on so in the event, if he had better advice (that's if it makes sense), I'd tell him my man suggested this or that. I won't hide things from him at all...
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:rolleyes:

Blu gave birth to babyBlu not long ago . . .
 
killadoob said:
The truth always hurts less than lies.
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Thank you very much (sir or madam). It actually hurts less than having to find out the truth. That's why I prefer being told the truth - much easier to accept.
 
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