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Safferbeauty

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A friend asked me the other day, how do u know when someone is the one or not? I am deffinitely no expert in relationships and find it hard to tell. What can I say to my friend?
 
You don't, ever, hence divorce.

You can only hope for the best :)
 
what if they don't have the same feelings..... Just out of pure interest but u know they are meant for u
 
You don't...

You will know if it was the wrong one after you're married a few years. But as to knowing who's the one... you will never know. It's a game of trial by error.
 
xrapidx said:
You don't, ever, hence divorce.

You can only hope for the best :)
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One thing about marriage i have decided, divorce won't ever be in my vocab unless there is extreme abuse or something otherwise the person is stuck with me forever hahaha. Hence prob why I am still single lol
 
xrapidx said:
Then you probably need professional help :p And maybe a restraining order.
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lol not me, well at least i like to think lol. If soeone really personally doesn't want me around then I tend to back off very quickly and disappear lol
 
Safferbeauty said:
what if they don't have the same feelings..... Just out of pure interest but u know they are meant for u
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xrapidx said:
Then you probably need professional help :p And maybe a restraining order.
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hahahhahahah this is true

but yeah sometimes you may think she is the one but if she doesnt have feelings for you ...you not her "one"
 
Safferbeauty said:
One thing about marriage i have decided, divorce won't ever be in my vocab unless there is extreme abuse or something otherwise the person is stuck with me forever hahaha. Hence prob why I am still single lol
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Its in my vocab - I my SO knows my feelings well - I won't work at a relationship, I want my partner to be my best friend, but its not a job - if you have to work at it continually, something is wrong.

Fortunately, I think I found the "one" - because she puts up with my crap, and it doesn't bother her, and the same for her crap :p


When it comes to the "one - its better said as "the one right now"
 
If she can stop squid-like robots, fly and dodge bullets, then she's the one.
 
xrapidx said:
Its in my vocab - I my SO knows my feelings well - I won't work at a relationship, I want my partner to be my best friend, but its not a job - if you have to work at it continually, something is wrong.

Fortunately, I think I found the "one" - because she puts up with my crap, and it doesn't bother her, and the same for her crap :p


When it comes to the "one - its better said as "the one right now"
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U r right there. U r pretty lucky lol
 
Safferbeauty said:
U r right there. U r pretty lucky lol
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You should see my ex :p definitely not the one... although she had certain skills I can only assume she learnt from her fathers porn stash that kept me around for 3 years :twisted:
 
xrapidx said:
You should see my ex :p definitely not the one... although she had certain skills I can only assume she learnt from her fathers porn stash that kept me around for 3 years :twisted:
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theres always that types :p

and sometimes yes you think you have met the one and spend alot of time with them and then they not the one
 
samr1wp said:
and sometimes yes you think you have met the one and spend alot of time with them and then they not the one
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I spent 5-6 years on one of those, my first girlfriend, even after her continuous cheating... was a hard lesson - but it taught me how to handle relationships from there onwards.
 
xrapidx said:
I spent 5-6 years on one of those, my first girlfriend, even after her continuous cheating... was a hard lesson - but it taught me how to handle relationships from there onwards.
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i spent a year with a chick who had another bf ...teaches you alot but my last x was "the one" ....didnt end that way tho

so my search is on again and i am the one now they shall find me :D
 
That not cool about the cheating part. How does one deal with jealousy because I know from experience jealousy can be a serious relationship killer :(
 
It may seem corny, and sure, I've only got 4 years of marriage and 3 years of serious relationship before that to go on but.. when I met my hubby, it was only a few weeks before I knew to the bottom of my heart and soul that he was my other half. So I decided to talk to him about it. Turns out he felt exactly the same way about me.

I was perfectly happy being single until he came along, and I almost immediately KNEW.
And sure, maybe perhaps eventually someday we'll realise that something's gone wrong and we'll split up. But that hasn't happenned yet and the past 7 years have been pretty downright awesome.

You really do just KNOW. If you have any uncertainty, rather spend more time getting to know them. But you will reach a point where you will just know that they're right or they're not. For some people it takes longer to get to that point than others.
 
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