The one

Nokkie said:
I have doubts on marriage. Even thou I think she is the one...

Partly due to the fact of divorce and such,
not me but my parents often remarried a lot.
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Doubts on marriage is normal.

I meant more if you have doubts about the important things: trust, loyalty, commitment.

If you have doubts there then it's pretty much over with.
 
Safferbeauty said:
what if they don't have the same feelings..... Just out of pure interest but u know they are meant for u
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Then they're not the one. "the one" has a mutual reciprocation of your feelings. If they don't have the same feelings you do for them, they're not it.
 
Well, my thoughts regarding this, are that the one is probably not real.

Rather look for your best friend. :)
A previous friend of mine's father always introduced his wife to everyone as "My best friend, (name)"
 
Its compares fairly well,
samr1wp said:
so you should actully be able to learn from that and see what your relationship is like compare to parents
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I guess it must be a phobia, I have discussed it with my gf and she said We don't have to get married she is fine with how the relationship is.

We can be partners for life.
 
My advice or stance on the whole matter is just to love blindly (love is blind after all) if the love is reciprocated the only way you'd know for sure if things will work or not is to take the leap of faith and marry each other (regardless of religion or "its only a piece of paper" view points out there)

If it doesn't work, you'll know and can be better prepared to move on to the next. However, don't just marry someone after 2 weeks without keeping in mind (and having an open mind at that), that there are things you won't know about the person and may annoy you to the point of insanity.

If you're a mentally stable individual, open to change and accepting of habits/past events, then go for it. It's easy to think with your genitals first and live in regret later. So make sure it's not that either.

"the one" presents themselves to you where you have an overwhelming feeling to be with them. I'm not talking about the puppy-dog stage where you're so infatuated with each other it feels real. I mean you can imagine the other person 30 years down the line being with you and still stir those emotions within you. Something OTHER than what your genitals are saying.
 
Safferbeauty said:
what if they don't have the same feelings..... Just out of pure interest but u know they are meant for u
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Then you're a creepy overly infatuated stalker.

Do you have a shrine with pictures and stuff of them hidden in your closet? That's a pretty big warning sign right there.
 
Nokkie said:
Its compares fairly well,

I guess it must be a phobia, I have discussed it with my gf and she said We don't have to get married she is fine with how the relationship is.

We can be partners for life.
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Warning: Your gf wants to get married but be surprised by your proposal and be swept off her feet. Failure to provide this would lead to the destruction of your current working relationship and you will see her slowly drift off as she matures.

Don't take what women say to you at face value. Know the emotions and logic behind the creature, and you'll have a winning hand.
 
Xmailer9 said:
Well, my thoughts regarding this, are that the one is probably not real.

Rather look for your best friend. :)
A previous friend of mine's father always introduced his wife to everyone as "My best friend, (name)"
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+1 this is key to what I've said before. If you're on that terms with your relationship and not thinking about ****ing/sucking all the time, then you probably have "the one"
 
Nokkie said:
Its compares fairly well,

I guess it must be a phobia, I have discussed it with my gf and she said We don't have to get married she is fine with how the relationship is.

We can be partners for life.
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its up to you guys what ever feels better cause marriage is sometimes a blessing for a relationship or a curse
 
Safferbeauty said:
A friend asked me the other day, how do u know when someone is the one or not? I am deffinitely no expert in relationships and find it hard to tell. What can I say to my friend?
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When you can immagine your life living with him/her, it is lust.

When you can't immagine your life without him/her, it is love.

Then you know.... that and the songs make sense.
 
What on Earth makes people believe there is a "one"?

All the petfect, happy couples all over the place?

You have criteria that attracts you to certain people and those who fulfill enough of that criteria you fall in love with if and when you meet them.

Believing that some power decides that there is one particular person out of 7 billion that you are meant to be with is romantic silliness.
 
Don't believe in the concept.

AcidRaZor said:
Warning: Your gf wants to get married but be surprised by your proposal and be swept off her feet. Failure to provide this would lead to the destruction of your current working relationship and you will see her slowly drift off as she matures.

Don't take what women say to you at face value. Know the emotions and logic behind the creature, and you'll have a winning hand.
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Or she could mean what she says.
 
Xmailer9 said:
Well, my thoughts regarding this, are that the one is probably not real.

Rather look for your best friend. :)
A previous friend of mine's father always introduced his wife to everyone as "My best friend, (name)"
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I can agree with this. My fiancee is also my best friend :)
 
There is no such thing as 'the one'. It has a lot more to do with you than the other person. You make him/her 'the one' or accept him/her as 'the one'. Some people are just easier to make into or accept as 'the one'.
 
Didn't realise some of you were so soppy....:P

I don't know if there is such a thing as the "one"....? Would be awesome if there was tho', and if you actually met them while you were young enough to have a wonderful life together
 
Polly101 said:
Didn't realise some of you were so soppy....:P

I don't know if there is such a thing as the "one"....? Would be awesome if there was tho', and if you actually met them while you were young enough to have a wonderful life together
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I wish we all farted air freshener.

:D
 
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