Things you do for your SO?

Only one thing left that I do for her that doesn't interest me. Watching certain series. I just cannot make myself like them. All the other stuff has fallen into the category of, I kinda like doing it by now.
 
HendrieV said:
Shopping at the mall.:cry:
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It got to a point where I had irritated my wife so often at the mall. That she now wont take me with when going on a long shop. It is a double edged sword though. I get to chill at home and do my thing, but she gets to spend without my supervision.
 
Lol, we don't really do things for each other that I can think of. We cook equally/parent equally, have our own spaces so he can play xbox/watch telly when ever he wants and I have my own for the series etc he cant tolerate. I guess I download sci-fi movies for him and he will haul out the drill when I need some diy done that I cant do myself. umm, otherwise..we pretty much do our own thing so no pressure on each other to keep the other happy.
 
Carol35 said:
Lol, we don't really do things for each other that I can think of. We cook equally/parent equally, have our own spaces so he can play xbox/watch telly when ever he wants and I have my own for the series etc he cant tolerate. I guess I download sci-fi movies for him and he will haul out the drill when I need some diy done that I cant do myself. umm, otherwise..we pretty much do our own thing so no pressure on each other to keep the other happy.
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This is very much how my wife and I are.
She lets me game for hours, I clean , cook ,etc in return.
 
Electric said:
I have to site through my wife's farts :(
I make supper most nights, do all the washing, pack and unpack the dishwasher most nights, do the leftover dishes, take out the garbage, clean the house,etc.

She helps occasionally.
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Hi Electrics wife ...stop posting with electrics account

you embarassing him
 
YingYang said:
I don't miss a game of rugby or cricket and we have kids.

They're two girls thought so they keep each other occupied, playing in the yard.

I've taught my wife both cricket and rugby. Its gotten to the point where, if I'm not home, she'll call me if I'm not home to tell me the game is about to start. :)
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i need to get my wife to do that

we dont have dstv at home so sport is not an option for me

i do get my gaming time though

but she joins me when we need to go out and watch the soccer ..
 
OrbitalDawn said:
She "lets" you game because you cook and clean? Sounds like a child/mother relationship.

Do you "let" her do her hobbies? What does she do in return?
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That's not what I meant but whatever.
I've been married for 14 years now, very happily I might add.
 
OrbitalDawn said:
I'm trying to understand the dynamic you've got going there.
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We have a very good dynamic.
I do what I want generally when I want to and so does she.

I make sure that I do what needs to be done so that she does not feel like a slave or anything.
In general I try to do the bulk of the chores because I like to make her feel special.

She in turn "lets" me do what I want.

Does that make more sense?
 
Electric said:
We have a very good dynamic.
I do what I want generally when I want to and so does she.

I make sure that I do what needs to be done so that she does not feel like a slave or anything.
In general I try to do the bulk of the chores because I like to make her feel special.

She in turn "lets" me do what I want.

Does that make more sense?
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Little bit, but it still sounds iffy to me. You do the bulk of the chores to make her feel special, and in turn she "lets" you do what you want... By this logic she shouldn't get to do what she wants because she's not doing enough, chores wise.

And why would she feel like a slave if you're the one doing the majority of the work? Just sounds like the balance is way off. Do you both work full time?
 
OrbitalDawn said:
Little bit, but it still sounds iffy to me. You do the bulk of the chores to make her feel special, and in turn she "lets" you do what you want... By this logic she shouldn't get to do what she wants because she's not doing enough, chores wise.

And why would she feel like a slave if you're the one doing the majority of the work? Just sounds like the balance is way off. Do you both work full time?
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Yes we both work full time.
I don't know why it is this way, maybe because I allow it and have for all these years.

It's not an issue to me though or I would not have done it, I also don't want to make it sound like she does no household chores.
I've just always felt it was a nice way to show how much I care for her.
 
We're going into the psychology of my marriage now though and I don't think there's any need for that :)
 
Electric said:
Yes we both work full time.
I don't know why it is this way, maybe because I allow it and have for all these years.

It's not an issue to me though or I would not have done it, I also don't want to make it sound like she does no household chores.
I've just always felt it was a nice way to show how much I care for her.
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Electric said:
We're going into the psychology of my marriage now though and I don't think there's any need for that :)
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Yeah, sure. I wasn't disparaging it. I just find it a curious setup.
 
I think the "she lets me game" phrase is what is throwing you off OD. I suspect that his wife understands/tolerates his need to game to whatever frequency he deems necessary, without going into nagging fishwife mode, because she understands that he has taken on the majority of the daily chores.

So when the urge to go nagging over his shoulder arises, whilst he pwns some newbs, her rational mind remembers all the work he does and she thinks better of it.

So she is not letting him play games. She is simply leaving him to game in peace.
 
SoulTax said:
I think the "she lets me game" phrase is what is throwing you off OD. I suspect that his wife understands/tolerates his need to game to whatever frequency he deems necessary, without going into nagging fishwife mode, because she understands that he has taken on the majority of the daily chores.

So when the urge to go nagging over his shoulder arises, whilst he pwns some newbs, her rational mind remembers all the work he does and she thinks better of it.

So she is not letting him play games. She is simply leaving him to game in peace.
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Fair enough. :p
 
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