Trying to concieve a child

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Hello everyone,

I wanted to start this for women who are still waiting for a child, who have tried for a long time, have suffered miscarriages, still births, suffering from Fibroid, Ovarian cyst, blocked fallopian tubes etc and are trying to find alternative ways of having a child.

So please come in let us support one another we can pray together, share ideas seek advice and get advice and travel this road together dont suffer in silence don't cry alone anymore let us help each other, until the day we carry our bundle of joy.

Thanks
 
Not female...my SO had trouble at first....tried for 6 years and nothing. Stopped trying accepted the fact.....git horribly drunk one night and surprise!
 
Get the Glow app on your and your partners smart phone it makes things a whole lot easier.

And stop praying, it does nothing.
 
I am not saying that PCOS and blockages and whatnot are all rubbish, they are far from it. BUT, many Women can have a massive amount of problems that "half" get in the way. Simple stress can stop you from conceiving because female mammals have evolved to prevent conception during times of stress. Your body doesn't know what the causes of the stress are, but prolonged stress, on an evolutionary standpoint, is characterised by famine. Your body will prevent you from conceiving because it presumes that the environment is not conducive to successfully raising a child.

Often these issues that you find out about yourself, and your doctor diagnoses you with, just cause more stress that makes the goal that much harder to attain. Reducing your stress is not the answer for everyone, but it certainly helps a lot of people who initially were told that their problem was an unavoidable internal one.

Another thing to do, is get your man to test his seed. SERIOUSLY.
I know of a lot of couples that have had tons of issues conceiving, and because the woman was diagnosed with PCOS, they just put it down to that. Eventually, after years of trying, they head to the doctors to get clomid or something similar. Only to have the doctor say that the guy needs to be tested first, before clomid is prescribed, because clomid will do nothing if the guy has issues too. Then they find out that the guy has an issue and they realise that they have been fighting far more than simply a bit of PCOS.

Men often think that because they ejaculate a large load, that this magically means that all must be well. But there is so much more to it than filling a shot glass in one shot. Educate him, and get him tested.
 
My sister hadn't taken contraceptives for years but she and her husband were still sexually active. SIL fell pregnant, next month sister was pregnant.

Test the sperm as well as the lady's reproductive system.
 
Stop trying to have a child for about 6 months and just enjoy each other.
 
The_Mowgs said:
Stop trying to have a child for about 6 months and just enjoy each other.
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This is excellent advice.

Stress/pressure is a big contributing factor. Go away on a fun holliday and worry only about making each other happy ;-)
 
Hi ladies,

If anyone wants to ask about the assisted side of it, I'm happy to respond. Wife and struggled for 7 years, surgeries, AI and finally ivf.
 
I know 2 people who have been struggling for years to conceive. My sister fell pregnant at 38, after almost 10 years with the same guy
 
Tifada said:
Hello everyone,

I wanted to start this for women who are still waiting for a child, who have tried for a long time, have suffered miscarriages, still births, suffering from Fibroid, Ovarian cyst, blocked fallopian tubes etc and are trying to find alternative ways of having a child.

So please come in let us support one another we can pray together, share ideas seek advice and get advice and travel this road together dont suffer in silence don't cry alone anymore let us help each other, until the day we carry our bundle of joy.

Thanks
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My wife fell pregnant easily with our first child after two months and then again with the second pregnancy but we lost it early on (12 weeks). Trying again now, I felt incredibly guilty with the first child because i was so easy and so many of our friends struggled, one had 9 miscarriages all with IVF. When the miscarriage happened to us it did humble me quite a bit and I realised so much of it is blind luck.No need to take anything personally, its horrible to go through but you just need to appreciate what you have when you get it. Our friend who had the 9 IVF's has two kids now, both conceived naturally.
 
OCP said:
This is excellent advice.

Stress/pressure is a big contributing factor. Go away on a fun holliday and worry only about making each other happy ;-)
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+1000s

True story time. My brother and his wife tried for years. Many sad stories along the way of termination and even still birth. Eventually they accepted it was not to be and they decided they wanted to adopt. It was a long process of adopting a baby but eventually they had their luck.

So they adopted a baby boy and at 3 months old, they got him home. On his first birthday 9 months later, they had a son naturally and the two boys now in their 20s have the same birthday a year apart.

Easily said, but stress is a major factor.
 
I agree stress is a one of the major factor but its not easy to take mind off it especially for women.
 
Tifada said:
I agree stress is a one of the major factor but its not easy to take mind off it especially for women.
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It is not just that it is especially difficult for women to drop the stress. It is that women are the ones primarily effected by that stress. The man and woman can both be equally as stressed. A man's swimmers are not nearly as badly effected by stress as a woman's everything in the baby making department.
 
If a person has not naturally conceived after six months of being off contraception, consult your gynae.
 
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