Urgent. Peadophile?

Gazer said:
Exactly, but teenagers think about the physical part first and then only deal with the emotional fallout afterwards.
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Yes, and people here can get upset with me all they want and ignore me all they want, but I still believe that it should be the 25 year old taking the high road and not get involved with a 16 year old, for that obvious reason.
 
Gazer said:
And I think we've come full circle...that's why 16 yr old girls go for the older guys. They're looking for a long term commitment which teenage boys won't provide.
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Guys in there lower 20's only have one thing in mind too
 
Gazer said:
Me too. I can remember bawling my eyes out over my first lover.
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See, and if I can spare her that, I will. I have to try, even if I don’t succeed I have to try, that is my obligation, it is not a choice. I am her father.
 
DDV TECH said:
Yes, and people here can get upset with me all they want and ignore me all they want, but I still believe that it should be the 25 year old taking the high road and not get involved with a 16 year old, for that obvious reason.
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I also think that not all 16 yr olds are going to get involved. A lot of them are looking for "father figures" in the older guys if their own father has been absent. Obviously the 25 yr old should not be getting involved with a 16 yr old...but it does happen. Make sure you spend time with your daughter and she must know she can talk to you about anything.
 
Gazer said:
Me too. I can remember bawling my eyes out over my first lover.
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ok, im not bawling my eyes out anymore... the cipralex is keeping me sane.

but ya, i feel the 25yr old should be dating someone closer to his own age. 9 years is fine if the dude is like... 40... but theres a big gap in maturity and and needs at ages 25 and 16. i'm 20 and i dont feel comfortable dating anyone younger than 18.
 
...2360 students in the schools allocated to the control arm of a cluster-randomized controlled trial to investigate the effect of a school-based HIV prevention programme among Grade 8 students in Cape Town. Of the 1440 students who were virgins at baseline, 1144 remained virgins 15 months later and 296 (20.6%) reported having had their first sexual intercourse. Transition to first sexual intercourse was more likely among males than females, among older students and among students with a lower socio-economic status. Transition to first sexual intercourse was significantly associated with intentions to have sexual intercourse, poor self-efficacy to negotiate delayed sex and intimate partner violence.
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J Child Psychol Psychiatry. 2007 Dec 17; : 18093112 (P,S,G,E,B,D)
 
DDV TECH said:
See, and if I can spare her that, I will. I have to try, even if I don’t succeed I have to try, that is my obligation, it is not a choice. I am her father.
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And it sounds like you're a good, caring father. Hopefully with your guidance she is spared major heartache (there will always be some of it).
 
Gazer said:
I also think that not all 16 yr olds are going to get involved. A lot of them are looking for "father figures" in the older guys if their own father has been absent. Obviously the 25 yr old should not be getting involved with a 16 yr old...but it does happen. Make sure you spend time with your daughter and she must know she can talk to you about anything.
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I do, she does. I quit a very high paying job to spend more time at home, there is nothing I will not do to ensure my families’ welfare.
 
This one is most telling.

One-fifth of 15-year-olds in South Africa were HIV-positive
The HIV and Aids pandemic complicates the picture and a candid talk with a group of 15-year-olds turned up the information that they all knew girls who were routinely engaging in oral sex - both because they believed it was safer, and because they didn't consider it "actual sex".

"Sex is sex" is, however, the adamant response from Carol Bower, executive director of Resources Aimed at the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect (Rapcan), who says teenagers are making the decision to have sex for three reasons only - peer pressure, because they're curious, or because they want to keep a boyfriend (in the case of girls).

There is another, vital level to the teen sex debate too, according to loveLife chief executive officer Dr David Harrison, who points out that it is these youngsters who hold the key to turning around South Africa's HIV pandemic.

He said that "real opportunity" rested in the fact that less than one-fifth of 15-year-olds in South Africa were HIV-positive.

"If they were to grow up largely uninfected, the overall incidence of HIV would be halved by 2010, and prevalence would steadily decline over the next 15 years," Harrison said.

He listed six "big drivers to early sex in South Africa":


Peer pressure

Coercion

Sex for money

Low self-esteem

Pessimism

Lack of communication by parents

The most up-to-date research on the issue of teen sex in Cape Town, by Professor Alan Flisher, head of the University of Cape Town's department of psychiatry and mental health, prompted calls for intervention programmes to start in primary school, in the light of results that showed that by 14, nearly 24% of boys and 5.5% of girls had had sex.
By 19, the 2003 research found, the proportions went up to 72% for boys and 58% for girls.

The pupils canvassed were in Grades 8 and 11, from 39 high schools, and researchers found between these grades a sharp increase in the number of pupils having sex.
"For each grade, a significantly higher proportion of males had experienced sexual intercourse," they said at that time.

A total of 23.4% reported having had sex by 14. The figure jumped to 34.5% by age 15, to 45.9% by 16, 53.7% at 17, 58.3% by 18 and nearly 70% by the age of 20.

Among girls, Flisher's research showed a significant increase in sexual activity between the ages of 14 and 15.
At 14, 5.5% of girls said they had had sex. Just a year older, that figure was up to 14%. By 18, just under half the girls had had sex.

South African teens who believe oral sex is safer are not alone either; a study from the United States released earlier this month found that one in five US teenagers said they had engaged in oral sex.

The survey of 580 children with an average age of 14 found that 20% said they had engaged in oral sex, compared to 14% who said that they had had sexual intercourse. In addition, one-third of the 14-year-olds said they intended to have oral sex within the next six months, and nearly a quarter planned to have intercourse during the same period.

While the risk of transmitting infections, including HIV, is significantly less with oral sex than with intercourse, there are suspected cases.

Scientists have also documented several other sexually transmitted diseases that have been transmitted through oral sex, including herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, genital warts, intestinal parasites and Hepatitis A.

Back in South Africa, Bower drew attention to a much deeper debate around first-time sexual experience for local youngsters.

She said that in the African context, girls who postponed sex stayed at school longer, attained higher levels of education, and generally escaped the teenage pregnancy scenario and went on to tertiary education.

"You can't stop teenagers from experimenting - though I'm not saying for a minute that sex is what they should be doing - but there is a pervasive atmosphere of sexuality in South Africa.

"And a lot of the time girls start having sex because it is important
for them to have a boyfriend. It's so much part of their self-image and status that they'll make a lot of compromises around starting sexual activity," she said.
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http://www.iol.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=13&art_id=vn20050429103530387C962494
 
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Ghost02 said:
Send her to church, thats mostly what makes girls wait, if guys know a girl is a Christian they won't bang her as fast. . .
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that wont stop them from trying man... its up to the girl to cut them off. sending her to church can make her hold out if she believes in not having pre-marital sex, but i know a lot of christian girls who've had sex because of a more progressive religious view (ie: its fine to have sex if you feel a strong connection/love etc)
 
DDV TECH said:
I do, she does. I quit a very high paying job to spend more time at home, there is nothing I will not do to ensure my families’ welfare.
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Good on you. If my father had spent more time with me I'd probably have had different experiences.
 
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