Was I wrong?

koeks said:
your brother was a idiot but you were also an idiot. you were supposed to be a bigger man by not fighting him and telling him that is he is an idiot...

but i guess emotions were high and being rational was out of the question...

your brother is also wrong... but it sounds like you wanted to kill him,
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If it wasn't for my dad and my wife I would prob have been in Jail today :(

I have to be the bigger man an appologize, but it feels so damn wrong. I see nothing wrong with the way I acted appart from the kid seeing it. But if I don't step up to the plate and appologize I doubt anything else will ever mend my relationship with my family.

Thinking about it now makes my blood boil for the way my dad stood up for my brother defending him for slapping my kid :mad:
 
Pitbull said:
Long story short.

My brother slapped my little boy on Sunday for hitting him in the balls. (He was trying to play with my brother and he hit him in the nuts by accident.) Now my Brother is a big guy and because of this he thinks he can do as he please.

The moment I saw hit hitting my kid against his head I jumped down from the trailer and hit him a few times. A scuffle ensued and I got another few hits in this all while my dad tried to calm the situation.

All of this happened in front of my little boy, my wife and my dad.

I gave him quite a hiding and he needed stitches to his left eye. The problem now is that my dad says it was uncalled for and I had no reason to hit my brother. a Massive family fight ensued, I took my kids and the wife and left. My dad pissed me off for standing up for him hitting my kid which is 3 years old.

So now my whole family is cross at me for standing up for my kid. (Pls note this was not the first time he slapped my son and I have warned him before)

Anyway, I'm now without a family because of this, I just need to know if I was right in all of this... Just thinking of this now makes me livid again... I can kill him I swear.
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It was a tad excessive, but well done for standing up to your son.

Family drama... NOT.
 
Pitbull said:
I have to be the bigger man an appologize, but it feels so damn wrong. I see nothing wrong with the way I acted appart from the kid seeing it. But if I don't step up to the plate and appologize I doubt anything else will ever mend my relationship with my family.

Thinking about it now makes my blood boil for the way my dad stood up for my brother defending him for slapping my kid :mad:
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look at it this way...

firstly your brother slapped your kid who was just playing with him, when he should just said no or something...

secondly you acted in the same manner as your brother, when you should of said no...

i don't think that your father is actually defending your little brother but actually saying that you are in the wrong here because you failed to do the grown up thing... i do agree that you are not wrong for wanting hitting him... but you are wrong for doing it...

Your brother slaps kid when he is not supposed to= idiot
a bigger brother punches younger brother when he is not supposed to=idiot...

your father should also not take any sides and understand, that you were wrong and that your brother was totally wrong...
 
IMO there are deeper issues than him slapping your son. Families breed resentments over years and I reckon it was one too much for you. So now whatever hostilities you all have built up towards each other are crystallized in this issue with your son.
 
Pitbull said:
No I haven't as yet. I don't know what to tell him....
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Tell him you love him and will defend him with your life. tell him he must always tell you when someone hurts him or do things to him that is not allowed. Win his trust and pride that his DAD protected him.
 
cerebus said:
IMO there are deeper issues than him slapping your son. Families breed resentments over years and I reckon it was one too much for you. So now whatever hostilities you all have built up towards each other are crystallized in this issue with your son.
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You are 100% correct and I just realized this while responding to a PM I received. There is undelying issues here, my brother has for a long time been funny with both my kids. He is the young one in the house and my folks have always had all the time in the world for him. Now since the little ones arrived he prob feel that his turf is being violated. But if that is the case he should grow up FFS. He's not a damn kid no more....

But yes, there is underlying issues I assume we need to address first between the 2 of us before anything else can be sorted.
 
Dude...I back you decision 100%. It was an accident....your boet had no right! Given its not the 1st time he has done this, I would have reacted exactly the same!! Good for you! Sucks your family dont see it...but you did the right thing!
 
koeks said:
secondly you acted in the same manner as your brother, when you should of said no...
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It's a bit late to say no after the child was hit. If it was YOUR child, what would YOU have done?

You say no to little children, not adults who have been warned before not to lay a hand on a child. It is easy to pass judgement if you haven't been in a similar situation.
 
Jeesuzz :eek: If you disagree with someone, after normal discussion/arguments failed, then tell them to fark off, or kark them out, or boycott the next family gathering or whatever. Not bash the offender into hospital. I'm not saying/implying you will ever hit your wife, but geez, if you can lose your cool like that, I mean how do you control it?

Are you sure you jumped off the trailer, not out of the trailer? ;)
 
Cadavre777 said:
It's a bit late to say no after the child was hit. If it was YOUR child, what would YOU have done?

You say no to little children, not adults who have been warned before not to lay a hand on a child. It is easy to pass judgement if you haven't been in a similar situation.
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I'm not passing judgement. I'm simply answering the question...

like your sig says

"Becoming a bad person is easy, it's becoming a good one which is difficult.
"

i too might have acted in the same way... emotions will cloud your judgment...
 
guess how that child will grow up if he gets beaten up by his uncle ? i think you did the right thing. I mean, for petes sake, a 3 year old cant really hit that hard, so for accidently hitting someone in the balls, well thats just the balls' loss.
It was very unmature of your brother to hit a 3 year old, damn... !!
The family must just get over it and move on. Leave them for a week or 2. Than rock up at your dad's door and pretend as if nothing has happened.
 
Your bro was wrong. It's YOUR job to klap your kid, NOT his.

However, you might have over-reacted a tad on your side too. Jumped the guy, resulting in stitches?
 
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