What couples fight about the most

[Nick333]

My last couple relationships I was too drunk at the time to remember what we were arguing about.

 

[creeper]

We argue about whatever my wife decides to argue about on any particular day.

I surprised they have a list. Normally us men have no idea what the argument is about. And it changes the whole time.

 

[Lycanthrope]

Have you ever thought about improving your listening skills?

my gf says I don't know how to communicate, I told her she doesn't know how to listen. so we did a little test where i advised her to look at the current situation or what happened a few hours earlier. pay attention to the few words that are spoken. and she must tell her stories in 3 breaths or less, my attention span is that of a gnat so you gotta be quick.

oh and don't talk to me while i am distracted, i will agree to almost anything.
and if i say nothing is wrong, nothing is wrong!

No, no. He genuinely has a problem communicating, he's aware of it himself. How to explain... I'm, the only person in the world he feels comfortable talking to. If his own parents talk to him, he sometimes doesn't know how to respond or what to say.

He's improved a lot over the years, but he really struggles to speak to people or know what appropriate social cues are.

I kind of suspect he has Asperger's or something to that effect. He's phenomenally intelligent, but his social skills are nil.

He's the sweetest, kindest, gentlest creature on earth. But I think that most people who he comes across don't realise that because he tends to seem disinterested in them, when he really just doesn't know what to say to them.

Funny soul.

 

[BobsLawnService]

Aw, that is sweet.

 

[Electric]

I had an argument about too many carbs in our food the other night.
Well not so much an argument as much as me being crapped on for mentioning I didn't want a plate of couscous.

I got hammered for criticizing her cooking?? wtf??

 

[AlphaBravo]

A debate becomes an argument the moment logic starts to make sense.

 

[BobsLawnService]

Lycanthrope, may I ask a personal question? Given how socially awkward your SO is, how did you get together?

 

[guest2013-1]

#9 and #7, eish

Apparently I can't communicate very well

 

[Mars]

No.9 is top of my list.

Communication is super important.

 

[Sapcat]

You guys involve the wife in decision making? Pfft Amateurs.

 

[Lycanthrope]

Aw, that is sweet.

Shaddap.

Lycanthrope, may I ask a personal question? Given how socially awkward your SO is, how did you get together?

Ironically, we met on a gaming forum. He was looking for friends on Steam and on this particular day I was bored and felt like chatting to someone, so I added him.

He was difficult to talk to at first (he responded slowly) but he became better at it. I figured he was just a shy person (and this is what he thought of himself at the time).

We were friends for about two years before we became 'boyfriends' and that phase lasted for three years before we married and became husbands.

I got to know him and his quirks pretty well in that time.

He really sucks at interacting with people (as I said, people easily mistake his outward mannerisms as indifference; when he needs to deal with something he never says more than the bare minimum of what's required to get what he needs) but he's got a really warm, friendly, kind, loving and silly personality.

But he's very awkward in other ways too such as his facial expressions and body language, like he never quite learned to loosen up and relax

 

[DTBA]

Shaddap.



Ironically, we met on a gaming forum. He was looking for friends on Steam and on this particular day I was bored and felt like chatting to someone, so I added him.

He was difficult to talk to at first (he responded slowly) but he became better at it. I figured he was just a shy person (and this is what he thought of himself at the time).

We were friends for about two years before we became 'boyfriends' and that phase lasted for three years before we married and became husbands.

I got to know him and his quirks pretty well in that time.

He really sucks at interacting with people (as I said, people easily mistake his outward mannerisms as indifference; when he needs to deal with something he never says more than the bare minimum of what's required to get what he needs) but he's got a really warm, friendly, kind, loving and silly personality.

But he's very awkward in other ways too such as his facial expressions and body language, like he never quite learned to loosen up and relax

You don't see that a lot most of the time you get friendZoneD after a year

 

[Lycanthrope]

You don't see that a lot most of the time you get friendZoneD after a year

That was also when I was still with my ex.

But my ex broke it off with me. Apparently I was "too controlling" (read: I told him he was a ****ing idiot too often, that his friends--who had repeatedly betrayed him and hurt his feelings--were no good for him, and that his mother--who was adamant that he, after he came out as gay, would become an AIDS-infested, drug-consuming prostitute--was a bat**** insane witch).

Easily the worst relationship of my life. Lasted four years and not a week went by without some major argument...

 

[googoodoll]

That was also when I was still with my ex.

But my ex broke it off with me. Apparently I was "too controlling" (read: I told him he was a ****ing idiot too often, that his friends--who had repeatedly betrayed him and hurt his feelings--were no good for him, and that his mother--who was adamant that he, after he came out as gay, would become an AIDS-infested, drug-consuming prostitute--was a bat**** insane witch).

Easily the worst relationship of my life. Lasted four years and not a week went by without some major argument...

How did you last that long arguing every week???

 

[Lycanthrope]

How did you last that long arguing every week???

I believed that I loved him. I figured we promised to stick together through thick or thin.

I've realised since that sometimes you have to do what's best for you too. And that's the one thing I can thank him for--if he didn't break up with me, we'd still be in a terrible relationship. Since then everything has only improved. I got married, my husband has a wonderful family and I now live in Sweden with a 500Mbps internet connection and all of Europe to explore.

I like to think my ex got the short end of the stick

 

[googoodoll]

I used to get angry because my boyfriend is a gamer and plays games all the time... We argued about it a few times.

But I have accepted the fact that you don't interfere with a geek and his games

 

[creeper]

I used to get angry because my boyfriend is a gamer and plays games all the time... We argued about it a few times.

But I have accepted the fact that you don't interfere with a geek and his games

Better solution. Join him.

 

[BobsLawnService]

My missus is also not a gamer while I do enjoy the occasional game (I only play for five or six hours a week) but this also tends to be a cause of friction.

The missus doesn't seem to like watching me do "nothing" for some reason.

 

[Lycanthrope]

I used to get angry because my boyfriend is a gamer and plays games all the time... We argued about it a few times.

But I have accepted the fact that you don't interfere with a geek and his games

My missus is also not a gamer while I do enjoy the occasional game (I only play for five or six hours a week) but this also tends to be a cause of friction.

The missus doesn't seem to like watching me do "nothing" for some reason.

So glad that I found someone who enjoys gaming with me

 

[noxibox]

Better solution. Join him.

Now we have to decide who gets to play on the big TV.