What would YOU do if you ..

[xrapidx]

Don't forget to seek help

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Please go bash someone else. I don't need crap from random people I don't know. I wanted critical advice from people, and instead you go on a rampage because you had a *** day. My ex was never out of my league, we had been together for a year. So it was not a "kinky game" girlfriend.

So please, if you don't have any comments about what I asked, refrain from posting. And yes, I'm a 23 year old manchild as someone else put it earlier. All I asked is what others would do if they were in my situation.

Dude, face it - you needed a little bashing. That was a terrible idea you had.

Glad to hear you made the right decision though.

 

[Kuga]

Dude, face it - you needed a little bashing. That was a terrible idea you had.

Glad to hear you made the right decision though.

Yeah probably..

Anyways, I sent her this message on facebook a few min ago. Everything I wrote is true;

Please give us another chance. My life the past 3 weeks has been hell.

The other night I was thinking, I was thinking about how getting to know a person is like building a big puzzle. When you meet a person, you see the cover of the puzzle. You get an impression of how the pieces are supposed to fit. As you talk and get to know them, you get small pieces and start building the puzzle. Firstly I gotta say you were right. You were right in that we should have been friends first and then see what happens. I didn’t know much about you back then. As I got to know you, I got small pieces of the puzzle. Problem that came up with me is that I tried filling in the blanks with things that didn’t belong. My imagination went wild. Sure it’s been a year now, but the things that ****ed up what we had has not been resolved, and is in the process of being resolved. I'm busy working on these things. I am trying to fix the things that I think cause our breakup baby.

Well, the things that I had problems with. As the month passed, the answers came and I didn’t even need to ask you for it. <HER NAME>, truth is, I’ve never had such a long relationship before you. Guess you couldn’t call it a relationship because I didn’t fully trust you. I admit it. As the weeks went by, I saw my foolishness in my distrust in you. As I write this now, if we ever got back together, I would fully and utterly trust you. I would be more open to you. Honesty and truth from me would be yours.

My feelings for you haven’t changed at all. I’m still head over heels for you. Whenever we spend time together, I realize I can’t get enough of you. My heart is yours.. I know I may be jeopardizing our friendship, but I have to tell you these things. I’ve never been in this situation. I got over-excited when I met you. Let my emotions rule me instead of my head. I know I haven’t made right what wrong I did. Truth is I don’t know how.. If there’s a chance that your feelings for me are still there, a chance that you’ll forgive what I did. Allow me to correct these things, allow me to hopefully, be the man you want me to be. A chance for you to tell me how to make it right, a chance.. I hope we can start over. Wipe the slate clean. Forgive and forget. If however, you don’t see that happening. All I ask of you is to please tell me, so that I know where the line is.

You’re a great person, no, an incredible person. You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me. I hope that what I write made some sense to you. My mind is all over the place and yet focused on one thing, one person, you. You’re all I think about…

Baby I still love you, I always will. I've tried cutting you off but I just can't. It so hard to do this. I just can't get rid of you, I want you. I want all of you. I want all of your problems, your things that came up from the past. Everything. Baby I love you. And you know this.

No woman has ever captivated me and my heart like you have. You are the only one I want. You are the only one for me. You are the only one I need, you are my destiny. You’re an angel sent down from heaven to make me happy, until the end of days. You have shown me the meaning of true happiness and true love. I have never known love until I met you. Everything I told you is true. Everything I felt about you is true. You are the one person I would give everything up for. You gave me your love, and I was the happiest man alive.

You know me. You know that I would never intentionally do anything to hurt you. You are the last person on Gods’ green earth that I would want to hurt. I never meant to do this. All I’m asking is for a second chance. I know you made up your mind, but you’re worth asking at least one more time for one more chance. I make a vow, a promise to you. I need you so badly. Like a flower needs the sun to survive. Like a heart needs a beat to survive. Like I need you to survive.. I love you so deeply, I love you so much, I love the sound of your voice, and the way that we touch. I love your warm smile and your kind, thoughtful way, the joy that you bring to my life every day. I love you today as I have from the start, and I’ll love you forever with all of my heart. I will love you always.

 

[Smooth Criminal]

Oh no, you grovelled and inflated her ego!

Time to move on mate. It probably feels like crap but you'll get over it eventually From what I can tell it's more infatuation than love because one wouldn't contemplate doing the kinds of things you thought of to someone they loved. Chin up, let this one slide. There's more to your 20's than one girl.

Some advice for the next girl though - try not to come across as so 'needy', try and be more easy going.

 

[Kuga]

Oh no, you grovelled and inflated her ego!

Time to move on mate. It probably feels like crap but you'll get over it eventually From what I can tell it's more infatuation than love because one wouldn't contemplate doing the kinds of things you thought of to someone they loved. Chin up, let this one slide. There's more to your 20's than one girl.

Some advice for the next girl though - try not to come across as so 'needy', try and be more easy going.

That's just it.. After previous failed relationships, I've studied works from David DeAngelo. Everything was going fine. Basically this was my last attempt to try and salvage this (going against his teachings I know) If nothing comes from this, I will move on and continue DeAngelos' works. It does work very well.

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

That's just it.. After previous failed relationships, I've studied works from David DeAngelo. Everything was going fine. Basically this was my last attempt to try and salvage this (going against his teachings I know) If nothing comes from this, I will move on and continue DeAngelos' works. It does work very well.

And there is your problem. Those dating strategy guides are cool for hookups and short relationsjips but you can't build a longterm relationship on bulls##ting. For those you need to be yourself and if the two of you are compatible you'll stay together.

 

[Dolby]

Without reading the entire thread - what did she do?

Did she cheat, you found out - and you want her back?

 

[koeks]

had homemade vids of you and your ex? My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and I wanna post these vids on the net and send the links to all of her friends, mostly for revenge. Good or bad idea? Discuss

don't be a sad loser man...

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Without reading the entire thread - what did she do?

Did she cheat, you found out - and you want her back?

Nope, she dumped him.

 

[Kloofvreter]

It is guys like you that make females not want to take photo's and vids because they are scared idiots like yourself will put them on the net.

My fiancee has this fear, so right now it makes me so angry to see people even thinking about doing that!!!!!!!!!!

Spot on. It's extremely childish as well.

 

[Dolby]

I had a number of photo's and video's. Thought about keeping them for myself (since I found her physically attractive) but decided to delete everything I have.

I still mourn though.

 

[Dolby]

Well, I AM a borderline psychotic and a sociopath, with a hint of manic depressive thrown in the mix.

So you probably don't even love her ?

Profile of the Sociopath

Glibness and Superficial Charm


Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.


Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."


Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.


Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.


Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.


Incapacity for Love


Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.


Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.


Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.


Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.


Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.


Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.


Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.


Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily.

 

[koeks]

Jägermeiʃter can fix that!

ask Dolby.. he will tell you

 

[xrapidx]

I had a number of photo's and video's. Thought about keeping them for myself (since I found her physically attractive) but decided to delete everything I have.

I still mourn though.

Dumbass

 

[RazedInBlack]

WTF! Enough already!

The mere fact that the op is asking us what we would do in his situation is enough to convince me that he won't do it! Else he would have done it first, then post the link!

Just do whatever the fsck you want dude!

 

[Vinia]

Eeeew! Rick Solomon, stop. (breathes in deeply to avoid head asplode). Let me help you here.

1. Don't post those pics/vids.
2. Stop contacting her...she doesn't want to hear from you.
3. Its Friday. Get your boys, a digicam & go clubbing.
4. Take club pics with random chicks & post on facebook
5. Repeat every Friday & Saturday, collect numbers for weeknight dates
6. Move on & keep it moving.


I can guarantee you she is showing that letter to her friends & either wincing or lollling.
Please never write a letter like that after a break up. As a recipient of similar, I can confirm that we find them creepy, sad, kind of scary and as clear confirmation that we dodged a bullet by ending the relationship.

 

[Dolby]

5. Repeat every Friday & Saturday, collect numbers for weeknight dates
6. Move on & keep it moving.

Just like that, eh ?

I wonder I have haven't thought of that ...

 

[SlinkyMike]

Sorry... I just jumped from page 1 to page 5... has no one suggested the thread be closed / deleted yet?

It is really in very poor taste.

 

[Kuga]

Well, I checked my facebook and saw she replied. I'm contemplating whether or not I should post it as here as this thread is in "poor taste"

 

[xrapidx]

Well, I checked my facebook and saw she replied. I'm contemplating whether or not I should post it as here as this thread is in "poor taste"

What you wanted to do is in poor taste....