Why do people cheat?

ChocolateBadger said:
What if you are in a situation where you love someone so much...an ex partner for example...that you are not happy in your current relationship but know there's no alternative.
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So you really love someone else, but you're sticking with someone because of the fear that you wont find someone new?
 
Method said:
If you can't commit to someone and cheat, then you should to the right thing and break it off. Your partner deserves better.

If you care/cared about your partner, then don't cheat or break it off if it's not for you.

I would be devastated if my partner cheated on me. It would hurt less if he just broke broke things off so that we both can move on.
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both cheating and breaking it off hurt, because both imply that there is something wrong with the relationship. sometimes you question where would you be in life if you didn't make a commitment, if you weren't trapped by financial woes, that you didn't have kids, that a year later you actually MET somebody better than your current partner, etc. sometimes people end up breaking off with their partners to be with the people they cheat with anyway
 
Random Hero said:
Deceptive people are just cowards...
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You did not show your crazy chickie at the time the advice thread on mybb did you? You were concealing info about her, from her, and talking about her behind her back, correct? ;)

"But i didn't stick my dick in anyone!" :p
 
STS said:
You did not show your crazy chickie at the time the advice thread on mybb did you? You were concealing info about her, from her, and talking about her behind her back, correct? ;)

"But i didn't stick my dick in anyone!" :p
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Not about her.. it was about our situation... lol..

it was all anonymous;)..
 
People need excitement. I think it is just a matter of how mature that person is who cheats. They may be watching too much reality tv and if there is no drama in their life they will try and create some
 
I saw this on 9gag today... Its funny and kind of cringy.. (Funny because the dude pictured himself crying and the girl sitting there like a naked idiot) ...but the situation sucks.


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How many people criticising infidelity have been married to the same person for 10 years or more? How many have had kids and experienced how much strain that can put on a relationship?

My guess is that most of the holier than thou types are still relatively young.
 
Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
How many people criticising infidelity have been married to the same person for 10 years or more? How many have had kids and experienced how much strain that can put on a relationship?

My guess is that most of the holier than thou types are still relatively young.
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Shows you how much "through sickness and in health, to death do us part" means these days.

My grandparents were married to the same person for 60+ years. My parents are at 30. Both pairs had children, both had financial strain, both were/are married to the same person still, none ever cheated.

I dunno what your situation is but don't justify infedelity.
 
Hamster said:
Shows you how much "through sickness and in health, to death do us part" means these days.

My grandparents were married to the same person for 60+ years. My parents are at 30. Both pairs had children, both had financial strain, both were/are married to the same person still, none ever cheated.

I dunno what your situation is but don't justify infedelity.
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How do you know that they never cheated?
 
Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
How do you know that they never cheated?
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Because I know my parents. There is absolutely no way I can prove it to you and I shouldn't have to. If you cheat you are a terrible person and you shouldn't be married. Easy as that.
 
You could take it back further... Why should be humans be faithful when the main goal is solely to procreate? Early in history it was beneficial to stay with one partner and raise the offspring together because it increased the survival rate. In todays society that is not necessary, it's just the social norm.
 
Cam said:
You could take it back further... Why should be humans be faithful when the main goal is solely to procreate? Early in history it was beneficial to stay with one partner and raise the offspring together because it increased the survival rate. In todays society that is not necessary, it's just the social norm.
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...or because procreation is not our main goal but love and companionship is? I kinda like the idea of there being one person in this world I can share, experience and feel things with that nobody else will ever be part of.

But I suppose if both parties decide on an open relationship and it works for them it is their business and it cannot be faulted (except from a religious viewpoint).
 
Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
How many people criticising infidelity have been married to the same person for 10 years or more? How many have had kids and experienced how much strain that can put on a relationship?

My guess is that most of the holier than thou types are still relatively young.
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Me.
married over 20 overs.
2 kids
fostered several kids

Strain? Damn right there has been but you work it out, not go out and screw around.
 
Hamster said:
Shows you how much "through sickness and in health, to death do us part" means these days.

My grandparents were married to the same person for 60+ years. My parents are at 30. Both pairs had children, both had financial strain, both were/are married to the same person still, none ever cheated.

I dunno what your situation is but don't justify infedelity.
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How do you know, mate? The most you can honestly say is that no one got caught cheating.
 
Hamster said:
Because I know my parents. There is absolutely no way I can prove it to you and I shouldn't have to. If you cheat you are a terrible person and you shouldn't be married. Easy as that.
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Mate, honestly don't man to piss on your memories but, I found out my ex had cheated after I'd told her I was leaving. In retrospect I'm pretty sure she'd cheated a few times. Until she told me, the thought had honestly never crossed my mind ever. I trusted her 100% as a matter of course. If she hadn't told me I would never have guessed.
 
Nick333 said:
Mate, honestly don't man to piss on your memories but, I found out my ex had cheated after I'd told her I was leaving. In retrospect I'm pretty sure she'd cheated a few times. Until she told me, the thought had honestly never crossed my mind ever. I trusted her 100% as a matter of course. If she hadn't told me I would never have guessed.
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Don't for one moment think that I think it is a perfect world out there. All I know is that some people do find those they can trust. I've personally never met somebody like that.
 
STS said:
because sometimes you are trapped in circumstances that make it hard for you to leave your partner or you actually still have feelings for your partner, you simply get stuck in a rut. society gives you this idea that you can only be engaged in a relationship with "your one true love" disney edition partner and that you relationship should be constant butterflies and magical kisses.

if you have a commitment such as kids, you are now attached to more than just your partner(ie his family, own a house together, rely on him because of habit), cheating can seem like a better alternative than screwing all that up and leaving them to be adventurous.

sometimes cheating can start out innocently too

edit: or people are just douchebags smetimes
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And then you get caught and you destroy your family in the worst way possible anyway.
 
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