Why do people cheat?

Hamster said:
Shows you how much "through sickness and in health, to death do us part" means these days.

My grandparents were married to the same person for 60+ years. My parents are at 30. Both pairs had children, both had financial strain, both were/are married to the same person still, none ever cheated.

I dunno what your situation is but don't justify infedelity.
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I met ant_man at 15. Got married at 24. I thought we had the perfect life - everyone used to say what an awesome marriage and relationship we had. I always used to tell people that he would be the last man on this earth to cheat. Little did I know that 17 years into our marriage, I found out that he is gay and has never been faithful throughout our courtship and marriage.
Don't ever take anything for granted in life and please know that I am not implying that your parents have not got a wonderful marriage, etc, I'm just trying to make a point of how we can live with "blinkers" on.
 
Hamster said:
Shows you how much "through sickness and in health, to death do us part" means these days.

My grandparents were married to the same person for 60+ years. My parents are at 30. Both pairs had children, both had financial strain, both were/are married to the same person still, none ever cheated.

I dunno what your situation is but don't justify infedelity.
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Well I am glad someone else on this forum feels the same way I do. My parents have been married for 32 years now. my grand parents on both side were married to each other until death parted them.. Its amazing how these people are trying to justify infidelity, I'm starting to feel that people are really becoming sociopaths, probably due to the way life is changing from years ago... people do not believe in the sanctity of marriage.

Im hearing more and more about people who cheat, ruin relationships, marriages, people with kids devoicing.. Why? This really frightens me, because I do not want to go through that. I will stick with the person i chose and work out everything. I will never cheat but I cant control what my partner does. The only reason I would split is the betrayal and deception of the other person.

ShaunSA said:
Eish so many innocents in the world. It's no wonder people cheat.
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So you are a self proclaimed bad person? What's wrong with that? why do you need to damaged? why damage people?
 
ShaunSA said:
Nope. People are human. Putting grandma and grandpa on a pedestal and making claims on their behalf is plain foolishness.
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Somebody generalizing that everybody is bad because they couldn't keep it in your pants is just fscking sad. "Being human" is about being kind and taking responsibility as much to some as it is about being a badass and banging a random skirt to others.
 
ShaunSA said:
Nope.
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That's very definitive. :rolleyes:

The person I hang out the most with is a serial cheat. It doesn't make him the worst person in the world, even though he's starting to feel it (mostly because his previous relationship was manipulative as ****.)

This world is inhabited by ****s, but you still get loyal people that will never cheat. It's just a different mindset. A different way to seek drama; control; influence.
 
Hamster said:
Somebody generalizing that everybody is bad because they couldn't keep it in your pants is just fscking sad. "Being human" is about being kind and taking responsibility as much to some as it is about being a badass and banging a random skirt to others.
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You have issues. Don't make them mine ;)
 
Garson007 said:
That's very definitive. :rolleyes:

The person I hang out the most with is a serial cheat. It doesn't make him the worst person in the world, even though he's starting to feel it (mostly because his previous relationship was manipulative as ****.)

This world is inhabited by ****s, but you still get loyal people that will never cheat. It's just a different mindset. A different way to seek drama; control; influence.
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You sound exactly like someone who will be cheated on.
 
ShaunSA said:
You sound exactly like someone who will be cheated on.
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To get cheated on I first have to be in a relationship right? You can wait until 2050 if you like. :D

Yes, I realise that I'm the type who would get cheated on. As if I care. If the person spends time with me, then I'm a-okay.
 
That said, it is still possible to cheat in an open relationship if you are not honest about what you get up to.
 
Rouxenator said:
That said, it is still possible to cheat in an open relationship if you are not honest about what you get up to.
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Yup, an open relationship is not the solution for a cheat. It's not about getting some. It's about getting some without the other person knowing.
 
It depends on the terms and conditions of your relationship. Some partners want to know beforehand and will veto if they are not happy, others don't care if they don't know just as long as it does not encroach on their share of the relationship.
 
Rouxenator said:
It depends on the terms and conditions of your relationship. Some partners want to know beforehand and will veto if they are not happy, others don't care if they don't know just as long as it does not encroach on their share of the relationship.
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I'd mostly be curious to know how good the sex was.
 
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