Why is dating so shallow these days?

It does seem like people have serious commitment issues. I sortof blame the Hollywood culture that we pick up from TV.
 
maumau said:
More detail please :)


What are you looking for on a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is a churchgoing teetotaler who may have had one intimate partner and 5 is a drug or alcohol fuelled nymphomaniac?

Just so we know what page you're on?
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About a 7
 
f2wohf said:
Met mine on Tinder.

We chatted over a few months.

I flew her (and the dog) to JHB for a week end, she never left.
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That makes it sound like you flew her and her dog to JHB to get them away for you and they have stayed put.
 
Ancalagon said:
That makes it sound like you flew her and her dog to JHB to get them away for you and they have stayed put.
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The week end was supposed to meet. It just matched perfectly, I though she’d leave after the week end but decided to move her job and move in immediately (which was weird but retrospectively the good decision as I was flirting with other women at the time and probably wouldn’t have stopped).
 
maumau said:
What are you looking for on a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is a churchgoing teetotaler who may have had one intimate partner and 5 is a drug or alcohol fuelled nymphomaniac?
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Never knew there was a difference between the two... :whistle:
 
f2wohf said:
The week end was supposed to meet. It just matched perfectly, I though she’d leave after the week end but decided to move her job and move in immediately (which was weird but retrospectively the good decision as I was flirting with other women at the time and probably wouldn’t have stopped).
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Haha! Sucker! :crylaugh:

Jokes, good on you mate.
 
maumau said:
More detail please :)


What are you looking for on a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is a churchgoing teetotaler who may have had one intimate partner and 5 is a drug or alcohol fuelled nymphomaniac?

Just so we know what page you're on?
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An alcohol fuelled nymphomaniac sounds good on paper but after a while, it becomes tedious trying to explain how the fork got wedged in your thigh in the ER.
 
r4nd0m said:
I sometimes wonder if all the connectivity technology brings means that we assume partners and commitment are replaceable and it's okay to act your worst because all interactions are ephemeral.
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I think that this has/had the biggest effect on the current situation given that people have become more superficial in my opinion based on who and what to pick, based on looks and appearances.

I feel that the newer generation has a means connecting differently than those that came before this generation. It seems like adapt or die, or that you've grown up into wanting something more serious today than what you wanted in your twenties.
 
Just don't put pressure on yourself to meet people - I just roll with it.

You can meet the 'right' one or someone 'close to right' just about anywhere, hell, there has been some romance happen on my Discord server even.
 
CamiKaze said:
I feel that the newer generation has a means connecting differently than those that came before this generation. It seems like adapt or die, or that you've grown up into wanting something more serious today than what you wanted in your twenties.
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I wonder how the pace of life influences our thinking about something like relationships and other people. Receding into the past where life slows down tremendously, there's an almost implicit understanding that things take time to develop and be known - nothing is 'on demand'. It's as though we have a module in our brain that's unable to distinguish between the parts of life that require slow-time and those that can surrender to fast-time; the brain is immersed in a particular pace of life and perceives all domains as being suitable to function at that speed.

Media on demand.
Lights, heat, cold.
Instant messaging.
Click, steam, straight to your brain.
No waiting.

And then our brain takes the leap and expects relationships to also work at that speed, to be 'on demand', like the rest of reality.
Silly monkey brain.
 
2 reasons.
People socialize less. (Facebook, forums, tinder and twitter are not socializing).
Younger people care more about looks than people, point one exacerbates this.

You kids are shallow little porn star body hunting kids that don't give 2 hoots about the body that you are thrusting into or who is thrusting into you, as long as it looks good on your selfies, you don't give a crap.
 
maumau said:
More detail please :)


What are you looking for on a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is a churchgoing teetotaler who may have had one intimate partner and 5 is a drug or alcohol fuelled nymphomaniac?

Just so we know what page you're on?
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Much more importantly: on a scale from 1 - 10, exactly how unattractive are you?
 
LCBXX said:
Tinder.
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How does that help the OP?

Tinder is the very definition of shallow. If the person is not attractive or they have a boring/unflattering profile pic then it almost guaranteed that that they are a left swipe.
 
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