Women complaining about working late

[Replay]

This is something I never understood.

Guy says to his partner he must work late....partner makes an issue about it saying he's always working late or why must he work late...or how can he be such a douche for working late.

If his company/ boss/ project demands that he works late....is it his fault?

You see this argument between a couple all the time on the television in a series, movie or soap.

Never the other way around....men complaining to the women.

Does it happen with you as well?

 

[Deadmanza]

This is something I never understood.

Guy says to his partner he must work late....partner makes an issue about it saying he's always working late or why must he work late...or how can he be such a douche for working late.

If his company/ boss/ project demands that he works late....is it his fault?

You see this argument between a couple all the time on the television in a series, movie or soap.

Never the other way around....men complaining to the women.

Does it happen with you as well?

More often then not, and when its not work its dota

Never understood it either, might have to do with the stigma that when a guy "works late" he is probably shafting another woman...

 

[Chevron]

Quite simple really. What's the point of being in a relationship with someone that is never there?
You might as well live alone.
Guys do better with alone time so that's why you hardly see it the other way around.

 

[Replay]

Quite simple really. What's the point of being in a relationship with someone that is never there?
You might as well live alone.
Guys do better with alone time so that's why you hardly see it the other way around.

I get that....but women don't always grasp the meaning of "always"...that means, in this topic, "never" coming home on time....which is retarded. A person don't work late every single day.

Sometimes a guy will explain to his SO....Sweetness, we are currently working on a very important project for client so and so...it will require me to work late most of the time for the next 2 weeks so please bare with me...I will make it up to you.
Day 5: Wtf is going on???? Are you seeing someone else? Be honest?
Or...Geez how long is this going to continue? It's been 5 days in a row now ffs

 

[Merlin]

We know a chap who is now in his 60s. He's been working for the same firm, a large organisation, for pretty much his entire career.

He got married, at a young age, to a domineering woman. She did not take kindly to him working long hours. Not long after he had started with the firm, she arrived at the head office one day, unnannouced, and promptly marched her way into the MD's office, wherein she gave the surprised exec' what for, explaining in no uncertain terms that her husband had commitments and duties at home and that his work life ended at one point and his home life began at another.

As you may imagine, he's more of a drone than a man of character...

Many of his compatriots who have shared careers within the organisation for similar spans of time have climbed notably higher than he. He made his way into middle management, as most do, with seniority, but his career was forever stunted as a result of his wife's meddling, despite changes in senior management over the decades.

 

[envo]

I get that....but women don't always grasp the meaning of "always"...that means, in this topic, "never" coming home on time....which is retarded. A person don't work late every single day.

Sometimes a guy will explain to his SO....Sweetness, we are currently working on a very important project for client so and so...it will require me to work late most of the time for the next 2 weeks so please bare with me...I will make it up to you.
Day 5: Wtf is going on???? Are you seeing someone else? Be honest?
Or...Geez how long is this going to continue? It's been 5 days in a row now ffs

The issue here is they feel insecure. So maybe step up your game during the work-late phase and make her feel less insecure. a random message during the day telling her how you feel / that you're thinking about her. message her as soon as you leave work saying you can't wait to get back and pounce her bones. etc

 

[Singal]

If she doesn't nag,it means she's happy you're working late, which will then raise all kinds of other questions

 

[Electric]

If she doesn't nag,it means she's happy you're working late, which will then raise all kinds of other questions

Don't talk **** man.
My wife accepts that I have to work late on occasion and has no issue with it.
I went as far as arranging a design laptop from work so that I could do the work from home.
A little bit of give and take is what makes a relationship strong.

 

[F1ve_Claw]

I get that....but women don't always grasp the meaning of "always"...that means, in this topic, "never" coming home on time....which is retarded. A person don't work late every single day.

This topic of working late and complaining is a massive problem in my relationship. I work 2-3hours overtime EVERY SINGLE WEEKDAY for the past 9months, give or take a sick day or two

When she works extra late I don't complain just because I know how annoying it is. It's not like they doing it on purpose. Doubt there are people who sit there and want to work late :\

 

[Compton_effect]

I have always made it clear - overtime and weekends are the exception, not the norm.
I did my time as a junior running strange hours. And at this stage in my life - they know - unless we have to implement full DR protocols - don't phone me after hours. It can wait or they can read the documentation.

My SO quickly learnt that I work in a industry that does not really have normal hours. And after 14 years together have figured out it will not change. Else she should not have married me.

Don't get me wrong - I know how valuable those extra few hours can be - that is why I do it. But like I said - the exception, not the norm.

 

[Progenix Oj101]

My SO never hounds me, as we both work late more often than not. She actually gives me a hell of a lot of space.

 

[Insint]

I hope you guys get paid overtime for all this extra time at work. Just saying...

 

[GoofySmurf]

Quite simple really. What's the point of being in a relationship with someone that is never there?
You might as well live alone.
Guys do better with alone time so that's why you hardly see it the other way around.

So your definition of a relationship is how much time you spend together rofl ... Me and my better half hardly see each other during the week and not 1 of us complains because we know what work entails.

Any partner that complains that you work late have serious insecurities or just really naive on how the world works today.

Insecurities meaning she thinks you are having an affair.

 

[Batista]

I hope you guys get paid overtime for all this extra time at work. Just saying...

No one ever does, which is why i say screw working late.If you cant do your work during your alloted time then you are mismanaging your time.If you need to work late to please your bosses then THEY are mismanaging your workload.

 

[BobsLawnService]

I work 2-3hours overtime EVERY SINGLE WEEKDAY for the past 9months, give or take a sick day or two...

When she works extra late I don't complain just because I know how annoying it is.

Does she occasionally work over-time or does she work 2 or 3 hours extra every single day?

Also, while overtime is often a requirement, that level of over-time for that extended period of time is just messed up. Clearly your company needs competent managers because that should not be the norm.

 

[bwana]

My work almost always involves working late but it doesn't seem to bother the missus. The kids don't like it though - then again they don't equate my working to their riding lessons.

 

[AstroTurf]

I hope you guys get paid overtime for all this extra time at work. Just saying...

That is the problem my wife has with it..

 

[Electric]

My work almost always involves working late but it doesn't seem to bother the missus. The kids don't like it though - then again they don't equate my working to their riding lessons.

^this

My son wonders why I work late and then asks me for R5000 to go on hockey tour.

 

[Progenix Oj101]

Indirectly, yes. Refusing it can affect your performance review, I've had large increases (20% or more) every year since I've started putting in overtime.

 

[BobsLawnService]

My work almost always involves working late but it doesn't seem to bother the missus. The kids don't like it though - then again they don't equate my working to their riding lessons.

I decided when I had my kid that spending time with him is a priority.

Buying kids stuff is cool but there is just so much value to spending time with them. Whether it's Playing cricket in the back yard or Skylanders together on the PS3 you can see how much he appreciates spending the time together.

My philosophy is that I'll work my full 9 hours at work. While my co-workers are reading 9Gag or Facebook or talking rubbish amongst themselves I am working. If I'm not meeting a goal because I run into a problem I battle to solve I'll work through lunch.

I'm a hell of a lot more productive than them even though they like to show off to the boss how much overtime they do. (I'm the only old dude with a kid. The rest are the type of manchildren who live at home with their mommies at age 35 or youngsters with nowhere better to be.)