How much time do you spend with your SO?

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Do you spend as much time as possible with the person if you are not living together or do you still do your own things and occassionally see him/her?

I feel like i'm the guy in the relationship. I like doing my own thing and dont need to see him 24/7 but he gets sulky when I have other things i want to do! Is this normal? Or am i just too independent?
 
_Hecate_ said:
Do you spend as much time as possible with the person if you are not living together or do you still do your own things and occassionally see him/her?

I feel like i'm the guy in the relationship. I like doing my own thing and dont need to see him 24/7 but he gets sulky when I have other things i want to do! Is this normal? Or am i just too independent?
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He's being clingy. How old is he? His first real adult relationship?
 
Blutics need to be renamed _hecate_tics...
Anyway, tell DrewChan to get a hobby? Thought his studies would be keeping him busy.
 
_Hecate_ said:
Do you spend as much time as possible with the person if you are not living together or do you still do your own things and occassionally see him/her?

I feel like i'm the guy in the relationship. I like doing my own thing and dont need to see him 24/7 but he gets sulky when I have other things i want to do! Is this normal? Or am i just too independent?
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Sounds like you're bored with him and just using him coz you have no else.

Rather don't waste his time.
 
yeah drew isnt ...

i used to have my own time during the week and weekends its SO time

i used to have the odd time with SO during the week
 
Hang out most of the time, we do. Except when we have other things to do, which are solo acts:
* Taking her mother shopping
* Seeing to my daughter's needs
* When I booze with my buddies
* Rugby (me)
* Hair care of any sort (both of us)
* Other random things
 
GreGorGy said:
Hang out most of the time, we do. Except when we have other things to do, which are solo acts:
* Taking her mother shopping
* Seeing to my daughter's needs
* When I booze with my buddies
* Rugby (me)
* Hair care of any sort (both of us)
* Other random things
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Do you sit at home brushing and braiding each other's hair?
 
Ideally you need someone that's requires the same amount of "us" time then you. If one is indepenent and the other dependent it's not going to work out. One will feel smothered while the other will feel neglected.

I know people who are constantly together and it works, while other people do there own thing and it works as well. As long as the needs of both parties are close.

It will never be 100% in balance so thats when one person would need to make a little effort for more "us" time while the other should give the partner a little more "me" time to close the gap.
 
bwana said:
Do you sit at home brushing and braiding each other's hair?
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I TOLD YOU THAT IN CONFIDENCE!!! :D

Hahaha - I forget that people know what I look like (and her, for that matter). No, I don't braid hair but she did plait mine last week before I went for my cut (it got a little out of hand).
 
GreGorGy said:
Hang out most of the time, we do. Except when we have other things to do, which are solo acts:
* Taking her mother shopping
* Seeing to my daughter's needs
* When I booze with my buddies
* Rugby (me)
* Hair care of any sort (both of us)
* Other random things
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Wow, you take the mother in law shopping. Respect man, respect. :D
 
RexxGrim said:
Ideally you need someone that's requires the same amount of "us" time then you. If one is indepenent and the other dependent it's not going to work out. One will feel smothered while the other will feel neglected.

I know people who are constantly together and it works, while other people do there own thing and it works as well. As long as the needs of both parties are close.

It will never be 100% in balance so thats when one person would need to make a little effort for more "us" time while the other should give the partner a little more "me" time to close the gap.
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Thanks, this makes sense. Both of us will need to compromise.
 
RexxGrim said:
Ideally you need someone that's requires the same amount of "us" time then you. If one is indepenent and the other dependent it's not going to work out. One will feel smothered while the other will feel neglected.
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Tell me about it. Previous relationships have failed because they couldn't understand my need to go boozing and to loiter at Loftus. Now, we're on the same page. She calls "where you?" "Pub with Xyz" I answer. "OK, cool, enjoy, see you later masturbater".

What a pleasure.
 
We have "date" nights on Tuesdays and she usually spends the night. I have dinner with her and her family on Sundays. Other than that it's fairly random - it's rarely just the twice a week, but not often more than 3 or 4 times a week that we spend time together.

She often takes work home, I go mad if I don't get time to read or game, she likes doing things with her family, I like hanging out with friends at least once a week. It mostly works...
 
Honestly, we spend every moment that we can spend in each other's company. Not saying it's normal or abnormal, it's just how we are. Even if I'm doing a solo thing like playing on the PC she'll be in the background on the iPad or looking after the baby or something.
 
As much time as possible, but we are also in our first year of marriage :D

But if she wants to do her own thing I also don't mind, especially when it comes to clothes shopping with her mother.


Actually any shopping with her mother :p :D
 
Icarium said:
We have "date" nights on Tuesdays and she usually spends the night. I have dinner with her and her family on Sundays. Other than that it's fairly random - it's rarely just the twice a week, but not often more than 3 or 4 times a week that we spend time together.

She often takes work home, I go mad if I don't get time to read or game, she likes doing things with her family, I like hanging out with friends at least once a week. It mostly works...
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This to me sounds normal. I get worried when he doesnt have his own things he wants to do.
 
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