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ok lets say your good buddies with a guy and havea good group of guy friends

so one night u go out on a jol with a friend who takes you to what you think is a strip club until you realize its actually a whore house asian style

your both wasted on pills he asks you not to say anything u agree, you go with him to buy condoms and what not

now my fiancee is like best friends with his g/f

so i told my fiancee about this and she told his g/f

now this oke is mad with me because i told everyone that he screwed a whore

my thinking is this, if i left it and my fiancee found out 3 months later would she believe i never screwed a whore

what would you guys have done?

i feel bad about saying i would not say anything and then i said something but at the same time i dont think its right to cheat on your g/f with a possibly aids infected whore

anyways his g/f does not believe me and thinks im talking crap because he told her he went for a massage

now my friend has not come to me and said im sorry for putting you in that position, he is just mad because i told my fiancee who told his g/f

do you think i broke some sort of man code? i dont mind lying about going to strips clubs and getting a lap dance and what not but i cannot look at his g/f knowing my buddie (ex buddie) screwed a whore

now its seems alot of my other guy friends are not happy about me saying something
 
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I'd blame your fiancee for saying something :/

You're supposed to be able to tell anything to your partner and not even think twice it's go much further.
 
no but i wanted it to come out thats why i told her

my question is am i in wrong for telling ppl what he has done?

as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
 
killadoob said:
as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
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Yea ... I can't even put myself in that situation because my friends would never do that to their girlfriends. As said above, you need better quality friends.
 
killadoob said:
no but i wanted it to come out thats why i told her

my question is am i in wrong for telling ppl what he has done?

as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
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Assuming you are better friends with the dude than his gf then why would you want it to come out?
 
killadoob said:
as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
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As a friend you should tell you mate that you feel what he is doing is wrong.

Further then that you crossing a line that guys should not cross. What he does at the end of the day is his business, all you can do is let him know how you feel about the situation.
 
catweasel said:
As a friend you should tell you mate that you feel what he is doing is wrong.

Further then that you crossing a line that guys should not cross. What he does at the end of the day is his business, all you can do is let him know how you feel about the situation.
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Crap. One lives by one's own moral code - not by some fictitious "guy code".
If my friends behaved like that I would kick them to the curb lickity-split.
 
Nick333 said:
Assuming you are better friends with the dude than his gf then why would you want it to come out?
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because i think its wrong and my fincee is like best friends with his g/f

i just think with all these diseases around that doing this is not something that should kept secret

so you guys think i broke a cardinal male rule?

what he does is his business but not when he takes me with him and asks me to keep quite about it
 
killadoob said:
because i think its wrong and my fincee is like best friends with his g/f

i just think with all these diseases around that doing this is not something that should kept secret

so you guys think i broke a cardinal male rule?

what he does is his business but not when he takes me with him and asks me to keep quite about it
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Nah not really. You have a good point that he shouldn't be putting his gf at risk. I hate being asked to keep peoples dirty secrets myself.

Tell me though did you tell your gf about it knowing should would tell his gf or did you tell her to tell his gf?
 
Moederloos said:
You need better quality friends.
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So do you get a bullet for giving advice on here too?

/Puts 2c in

Anyway....you should have told your buddy that it is focked up right there and then, but as you said you were wasted on pills so that is something different .

He should not be screwing hookers in any case.
Also your gf should have kept the secret.
And if your "friends" cant forgive ou then get new friends.
 
Moederloos said:
Crap. One lives by one's own moral code - not by some fictitious "guy code".
If my friends behaved like that I would kick them to the curb lickity-split.
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Sure.

All i am saying is that deal with the oke they way you please, but you don't have to go tell his gf/ wife what he has been getting up to. Thats for him to sort out with his wife/gf
 
catweasel said:
Sure.

All i am saying is that deal with the oke they way you please, but you don't have to go tell his gf/ wife what he has been getting up to. Thats for him to sort out with his wife/gf
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Depends - probably not. But - killa did not do that - he told his own GF who told his friends GF.
 
Whether you think what he did was wrong or not, you shouldn't have told your girlfriend about it. What he does is his business and he asked you not to say anything to which you agreed. You then went and told someone. That is unacceptable in my opinion. This guy is your friend! I've heard of a lot worse things than sleeping with a whore. It's not really a 'man code' it's just a basic principle of keeping your word to someone.
 
Moederloos said:
You need better quality friends.
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Both guys were on pills. One guy slept with a hooker in addition. Quality if friends hardly comes into play when both were on drugs to start of with, bit like the pot calling the kettle black no?
 
Moederloos said:
Depends - probably not. But - killa did not do that - he told his own GF who told his friends GF.
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Killa told his ow gf because he knew she would tell his friends gf, in essence he could have gone direct to the gf.

killadoob said:
no but i wanted it to come out thats why i told her

my question is am i in wrong for telling ppl what he has done?

as a friend should i let my friends screw hookers while their g/f's dont know anything about it?
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Velenoso said:
Whether you think what he did was wrong or not, you shouldn't have told your girlfriend about it. What he does is his business and he asked you not to say anything to which you agreed. You then went and told someone. That is unacceptable in my opinion. This guy is your friend! I've heard of a lot worse things than sleeping with a whore. It's not really a 'man code' it's just a basic principle of keeping your word to someone.
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I'm sorry I think honesty with your significant other trumps all. The bro's before ho's nonsense is infantile.
 
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